Will I EVER Have Baby #2? - Parker,CO

That's so frustrating. We had a similar problem. It took us 2 years to get pregnant the 2nd time around (I was 38). I also had two miscarriages. It finally happened - we had sex at a time that I thought was way to early in the month to get pregnant. I thought that was interesting bc I thought I knew my body pretty well. Good luck.

I had two stillbirths between our third child and our youngest. There are six years between them. I was 34 with the third and 41 with our youngest. To be honest, I placed it all in God's hands and told him I would do what ever it was he wanted me to do.

On thing I would have your doctor check is progesterone levels. After 35 it can drop and cause miscarriage.

I know with our youngest God stepped in and put the right people in our lives to help her survive. I will sure pray all goes well.

Go to your OB. I had low progesterone levels. I did have my 3 in the end although I was happy after no 2 , my 3rd ending up being a surprise at age 43yr! My 1st at age 34 then 39 1/2. Similar history to you 3 miscarriages between 1st and 2nd. Don't let it go any longer before you go to your Dr.
Good luck and hang in there, it is a tough and emotional roller coaster!

Similar experience here with Baby #1 (and only!) Talk to your OB about your "pattern" of m/c's. Discuss progesterone suppositories. I can tell you this...you will or will not have baby #2 (and passibly #3) in God's perfect time, not yours. Few are the people who can "plan" these things down to the minute--or month--or year. Hang in there and try to enjoy the "trying"!

There are 4 years between our older daughter and our twins, who are now quickly approaching 6 yrs old. Hubby and I have been ttc for our 3rd full-term ever since the twins were approx. 18 months, but so far it's been nothing but heartache and frustration, resulting in several conceptions, but all have resulted in m/c. I have placed it all in God's hands now whether we do or don't have anymore.

I had my first daughter right out of the gate. Married in April delivered her in March. Long story short. Could not get pregnant again (was also 35). Had 1 m/c. Ended up having IVF to conceive my second daughter. She looks like her sister and they both have daddy's red hair! People ask if they are twins even though they are 3 years apart! Like i said, long story short...I needed help to have my second but couldn't be happier that I did! Might be worth going to be tested to see why you can't get pregnant??

Same thing happened to us- we had our first, then started trying for #2, had 2 m/c's and in the process I made a bunch of dietary changes- I had started juicing(GREAT Source of folic acid and other vitamins) and cut coffee out of my diet. Well we've been very sloppy since then- had a second and are now pregnant with number 3- completely without trying! AND yes, I did feel like you feel right now! Obviously I can't promise the same results but there is hope.

I say stop every thing and take a break. Sometimes we get worked up or worried about things and our bodies react. Just take 6 months or so to breathe, enjoy your daughter and husband and try again later. I had my first son at 30, didn't get my second son until 36 (had some m/c's in the process) and then had my daughter at 38, thought we were done and now have #4 on the way (surprise all the way, my 40th b-day present). So you see, all will come when it is supposed to. Don't sweat it, just relax and let your body do what it does. It will happen.

Good luck!

I didn't manage to get pregnant for the first time until I was 36, and then had 2 miscarriages before the first success. We now have 2 beautiful girls. You still have time! You have one already which means you're not infertile... Keep your hopes up, keep yourself in shape to the extent you can with a little one, and find friends / family that you can talk to about your grief and frustration with the m/cs.

Good luck!

I hope this helps: if you haven't already, have your doctor run some blood tests to check your hormone levels during your cycle. I don't remember what the hormone is called, but many women miscarry because one of the pregnancy hormones drops too much in early pregnancy. I read about this in the book called "Taking Charge of Your Fertility." Google the name of this book and there is an AWESOME interactive website that helps you track your fertility. Anyway, I have a friend who miscarried 5 times. Her Dr. somehow didn't think to run this hormone test. She switched Drs., and he did run the test. Turns out she was one of the ones who just needed a boost of this hormone during her pregnancy. When she next conceived, they kept her on a treatment that helped her carry the baby and voila, she had a baby boy.

I'm sorry I don't know all the technical jargon here, but check out this book/ website and it will fill you in.

Good luck!
J.

You should really see a fertility specialist. Even if you are able to get pregnant on your own, they can work with you to determine why you aren't able to stay pregnant, and may be able to help. I'm sorry you have had so much trouble and loss this last year and a half. Good luck on #2 and 3

Hi,
We were in a similar situation was well...easy with the first and and over two years for the second. I did the whole work up at the doctors, many months of clomid, and even the tube dye test. Results were all inconclusive. SO SO stressful. This also put a strain on my marriage as I took my frustrations out on my husband. It was so hard to see everyone getting pregnant. I stopped short of seeing a specialist because I did not think I could handle anymore disappointment and felt that was the end of the road. Pregnancy and even babies became a negative thing for me as I worked on 'getting over' wanting another child. I felt extreme guilt for my son that he would be an only child. Anyway, I gave up and sold myself on the fact that my life was as it was supposed to be and that was fine. I even began to avoid getting pregnant w timing....what happened? Of course I got pregnant and was in such shock that it took months for me to accept it and now work my way out of the negative tizzy that I had put myself in. I am due in 8 weeks and I am still not sure I have totally grasped it. Infertility is really a mind bending experience.
Best of luck! Try the testing if you have not already yet for me since the results were negative I think i had stressed myself out more than I even realized.

I understand. We had the same problem having our first and then having our 2nd. We had 2 MC and then our first and then 2 more between him and our second. It took us 18 months to convince our first and and it took then again with our 2nd. I gave up. It became obvious to me that if I were to have more, they wouldn't be "mine". I gave away all of our baby stuff. We stopped trying what was the point? 3 months later we were pregnant with twins. For us the problem came down to a hormone imbalance. I did not create enough progesterone to maintain a pregnancy for the first 10 weeks when the placenta takes over hormone production. Google luteal phase defect. My oldest was 3 when we had our second, his twin didn't make it. Between our 2nd and our 3rd (birth to birth) their is only 14 months and then between our last 2 their is 25. So it is possible. Good luck don't loose heart.

go see a reproductive endocrinologist asap. good luck, you're 2 m/cs could just be "bad luck", but it could be something that is easily fixed with daily heparin(lovenox) injections or taking a baby aspirin or using a daily vaginal progesterone suppository in the first trimester. go get checked out and i wish you the best of luck!

I had #1 w/ no difficulties at 32, then couldn't conceive #2. Finally did fertility (ovarian stimulation). Three cycles of hormones. The first two were miscarriages. The 3rd was the charm. Two years later, I bought all the meds to try again, w/ my year end HSA balance. Two months later we conceived on our own! Three beautiful kids. So I hope your story is also a great success.

1. go see a specialist. A lot of infertility is of undetermined cause, and s/he will help you not waste time.
2. Hang in there. I found it hard to be waiting for #2, b/c my life was organized around my family. Was working, but not pursuing the fast track. Had all the nursery rhymes memorized, child care/school in place, gear, etc. Couldn't dine out every night w/ hubs and live the childless life to console me. Not saying it is not devastating to not have #1 as I have never been there. But its harder than you think waiting for #2. It was so hard when all my daughters friends moms were having their second child, and then getting pregnant with #3, and me still waiting! My daughter was a constant reminder of how much time was passing. Sending you encouragement and hugs.