L.P.
Dear Krisitna
Since you have tried so many things-
I'm thinking you may need to step out of the box-
For Heaven's Sake I just wanted to have some FUN with my girls!!!!
I am thinking that your son may need some
control or say in his life. (he is begining to find himself)
He can't have you or your husband when he may want or need you.
(I understand)-
The problem is that good behavior doesn't get him more power-
misbahaving unfortunately does (you were making efforts- as you listed)
he wants to have some say.
Since you CANNOT let him be boss-
Here's an idea that is in-line with real life.
Daddy/Mommy dollars!!!
In our house- morning and bedtime routines were the source of our biggest frustration.
So- When the girls behave and go through their routine without problems- They get Daddy Dollars.
(these dollars do not get taken away for bad behavior-there's a reason)
My girls can then "buy" a posted activity (games w/ mom and dad, an extra book at bedtime, ect, (we have a "menu" of activities that be can promised at a moments notice- it doesn't have to take too long- maybe 20 min) You MUST follow through even if you are tired after work- but I bet it will be worth it!!
My girls recently chose to spend their Daddy Dollars on getting their nails/toes painted after dinner by their Dad (whom they don't see much of)
Everyone had blast! I was smiling while I washed the dinner dishes!!!!!!!!!!!!!
This way your son would have the power that he craves! and even better, you would be able to enjoy your child more!!!!
Good luck
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Wishing you joy!!!
L.