Having Problems W/ Someone in One of My Classes at School.

You probably are not over reacting, you are only human. Yes we carry all that great stuff from high school with us for a long time. I too was picked on and teased in school and it carried over with me into college. I have a reading disability and reading out loud to this day give me nerves so bad that I have borderline panic attacks. Remember too that your experience in school was extremely freightening, I mean the counselor had to call the police to end it. Thats tough to deal with when you are an adult, let alone being only a teenager. I advice to talk to the guy first and tell him he is making your uncomfortable, sometimes confronting them impowers us to do greater things. If he doesnt listen, then go to the teacher or even the counsilor there in the college. He should be more grown up then a high schooler (though sometimes I wonder about all men lol) but dont be afraid to rat him out, after all HE is the one doing this and being very immature. Good Luck!! Be Strong, if not for your child, then for yourself, because you are a wonderful person.

Your community college should have a policy about harassment.
I would check your college catalog. If they have their own campus police, I would go to them. Your instructor will probably tell you the same. I hope that this works.
L. M.

Boy, do I know how you feel. I was miserable in school. The kids teased me very badly. I haven't gotten over it. Whenever I go to my home town, I feel about 14 (I'm forty) and I didn't even go to my 20 school reunion. I had untreated Bipolar and was pretty strange- hyper and then depressed and very shy. I have a very hard time seeing anyone from my school. My therapist (she actually does me some good) has helped me a lot. She says I won't forget what happened and that feelings for those kids will not disappear. I've had a hard time learning when someone is laughing at me or with me.

It takes a lot of self-confidence and reasurance to handle teasing. It helps me to journal. I had to learn what was just plain teasing (in a fun way) and what was being cruel. It's hard not to overreact. If the person is old enough, she or he should be able to handle it if you just calmly say, I don't like what you just said. It isn't funny and I don't appreciate it. You don't want someone stalking you and if they are you need to go to the teacher and say this person is scaring me by his/her behavior. I don't like it. Maybe the three of you can sit down and talk it out.

I surely sympathize. Going to school after you've been out for a while is hard enough, you don't need other students making it harder or making you feel like a little kid, all over again. Good Luck and I'd like to know how it turned out.

Whatever you do... DO NOT TOLORATE this kind of behavior. It was not ok for you to be treated like that in GS, and it is NOT ok now. You need to stand up for yourself. And if that doesn't work, then yes, tell someone. You shouldn't have to dread or fear going to school. You have a lot on your plate being a single mom. I am going to keep you in my prayers. My sister was always picked on in school, and I have zero tolorance for it. I will be the first to stand up for the underdog. You deserve peace... and if you stand up to this person, and the harrassment still continues, then go to a higher athority, ie: the teacher. Good luck... let me know how it turns out. I will worry now... but I will pray for you. Have a good day today, and be strong.

You are an adult now, stand up to people who are treating you badly. Have some confidence in your abilites (you already do really hard work with special needs children) and you should be proud. Don't let anyone walk all over you...it will set a goood example for your child.