Mommy I want...no Make That I NEED a Baby Brother or Sister!!

Be careful what you wish for sugar baby! When my daughter and stepson were 4 they begged for a brother or sister. My girl was so spoiled, I almost indulged her! I had 4 brothers and a close relationship w them. I thought it was unfair that she didn't have that.
Dad and I laughed it off. I accidentally got pregnant when they were 13 and boy oh boy were they pissed!

I would get a dog and "adopt" a baby sister for her. A nighbor kid or friend of the family that doesn't have a big sister. Tell her she can be that kids big sister and then have a sister ceremony. Give them both sister necklaces or something. (if other mom is cool with it)

Could be worse. At least she doesn't want a pony.

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You had a plan to have an only child? No, but that is what you have. The girls who are one and onlys aren't children but halfway adults. If you want her to be a child you need two kids. That is why all the parents in her school decided to have a second child.
You of course despite having a boyfriend are not in a committed relationship and need one to have another child. Single parenthood is very hard work. This is not anything your daughter will understand. I feel for you in this very conflicting situation. You do have to do what is best in your judgement. You are the adult.
I waited a long time between children because of my educational needs and secondary infertility. My daughters are 5 1/2 years apart.
It warms my heart to know they talk to each other every week, stay in touch on Facebook and share their long distance lives with one another. Every couple of years they get their families together.
I am happy that despite the age difference they are so close.
That said there are no guarantees in life. Two siblings sometimes have great animosity toward one another. Some are very different from one another. And, others despite being of opposite genders are very close.

I was going through this every day. My daughter's K classmate J. became a big brother right before Christmas and my niece also had a baby in November. My daughter loves babies, she wants to hold and cuddle everyone she sees. She does have an older brother and sister (from her dad’s first marriage), but she wants a younger sibling.

My situation is that I cannot have any more children. I had a miscarriage in 2010 and had other uterine issues. I have explained that the last baby went to heaven and she is my special little girl. I also remind her that if she did have a younger sibling she would not be the center of attention. So far she has stopped asking.

Not an answer to your question but you could be in my shoes where I carry a little weight around the middle. One day my six year old son was hugging M. and said "Boy I hope you don't have another baby in there!" I guess his 3 year old sister is enough for him - LOL!

Get her a baby alive and a GIANT teddy bear ... if possible see if a local shelter will let you volunteer.

I feel your pain, but I think you are J. going to have to put your foot down and start disciplining her for the pestering. It's not much different than if she was pestering you for a puppy or a horse or a certain toy or a trip to Disneyland. You can tell her maybe some day but not right now, and that's it. You gave her an answer and it may not be the answer she wants, but it is an answer. I have to say that to my daughter all the time (age 4) because she can badger with the best of them and does everything she can to wear M. down with her requests once she has her mind set on something.

My daughter would love a baby sibling too and I know she would make a fantastic big sister, but the truth it, I cannot (or at least, should not) become pregnant again. I had blood clot issues with DD and I will be 40 this year and my doctor already told M. I would be considered high-risk, so DH and I have already decided it's not worth it. But all that is too much to expect DD to understand, so for now I J. tell her I am not having any more and figure she'll be able to better understand why when she is older. I do tell her that I know she would be an awesome big sister and I would love to be able to make her one, but I J. can't, and that's J. the way it is.

Like I said, think about what you would do if she was asking for anything else - as far as I am concerned, constant pestering for something you've already given an answer to merits some kind of consequence if it continues. Especially if she decides to go to someone else and ask them instead after you have said no. DD will try that between M. and her dad and it never works in her favor.

My 5 year old is the same way. We had a "maybe baby" around November and she was so excited. She was about as sad as I was when it turned out I wasn't pregnant. She's been asking every week if I have a baby in there yet. She's lucky we're actually trying.

Since you do want another, tell her that, but that it will only happen when you are ready and right now you aren't ready.

Is there any chance she wants a baby because that will prompt you and your boyfriend to get married???

Kinds in my day asked for a pony!!