Cry Cry Baby

aww! I know it can be touch. When my baby girl was 6m old she never had a problem with wanting one parent over the other, she always wanted me. However, there were many times, especially at night when she would just cry and cry. I sang many songs to her but found that one certain song seemed to calm her down. Another thing that helped would be putting her in the bouncer and getting her attention on the lights and sounds, after several minutes it seemed to help. It got to me pretty bad when she was cry though, I just wanted to fix whatever was wrong and sometimes that just isn't possible.

babies are quick learners. And I rember as a mew mom experiencing all of the new found unconditional love associated with parenthood we feel the need to take care of their every little wimper. As a mom i feel it is much harder for us to overcome the feeling that we mite not be doing our job if our child is crying. Maybe you should try sitting her in the higher chair close by with plenty of her favorite toys, so she can begin to learn to play. You may have to start with 5 or 10 min & playing with her while in the chair but the more often you do this i think she will learn. Always reassure her that you are right there& if need to walk away for a sec tell her you are coming back. Or make a game out of it, while in her hi chair hide behind the wall & play peek a boo with her then she will begin to understand that you are still there...... just an idea

My daughter was the same way. It is ok to let them cry. The general rule is one minute for every year old they are, which I did not learn until later. I used to let her cry for 5-10 mins, go check on her and make sure was ok, and if she was still crying, let her cry it out a couple of more minutes. A few times doing this, and she stopped. She is now 13mos old and when she throws a tantrum, she gets a 5 minute cool down in her room and now when I go in to get her, she is all smiles. I do the same thing w/her older brother, It does work. I know it is hard, so if you have to, go outside for a minute to gather yourself, then go back in. That is what I used to do. I hope this helps. Good luck.

Hi S.,

I would not let her cry. Every baby is different and some just cry more and need to be held more. I think 6 months is still young enough for her to be establishing trust and knowing you are going to come for her. I have twins and both liked to be held, but eventually they realized I was not going anywhere and would play independently. I truly believe that happened because they trusted me. When they would wake up in the middle of the night, they never cried just let me know they were awake. They can learn to feel insecure too...

Everyone says let them cry. I never agreed with it - maybe it is inconvenient for us sometimes, but they are the babies and they do need to be held and secure feeling. It will be better in the end, I promise! And, that age goes by fast! It really does. Hang in there. Trust your gut!! Really, do trust it. That is what I had to learn. God does give you that instinct to take care and know what to do.

S.

I disagree with the letting her cry it out will not hurt her. It will hurt her, it shows a child that when they need you you will not be there. Try investing in a baby sling or wrap and wear your baby. You will still be able to get things done and you baby will feel secure in knowing that her needs are taking care of. She is either hungry, tired, needing to be changed or just wants some compaionship. Your child grows inside your body for 9 months and then when they are born they are expected to grow up and know that they can't get want they want every time they cry. What is that all about. At that age the biggest form of commucation is crying, unless a baby knows sign lanuage they have no other way to tell you how they feel or what they what. You have to listen. Childern grow up before you know it. My little girl will be five next month and I can hardly believe it. Cherish the time you have with you baby now because soon there will be a time where she does not want to be held. Don't make her feel insecure just because some say that letting her cry it out is the best. The best is letting her know that you will always be there for her and to me that is not spoiling a child.

I have a 6 month old little girl that is the exact same way. We have to hold her while she naps and everything. If you would like, e-mail me at ____@____.com. I would love to share ideas or AT LEAST we can complain to someone who understands!

My name is A., I'm 22 years old, and I have two little boys that are like night and day. My three year old is independant but my 7 month old cries for me all the time. My granny says its the worst she's ever seen. Do not worry about it, it is sometimes caused from a traumatic event that occured soon after they were born ... it is a phase and it will pass, there's nothing really that you can do except for to keep telling them you are there if they need you.

My daughter was the exact same way when she was young. The only place that we could put her down was her swing which we hated doing for long period but that was the only thing we could do. I think finally she just grew out of it, but she was an early crawler and wanted her independence. To be honest, I could not stand to let mine cry so it was rare that I did it. Have you tried a baby carrier or sling?

When I had my first child I felt the same way. I was told by several people that you should let her cry, but you should go in after a few minutes to let her know that you haven't left her. Don't pick her up, just reassure her you are there. Leave for 3 or 4 minutes longer than the last time. If she is still crying go back and do the same thing. You keep this up until she realizes that you aren't leaving her and you will be back. It may take a while, don't continue this for more than 30 minutes, but she will learn that she cannot be held all the time. Give her toys or play some music so she won't feel all alone. I guarantee you that this works. Like I said before, it will take a while, but she will learn and understand. It will be hard and you may cry the first couple of time, but it will work out in the end.

Some people think that you should not let the baby cry. These folks are called attachment parenting. They recommend that you buy the baby a sling and carrie her around on your hip.

My daughter used to cry cuz she wanted me all the time too. It won't hurt her to cry. I would just put my daughter down when i needed to get something done, I would play with her for a second while she was down, then i would do what I needed to do. I think the first time she cried for like 30 minutes, but eventually she didn't cry anymore. They cry because they know they have "us" trained LOL. They know if they cry long enough that we will come back for them:-)
GOod luck with everything. If you need to put on earphones and listen to music while she's crying, go ahead:-) As I told another lady, my pediatrician told me "crying doesnt hurt anyone but us" LOL

S.,
Hi I have three girls,11,5,and 2 years old. I had a hard time with my five year old. What I was told to do is make sure she is not wet, hungry or anything and leave the room even if you have to walk out side. Let them cry for ten minutes and then go back in and let them know that they are okay and keep doing this and they will learn to calm there self down. I know it is hard, the first time I did it I cried but it really works.
E.

As much as it hurts. You need to let her cry. Seriously. You are teaching her that it is ok to be independent. A very valuable thing. Granted you aren't leaving her alone for a long period of time. But you have to start building that independence slowly. So that eventually when you need to leave her with a sitter and take a break or a date with the hubby/boyfriend.. you can. And you need that.

It is as much for her benefit as it is yours. Build up your nerves and your resolve. Even if it is to put her down long enough to rotate laundry. Build it up one occurrence at a time.