Advice Needed on My 9 Week and 20 Month Old Sharing a Room

I don't know that I would try just yet. It seems like a lot for your son to adjust to. I have three kids. The first was 2 1/2 when my second came. She didn't show signs of jealousy until about 3-4 months. There may be some jealousy coming and I would be careful about changing too much at once. Especially with you going back to work soon. I also worried about the older one trying to help and throwing a blanket or stuffed animal in the crib. I didn't want to risk the blanket acidentally getting over the baby's face. When we had a third child we started to plan for my two oldest sharing a room. They are 2 and 4. It's only been two nights so far that they've tried. Honestly it's been terrible, but I hear it takes about a week or two to adjust.

My two are 12 mos apart and quickly learned to share a room on weekends when we stay on our boat. My older has always been a good sleeper, and luckily never woke up when the younger one would cry. We really put it to the test since weekdays each has their own room so it was only 2 - 3 nights that they had to share. Most kids will/can adjust.

My girls are 18 months apart and share a room, but they didn't start sharing until they were 2 & 3-1/2. So both were sleeping well on their own. Now they are 3 & almost 5, and are doing well some nights they stay up until 8:30pm, but not often. I would be worried about waking your 20 month old too. My older daughter never once woke up when her little sister was screaming her head off, which was all night long but they also never shared a room. I think your older son will learn to cope and go back to sleep. Keep a fan going or some type of white noise all night that really helps. As for naps, if you can have them nap in separate rooms. That was the downfall for my girls. Luckily I could put my older daughter in my bed. I wish you the best of luck.

When my last daughter was born she shared a room with my 5 year old daughter. I had the same worries, but it all worked out. I found once my 5 year old was asleep nothing disturbed her. Once you are in a routine everything will work out just fine! Good luck back at work.

We had the same question when we bought our new home. Our son wasn't quite as old as yours, but he had a very nicely established sleeping pattern for both naps and night time. They had separate rooms at our apartment and when we moved our son was around 14 months and our daughter 5 months. My husband and me pretty much agreed that they were going to be sharing this room and it was up to the two of them to figure out how, with as little intervention from us as possible. The first couple weeks were a tad chaotic, with both of them having their own issues. Our son can't stand to be the first to go in the room, he needs to be the last in the crib. Our daughter has thrown howling fits but calms as soon as we held her for a few minutes. Both son and daughter talk to each other at nap and night time, which sometimes can last for a good hour or more. When it's our son's "story time" (major piece to his night time routine) we try to make sure his little sister isn't fussing too much, so he can enjoy the time and wind down for the day. What we have found out is that as established as their routines were prior to sharing a room, they have adapted quite nicely to sharing a room. If one is sleeping and the other one babbling or screaming, it doesn't seem to cause as much as an issue, if any, as it did in the first couple weeks. They also seem happier to have the company when they wake up. H. this helps

my boys are 18 months apart. They started to share a room when my youngest was 10 months old. That is how they bonded I think. Now they are best friends and want to be in the same room all the time.lol