6Yr Old and How to Get the Baby Out

Hi C.,

I told my children the truth. I said ladies have a place where babies grow. When they are born, they come out a hole the same way poop comes out, but through a different hole. When there is a problem with that way, the doctors take the babies out through a hole they make in the side of the tummy.

Congratulations,
M.D.

I told my daughter that there was a place between where you poop and pee and that was where the baby comes out. It is basic and true...=) good luck.

A child who is able to formulate a cogent question is able to understand a truthful answer given in terms appropriate to his/her age. My daughter knew how babies were made and how they were born when she was four - because she asked and I told her. I didn't give her a Kinsey course in human sexuality, but I did explain the mechanics of how a baby got started, how it grew, and how it came out.
She also knew the correct names for male and female parts; we didn't call them by cute euphemisms.

My dd just turned 7 years old and is fascinated with pregnancy & birth. A neighbor had a baby 7 months ago and she wanted to know how the baby got out. We told her the truth - mommy pushed baby out through her vagina. Honestly she was more concerned about how much it hurt than anything else. 6 is old enough for a high level description, just don't go into a lot of detail, they don't need or want it at that age.

Well, tell him the truth, I suppose, Dad is right, sometimes they have to make a hole in the mom's stomach andTAKE the baby out. Most times the baby will come out by himself, between your legs. If he questions whether there's enough ROOM (and I doubt he will) for a baby to come out, tell him mom's body CHANGES to let the baby out, then goes back to normal!

There is no harm in using correct terminology if you're comfortable with it, the more matter of fact you are with your answers the less mystery he'll feel and the fewer questions he'll have in the future.

It is after all a very beautiful natural process, it's only icky and weird to kids if WE make it icky and weird.

Good Luck and congrats to you and your husband for your growing family!

What a great opportunity to share with your child how amazing we are all made. You were created with a special place for the baby to come out, etc. Age appropriate and simple is the best, but don't make up "stuff". That is will only make it confusing for your child. It's alright to share that yes, sometimes they have to do a surgery and take the baby out of the tummy, but hopefully that won't happen here. If you don't appear to be thrown by it, then your child won't either. The questions just get more complicated from here. Next, "how did the baby get in there?"

Great opportunity to explain some things about her body to her. Keep it simple, only answer the exact questions she asks.
I'm sure some of these ladies here have great book suggestions, too. Relax, you'll be fine :)

The best question to ask is ,"What do you think happens?" and support things she is saying that are correct (in theory) and even a "Why are you asking?" she may simply be worried about you and your safety and the hospital visit, etc.
I agree to keep it age appropriate and don't offer more information than is warranted. plenty of time to continue to educate on the process:)
A series at our church for parents called growing kids God's way did a great analogy with flowers.here is all I could find with a Google search. :)http://www.growingkids.org/

A six year old is old enough to hear an abbreviated and anesthetized version of the truth. My 4 year old asked me not long ago, and I told him there was a special place on mommies where the baby came out. That was good enough for him at the time. Tell your six year old (if he or she doesn't already know -my kids know that penises and vaginas are body parts like arms and legs are but they're "private") that the baby comes out of the mommy's vagina and that the vagina gets a lot bigger to let the baby come out. You don't have to go into labor, pain, blood or anything like that. For most 6 year olds it will make perfect sense that the baby "slides down the tunnel" and comes out. If your child asks how it got in there -as mine did -I just said that when mommies and daddies really love each other, sometimes a piece of that love starts to grow in the mommy's tummy and becomes a baby -and that's why we love him so much. We can have the sexual act talk in several years!

I see a lot of these questions now days.... when i was little and asking my mom the same kinds of questions, i believe i was actually younger then your son/daughter anyways she sat me down with books and showed me how they got baby out. she was always very open and honest with me no matter what age i was.

You just tell your son that there is a place on the mom called the "birth canal" and the baby comes out there.

I just answered this question in response to my 6 year old son. I told him babies can be born 2 different ways. The first way is through the vagina which is a special opening that all girls have, but sometimes a doctor must do a c-section to deliver the baby. I told him the doctor gives the mom some special medicine so she doesn't feel any pain and then makes a small cut in her tummy and removes the baby. I made sure he knew it was not painful for the mom or baby. Just give an honest yet simple answer using all the correct terms. Good luck!

i told my children the honest facts. my 3yo son was in the room when i delivered his little brother, when he was 6yo he wanted to be in the room for his little sister's birth, but there wasn't enough warning to get him there... i'm not saying at the end of the delivery bed watching up close, but he did know and remember what had happened the first time. i would be a lot more uncomfortable talking about how the baby goes IN, but didn't ruffle me a bit to tell how baby comes out.

That question had me thinking of all kinds of scenarios with my grandaughter...but my daughter had the perfect answer. All they
want is a simple answer. "At the hospital" is where the baby comes
out.

my 4 year old asked the same thing and all sorts of vague answers did NOT satisfy her. she also started going through the holes in our bodies (will the baby come out your mouth? ect) I figuered she was going to guess the right one eventually. I finally decided that i would rather tell her than have her find out from somewhere else. Besides if they know from an early age it doesn't seem weird to them. So i told her the baby was going to come out my privates at the hospital. no big deal she seemed fine with that.

Dealt with the same issue with my 5 year old. He said something about them cutting my belly open, and I said that the doctor doesn't cut them out of me. He asked how they got out then, so I said the baby comes out my bottom. He said, "that's gross", and I said, "yep, it kind of is". He then became concerned that the baby would come out in the toilet while I was pottying and I explained that there is one place for the pee or poop to come out, and another place for the baby to come out. That was enough information for him, without having to get too graphic and fortunately we've not had to explain how the baby got in there!

I also told my son that there is a special place where babies come out. When he asked "where?", I gave him a general area. He was happy with that.

Besides the answers you've gotten here, which are good, you could watch an animal show about how animal babies are born. Maybe that would help him understand??

(I mean mammals, of course! LOL)

What do you Say? The truth and nothing but the truth. You only need to tell them what they need to know. When I was pregnant with my second child my oldest daughter asked how was I going to get the baby out. She was 3 years old at the time. I told her I would explain it when she gets older. Her come back was "it's ok mom, I can handle it"....okay, so i told her the baby comes out of mommy's vagina. She didn't ask another question, nor was she weird about it. If you are not comfortable talking to your child get the book series "Gods Design for Sex" (it's not what you think) Read the first book to your child and it takes the pressure off you of what to say and how much to say. They have a total of four books all age specific. I now have three girls and we read them all. So when ever any questions come up about sex or where do babies come from, etc. we just get out the books. Hope this helps

"There's a special way the doctors help Mommy get the baby out." If this isn't enough info... "I'll tell you more later when you're older"

I first like to turn the question around and ask my kids what they think. By 6 I'm sure your child has some ideas. Then that gives me a starting point, and sometimes I don't have to add much. It also helps me not to go beyond their level. My 5 & 3 yr olds loved this computer animated video, very child friendly: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xath6kOf0NE.