Trying to Get the Baby to Sleep in the Crib

I would suggest just doing it. You have another baby coming and she/he will need to feed. You will have a bed full and no sleep if you keep both in there. It will be a tough few nights but in the long run you will both be better off. I know husband wants her there but he needs to understand that she will be less clingy later if she is forced to sleep alone. My little girl has been sleeping through the night since she was 3 weeks old (aside from feedings) by herself in her crib. We just put her there and let her cry. It doesn't take long (maybe longer for you since she has been with you so long). Anyway, that would be my advice.

T. K

Hi! Congrats on your baby girl and also congrats on the one on the way.. My daughter is 7 months and my son is 5 yrs old. My son coslept with us til a few months ago and my daughter was sleeping alone until time for nursing.. She loves to cuddle at night and i am also not a fan of cosleeping.. My first suggestion that has been working for me is to stay close to her beside and comfort her until she falls asleep or have dad do so. After she falls asleep in the crib or if u do it in bed place her in her crib... As for resistance from dad if he can put the baby to sleep with him then move her to her crib he will still have some comfort with her. Trust me its much much harder when they are older... Good luck and hope this helps..

What I read somewhere and tried that worked was, put your little girl in the crib and let her cry for about 5 minutes. Go back in but don't pick her up. Just pat her back and talk to her a little or sing to her for a few minutes then go out of the room. Don't go back in for about 10 minutes this time (if she is still crying) and do the same but don't pick her up. Keep doing this but add more time onto how long you wait to go back in. This works great if you can stand listening to her cry. After a couple of days, she'll get used to you laying her down in the crib and not laying beside her. Let me know how this goes if you try it.

Are you familiar with the book No Cry Sleep Solution? This might help. You sort of get her cozy and drowsy and then lie her down. I do think it ends up being more work and stress than continuing to cosleep, though. But if you're not getting good sleep this way, you have to sort of figure out which is worse. :-/ Sometimes it works better if Daddy does the nighttime routine, especially with a new one coming soon.

Ok...simular prob a few months ago, My daughter is one now, but 2 months ago, I just said ,"ok...you are going to sleep in your crib". It was harder for me, then it was for her. It took about a week, the first night she cried herself to sleep, but then a few days later, she went to sleep all by herself without a peep. I was the type of person that went in to her and calmed her down everytime she cried, even a peep. At that time, I said nope...and let her cry...I placed her in the crib, and didnt go back in...It was hard, dont get me wrong, I felt like an awlful mother, but it worked.

My daughter and I coslept until she was about six months old. As hard as it is, I had to let her cry herself to sleep when I first put her in the crib. It was especially hard since we shared a room and I lost a lot of sleep. But it only took a few days for her to get accustomed to her crib. I am a single mother so I didn't have to deal with a dad's resistance to the idea. BUT. If you're pregnant again - you need your sleep. And you have to explain to him that this is just not working for you. And it will be better for your daughter in the long run. It's much easier to get her used to her crib now - rather than later when there's another baby. There's enough jealousy among siblings - she doesn't need to be jealous that the new baby "took over" her space in mom and dad's bed.

Hi D.
I've got a 9 month old and I'm in the same predicament. Her crib is also in our room. What time does your baby go to bed? If she goes to bed earlier than you (which, hopefully she does)than you can always begin by picking her up after she's fast asleep and putting her in her crib. Tell her dad that you miss your alone time with him and that you'd love the opportunity to snuggle with HIM for a change. (that might help) The biggest hurdle for you will be to get dad on your side. If it comes down to having to let her cry it out until she learns that the crib is her new sleeping space, you'll need his help.
From what I've read recently, the only way to break a baby of cosleeping is to let him/her cry it out in the crib. Although it seems harsh and sounds terrible, most kids understand their new sleeping environment in about 2 weeks. If you don't think you can listen to your baby girl cry for a long time, start with a couple of minutes every night. My midwife also suggested that you get daddy to put her down when she wakes up in the nighttime. If she smells you, she's going to want to nurse.
keep me updated. I'd love to support you any way I can!
good luck!
~L.
*its really great that you're trying to deal with this now before your next one is born*

My best advice if you are really dead set against cosleeping any longer would be to place a crib matress on the floor of your room beside your bed and go from there. I coslept with my daughter until she was 2, and had to ween her away. I put a crib matress on her floor and layed beside her and rubbed her back until she fell back asleep. She was ok with it, and she is now sleeping all night everynight and when she wakes, she usually calms herself. But since she does not have a room of her own, your floor would work just as well. My daughter never slept in her crib for more than 3 hours a night.
I would definately not advise crying it out. At 10 months old she is still learning trust and, at that age, babies wants are still their needs. Maybe she does not need nourishment at night, but, maybe she does. Breastmilk digests very quickly, so she may need a little snack. Or a drink, or just a little reassurance. Babies nurse for many reasons. Maybe cosleeping is not right for you, but your little one still needs you close by, so be sure to be available to her.

Hi D.. This is very hard especially because daddy isn't on board. Try little steps. Start with a basinet in your room instead of the bed, move the basinet little by little each night moving further away from your bed eventually the crib will come. Trust me dad will be glad in the end.

Hope this helps

Jess

she needs to spend time napping in her new sleep area then when it's time for bed nice playful bath with music and milk
pat her back. good luck