Behavior and Consequences - 10 Month Old - Book Recommendation

Updated on July 06, 2009
V.N. asks from Plainfield, IL
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Hello,

I have a sweet and curious baby boy. I am often at a loss at what to do in many situations. For example: during diaper changing fits of not staying still (I did read a nice post last week on this), throwing fits before bed as he does not want to go, rough handling of pets, etc.

I guess I don't know how much I should expect from him and what is appropriate. Currently I redirect him to a new activity if it is something I don't feel is safe for him.

I need a guide as to what to expect and how to appropriately handle situations. Any book recommendations? I have heart of Magic 1-2-3 but is he too young for this?
Thanks for your help,
V.

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Thank you so much for your wonderful advice. It helps to know how to handle situations. 95% of the time he is just perfect (in my eyes) but I do not want him to be ill mannered. I will start reading for the future!

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M.K.

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10 months old is still very young. Your tools for managing his behavior right now are redirection and distraction. A child does not gain a real understanding of "cause and effect" until they are 2 years old. I'm a fan of "1-2-3 Magic," but that is for a child 3 years and older.

This does not mean that you allow him to do whatever he wants. But between now and when he turns 2, he will learn what "no" means. He will learn what your facial expressions mean (approval, disapproval, happy, sad, upset, etc.) and this will impact his behavior. On those occasions when he cries because he cannot have what he wants, you redirect his attention to a toy or activity.

I found the following book very helpful when my first child was young like yours: "Discipline: The Brazelton Way" by T. Berry Brazelton, MD.

Good luck!

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J.V.

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I think he's much too young for any of that stuff.....The best you can do is make clear to him what is expected and redirect.

So, for the diaper change, keep rolling him back over and saying, "please X, I need you to lay down so I can change your diaper." You may have to do this 6 or 10 times, but he will stop rolling over and let you change his diaper. This is the best way to do it, as it will teach him what is expected during diaper changes.

As to the dog or other animals, make the rule that he cannot go near an animal without you right there, nor touch one, without your hand on his. Then, show him how to touch an animal, telling him to be "gentle."

Fighting bed: stick to your routine and it will pass.

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J.W.

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I really like the book, Happiest Toddler on the Block ages 1-4, since he is close to one, start reading it. I refer back to often when needed, but it is a fun and easy to understand read.

Good Luck,
J. W. MPH
Chicago Examiner Family Health Expert
http://www.examiner.com/x-7158-Chicago-Family-Health-Exam...

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E.R.

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He's too young for really any kind of discipline at this age. But you can start reading now. I like Dr. Sear's The Discipline Book.

As far as the diaper change business, you can try to distract or redirect but that's about it. He's way to young for any structured discipline now.

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M.H.

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My son is the same age.

Diaper changes I tell him No when he tries to flip. And recetnly we found a book that will occupuy him while we change him.

Animals. Since my son was young we took his and and said gentle as we pet the kitty.

I am very luck that we do not have the bed time issue. but rembmer this .. any reaction to thier action sets a presidence. So if you put him to bed and then come in there becuse of a "certain" action, you are teaching him that when he has that action you will come in.

My son knows the word No and he does not like it, but when he cries because I have told him no, I do not pay atten, I wait a few minutes and then divert his atten. I do not want him to think that because I said no, and he cried that I am going to cuddle him. He has to lear no and move on.

Good luck.

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