Looking for Advise 3 Issues with 10 Month Old Thank U!!!!

My daughter is 11 months and has been eating what we do since about 9 months. At that age throwing everything is normal. My daughter does it to and so did my son. Yes it is very annoying but they are learning and it is a fun game to them. I just pick it up as say no no. I try not to laugh to much because then its more of a game. Your lil one will out grow it soon enough and you will miss that stage. My daughter also likes to spit her water out of her sippy cup. Now that i really dislike!! I also work full time and only have 2 hours a night with the baby before she is in bed. It is hard but i just make sure to spend as much time with her as i can at least a half hour to an hour of play time and then finish other things after she is in bed or after both kids are in bed (i have a 3 yo son to). I know she gets to play a lot at daycare and i spend all weekend with them. You are not a bad mom for leaving him. You need to provide for him and most people both parents have to work just to get by and put food on the table. He will be just fine!!

Throwing is normal, not much you can do but take them item away and show him how to treat it softly... but it will just end up slammed on the floor again. We do what the other mom said, give him a few small bites at a time so the whole meal doesn't end up on the floor.

It's okay to let him play by himself while you cook/do dishes... just make sure he has something to do that is working with his motor skills. Like large foam blocks and a bucket so he can put them in the bucket then dump them out again.

Read him board books, talk to him a lot, toss him a bean bag... try and take a time out from what you are doing every few minutes to give him some cuddles and attention or to read a little story. Turn on some fun music he can 'dance' to. I try and do most cleaning and such at nap time or bed time.

Lots of good ideas here on behavior training:
http://www.askdrsears.com/html/6/T060100.asp

Good play ideas:
http://www.ehow.com/how_6471_play-with-10.html

For throwing things, when my son was at that age, we just had to keep everything out of his reach until he was ready for it. We would just give him a few bites on his plate until he ate it all, scoot his away plate when he wanted a drink, take the cup away after he took a drink, and so on. If he still throws something, take everything away for a moment and calmly tell him "we don't throw our food." If he doesn't like getting his plate taken away, he'll figure it out pretty quickly.

Maybe play a throwing game with him before or after meals to get that urge out of his system. It comes from a curiosity about cause & effect, so just give him opportunities other than with his food! It's great that he's eating so well already, just make sure he gets enough fat in his diet. Kids grow so fast they can't eat low-fat food like adults. Our pediatrician had us add unsalted butter to our son's food to make sure he was gaining enough weight.

You're doing a great job, just keep telling yourself "this is just a phase!"

Throwing things is developmentally appropriate: babies are figuring out (literally) the physics of this here planet they live on. Will it always go down? How about orange things? How about with my eyes shut? How about while I laugh/scream/stay silent? With my tongue out? In? If it's wet/dry/heavy/light? Squished into a mass? With one hand? Two hands? Feet? While sitting? Standing? Upside down? Fast? Slow? ((Our nickname for this phase is "Gravity Checks" OR "How long will mommy....?".))

The fastest way to "end" this behavior is actually to encourage it like crazy when appropriate (aka have them do it on the couch, floor, bed, places where it's not annoying) so that they can get the physics down as quickly as possible AND NOT TO pick it up for them (that becomes a NEW cause and effect game) in certain arenas. When you don't want her throwing things... don't give her things to throw. AND direct what IS appropriate to throw. ((Example: we had a "no hard things" rule in our housr.))

Hi, A.
Is there someone taking care of your baby that gives him the constant attention that he needs each day?
If someone does give him that constant love, affection, and attention everyday, you won't need to feel sad or bad about leaving your son.
As long as there is someone, his needs will be met.
Just a thought.
D.

When my kids threw stuff at this age I did not give it back for a few minutes and when I did give it back I said "I am giving_______ back now if you throw it again you won't get it back.

I work full time too and feel horrible about not getting to spend enough time with the kids. It makes me sad. Summers are easier because I make sure that on my days off we do something fun as a family. I also spend 1:1 time with each kid I take them out just them and I atleast once a month my husband also does this daddy daughter/son dates - mommy so/daughter dates. You need a date with your hubby once a months or more too it is so hecktic. Doing small things often like reading a book 1:1 helps with bonding too. It only takes a few minutes but, it makes them feel so special.