3Rd Baby - Simpsonville,SC

Worrying about finaces is just an excuse. I have seen families with big paychecks and no "money" and no time and no love and I have seen families with really no money but with time and love for each other, those kids are always happier.
Keep talking about it. Let him know how you feel and take into consideration how he feels. Do you have friends with three or more kids? Does he? Is he a "baby man"?
WE stopped at three and the week before he deployed I got pregnant with number 4. My husband loves our little guy with all his heart and has had a hard time with the latest separations.

This is a tough thing. You don't say what kind of relationship you and your husband have. But this isn't something you can do without his help and if you get pregnant and he's not for it, this could be very damaging to your marriage. You have to talk this out and work together on this one. You also need to think about why you want more kids. Is there some other reason, or you just like having them? Was this something you and your husband talked about before you had kids? Can you really afford more, with the economy like it is, what if you get laid off.....be sure to look at all sides of this. Good Luck.

I personally think you should stop at 2. Finances don't "just work themselves out". Also, your husband needs to be completely on board -especially since you're both working and you need his help. I really think folks should use more practical thinking and reasoning when deciding to have children instead of just going on how they feel. You also have to consider -what if your 3rd child has special needs? You will definitely NOT be able to devote as much time and attention to the first two with any baby -especially if that baby has extra issues. Back to financial things -here are a few to consider:

*Extra childcare. Not sure of your situation now, but it's SO expensive. f you make a LOT of money, the maybe 3 in childcare wouldn't be a big deal, but for a lot of people, 3 in childcare could take most of a salary.
*Do you want to help your kids out with college or technical school?
*An added mouth is an added mouth -higher grocery and supply bills and if you have a boy -a whole new wardrobe and toys.
*Do you like to vacation and take your kids on vacation? 3 kids don't fit nearly as well as 2 and it's an extra bed, plane ticket, etc.
*Extra braces, extracurricular fees, etc.

Maybe, depending on your age, you should wait until both girls are in school and revisit the idea with your husband.

Finances are always a concern but.... if we waited until we could afford to have kids.... how many of us would have ever had one?
My husband was done at 2 also and we have 3 (which was completely in Gods hands) and can't imagine life without her. I am content with 3 but not ready to say I'm done having kids so I know how you feel on this. When we got married I wanted 5... still kinda do but would settle for one more (maybe?)... But my MIL has 7 plus 3 step kids that were raised with my husband he is one of 10... the youngest being only 4 years older than my youngest. He is afraid I will turn into his mother and keep saying "What is one more kid?" she still would if her body hadn't decided for her that she is done!
Good luck, give it time :)

A man takes providing for a family VERY seriously. It can weigh very heavy on him and can get quite stressfull. You say you work and don't have much time, what do you think adding the third child will do? Take your two blessings for now and treasure the times you have. Put the time and energy towards the two and wait to revisit the issue down the road.

Here's the best counsel I've ever heard on this topic:

Don't have another child if it will negatively affect the attention, care, time, and physical resources available to your two existing children, who are here at your bidding, after all. In your case, it will serve your marriage to also take your husband's financial anxieties into account. His needs MUST be part of any good decision. These are unsettled times, and his concerns are probably legitimate. And this is a conversation you could have in another year, or two, or four.

I'm guessing that you'd most like to hear from moms who agree with your desires. But I hope you're also seeking a diversity of opinions that will help you make the best possible decision. So here's mine:

Longing for pregnancy and/or babies is a much-too-narrow reason to bring more kids into the world. Hoping that things will take care of themselves can happen, but often doesn't. And at 62 years old, I am watching shocking changes in our environment, and can see staggering challenges mounting almost by the year. I think it's acceptable to replace ourselves with one child each, but beyond that, we could be fulfilling our desires now at great cost to future generations.

There are useful ways to redirect that longing into helping children who need help now. I've known families who found adoption to be a delightful and satisfying alternative. I hope you'll at least consider other possibilities.

I was once in your shoes. My husband and I had two boys, and I really wanted a daughter, but would be fine with a houseful of boys. I always knew I wanted more than two (he only wanted 2) After much discussion we decided to have another, our daughter, and then 3 years later we had our son. So yes we have 4 kids, I work full time, and it gets really crazy. My husband once told me lot long ago, that he would have been happy with just the two, but is so glad that we now have our 4. My suggestion would be keep talking about it.

I have LOVED each of my pregnancies and deliveries, so I know where you are coming from. We actually have 3, and I am not sure I want to be done, but not sure if I could handle 4. My husband on the other hand wants to be done. He's not the baby type of guy, so the early years are rough for him. And being a guy, the financials are a big issue. I do agree with Margie though, financials are "mostly" just an excuse. Most of us can cut back quite a bit and be just fine. We are all extremely spoiled, which makes more kids difficult. Anyway, I have realized that although I may want another, if he doesn't then we can't do that. This is a partnership. Having a child is a HUGE thing, and we both have to be on board. I don't want to raise this child on my own because my husband doesn't have it in him. I need to respect his limitations, as I would hope he would respect mine were the roles reversed. So as much as it's not what possibly either of us are looking for, it's what you need to do to make relationships work. We all want respect and understanding. Talk about it, and really listen to his reasons. Maybe it's time to stop, or just wait a little longer to see if he changes his mind. All our baby stuff is still in the basement. ;)