A New Baby, and a Confused Mother

Hi A.. My sister had her daughter young and she was 6 whenher little brother came along. Two years later they are just like any other siblings. They play together and fight together. My sister tries to spend alone time with the older one on weekends since she is home with the baby during the day. That helps the older one with jealousy that her brother gets mom all day while shes at school. Make sure that you also give your new man time to bond with her and discuss discipline ahead of time so that you two agree on what is expected of her. Good luck and congrats!!!

i was also woried about how my son would take a new babyb, sony approach was to make them bond as soon as my baby was born.my oldest son called the baby"brother" and i refer to him as "your baby"for instance "be nice to your baby."or youhave to help mommy with your baby.as long as you include her with the baby activities she should love her new sibling. my boys love each other. and for you just remeber love doesn't divide, it multiplys good luck

I have just the same situation. I just had my son and my daughter was 6 when he was born. The best part is we have girls first....and she wants to help- be the little mommy and my helper girl is the best big sissy....and her brother smiles at her and coos because she talked to my belly and would touch it as her brother grew....and even now she has a great relationship with her brother and there may be a tad jealousy with attention of others- Zoey wants to be the toad in the puddle-she always has had the spot light. Overall, she will surprise you- just include her in things and make sure you thank her for all she does....and being a big sissy important...

HI A.~ Congratulations! My children are 7 years apart and my son was a complete surprise. We did everything we could to prepare my daughter. I bought her a big sister sweatshirt that I gave her at the hospital when my son was born. The only advice I can give is to try to make time for her once the baby arrives. Everyone will be coming over to oggle the baby and the older ones feel pushed aside. So I tried hard to make sure that she had some special time with her dad or I. not easy with a new baby, but necessary. My daughter was all over helping with bottle feeding and loved holding her brother (with supervision). They are close now even with the age difference. I was worried about a lot of things when i was pregnant with my son, but when i saw him for the first time, this feeling of everything is going to be alright came over me.

It is a big adjustment adding a "new" baby to the family, but Just keep her involved the entire time and I am sure there will be a time where you will have a problem or two, but it will all work out. Good Luck

I was 31 and had a 9 year old son when I found out that I was pregnant with my fiance. When I told my son about being a big brother he cried and said he didn't want anymore kids. I felt horrible!!! I cried all night thinking that my son would hate the new baby and I felt very bad because it was my son and I for a very long time too. I just reassured him that I would love him no less then I already did. And that I have a big heart and can love them both. i even said that we would plan "dates" with each other after the baby came so we could share time together like in the old days when it was just us. The next day after school, my son came home and gave me a big hug and said it was ok Mom, "I want another baby and I know you love me." So all was well after that. Just make it a point that you spend some special time with your daughter so she doesn't feel left out. And enjoy your kids and life. Congratulations!

That is great news on the baby and the soon to be marriage. My daughter is 8 and she is begging for a sister or brother. I am in a new relationship since June and I thought I would have the same problem because my daughter and I were alone for so long. Your daughter is old enough to be included in the planning stages and helping getting everything ready for the new baby. The more she is included and the sooner she knows the more time she has to get excited and used to the situation. Good Luck.