Help Get My Son to Sleep!

Updated on April 30, 2006
J.W. asks from Gunter, TX
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I need some motherly advice on getting my 4 month old son to sleep on his own & in his crib. The past few months I have to walk him around the house (holding him) to get him to fall asleep. Now that he is pushing 16 pounds, this is getting a little painful! Plus he sleeps in his car seat because he had reflux and now won't sleep laying flat. Does anyone have any advice on getting him to sleep in his bed on his own? :)

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A.

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My sister had this same problem with her son who is now 18 mos. She would get her son to fall asleep in the carrier and then out the entire carrier in his bed. this helped him get used to being in his room and bed. She slowely started taking him out of his carrier (typically for naps) helpin him get used to being on his back or side.

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S.J.

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I would read Babywise, Healthy Sleep Habits, Healthy Child, and The Baby Whisperer. this worked for me!Make sure during the day your baby is not awake more than 2 hrs at a time, and follow this schedule:
Eat (feed baby)
Activity (baby is awake for no more than 2 hrs)
Sleep (put baby down for nap--do not rock to sleep)
and Yourself (do something for yourself while baby naps
also, use cereal before bed. Swaddle baby, pat and say shhhhhh, give paci and turn on a music box/acquarium and leave the room. let the child cry for 10-15 minutes and if still crying, go in and pat and sshhh again start music box again. that's what works for me, I used a combo of the 3 books and my baby sleeps 12 hours a night and has since 4 months old. (that's when I read the books) my baby is 8 months old now and he sleeps 9-11 am and 1-3 pm and 7:30 pm to 7:30 am. he is a happy baby and has been this way since i followed this stuff. good luck! Stephanie

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A.R.

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I have not had this problem but have friends with the reflux issue in their babies and they had to let the baby sleep in the car seat in his crib for a while to get used to being there. Then they put him in the crib with a wedge to elevate him and some rolled blankets around the sides and bottom - to feel more secure like they do in the seat. Hope that helps a little.

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V.K.

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Hello J.!
Have you tried elevating the top part of his mattress? We do this with our 3-month old because she is having allergies. If she's flat, then the mucous inhibits her breathing and she wakes up coughing for air. If your baby has reflux, the acid is burning his esophogus when he lies flat. If you haven't already, try buying a wedge they sell at Babies R Us made for babies with reflex or elevate his mattress by putting a few towels under where his head rests to prop it up some.

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P.S.

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Hello,

I am a new mom and have only one child who is 2 yrs and 3 mths old. My suggestion and experience says that if your child sleeps with you in your bed , let him . Once hd goes off to sleep , pick him and put him in his bed at that time. If this does not work , let it be , let him sleep with you. This is teh time /he needs lot of love and affection whoch afcourse you being a mother of 3. When he groes little bit bigger and is aware of his elder sibblings sleeping on there own , he may want to . My child at this time wil not sleep in our bed , no matter how hard we may try as we slowly and slowly made him aware whre his room and bed was. This helped me a lot by putting him to sleep ibn our bed when he wanted as few mths old baby. it worked for me

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M.T.

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He might not be ready yet. Maybe he just needs mama to feel safe a little longer. I took a parenting class at the DAPE and I learned that there are three different personality types in children. My youngest son was exactly how you are describing yours. Around 6 months I used the ferber method and got him to sleep in his bed during the day. Before that I had to hold him. It was such a hard few months and esp since I was chasing my other toddler. There is a free helpline you can call from the DAPE and it is staffed by trained volunteers. I have had to call to get advice and they are wonderful!! It is called the warmline ###-###-#### and here is the website. We took our childbirth classes here and I went to a parenting class for discipline strategies with my best friend. It was awesome! http://www.dallasparents.org/index.htm

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J.S.

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Have you gone to his pediatrician for his reflux? My son was on meds for it. I had to rock my son to sleep for his first year. Eventually, he gave it up and put himself to sleep. I also put some of those crib activities in there with him...the Fisher Price aquarium thing, the Fisher Price bird thing that put a light show on the ceiling. That has really helped.

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E.W.

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I am with you on this one, I have a 2 month old who also has reflux and will only sleep during the day if I am holding her or if she is in her swing. My pediatrician recommended the No Cry Solution to Sleeping (it's a book) I ordered it on Amazon, so I will let you know if that works.. If you get any good advise on our problem, PLEASE let me know.

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T.M.

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Hello!!

My son also had reflux and slept in his car seat. When he would fall asleep in his car seat, we would put the car seat in the crib. He started to get used to his crib, while being comfortable 'tilted' to help his reflux. Good Luck!! I hope your little guy and you get some rest!!

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B.

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HI, I understand your situation, had a lot of that with our daughter. We needed to start gradually getting her out of her car seat (try nap times), but I have heard that the car seat can actually make the reflux worse because of the pressure on the chest while in the car seat. Avery had reflux as well. You need to let him cry some too to start learning to self soothe, but he is still so young. Good luck, recently been in your shoes and know it is tough.

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