How to Teach One Year Old Not to Throw?

Updated on February 23, 2012
A.C. asks from Seattle, WA
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My daughter who just turned one a few weeks ago, is generally a good natured toddler. When she gets ahold of her toys though, she tends to throw them whether its a stuffed toy or a book. Sometimes when I'm sitting on the floor she will throw the toys at my head. I dont know where she learned this or if its just experimenting, but I need to teach her not to throw like that. Can you give me some tips please?

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answers from Seattle on

I like what Rosie M. said...teach her what is ok to throw and where it is ok. If she throws an inappropriate item, Immediately tell her it is ok to throw the ball, but the not the doll and give her the ball.

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answers from San Francisco on

When my twin boys would experiment with banging stuff on the glass, I started first with finding a substitute item that was okay to bang on the glass. They were mostly experimenting, as opposed to trying to really break something. So, I would find a soft toy and switch it out with whatever toy they had and say, "Here, only bang the soft toys." That way they were able to experiment with the action without the risk of breaking or cracking the glass door. If they were already banging a soft toy, then we let them continue. We had to repeat the substitution, but they eventually understood. Overtime, the desire to bang things on the glass subsided. Now at 3, if they start to bang something on the glass, I just say, "We don't bang toys on the glass." and then try to redirect them if they don't stop on their own...or, if necessary, take the item away until they can play with it in a more appropriate manner.

As far as throwing things go, they were allowed to throw soft, light balls. So if they started to throw toys, we'd say "We only throw balls, not toys." and then give them one of the acceptable balls. We have had a bit of regression here and there, particularly during tantrums, but overall, we don't have too many issues with throwing random stuff.

Maybe you can get some soft balls and then when she starts throwing her toys, you can say, "Oh, you want to play some catch. Here are some balls.", move the toys out of the way, and then start tossing the ball to her and letting her attempt to throw it back.

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answers from Kansas City on

first i would just say a firm, "NO throwing!" and take the item away. this especially works if she tries to throw food or her cup or a favorite toy she will really miss. if it's just random, i'm not sure, maybe the ladies will have more suggestions. most kiddos do this, it usually just takes firm, consistent consequence. she will learn that throwing things means they go away.

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answers from Philadelphia on

If I remember correctly,= throwing is a gross motor milestone, so she probably wants to expreiment and practice.

How about acknowledging her actions "you can really throw!" and redirect. "But books are not for throwing, balls are for throwing"

I sometimes play "basketball" where my son tries to throw a ball into a basket on the floor. Or we play catch when he has a big throwing urge.

I remember spending a lot of time explaining what was ok to throw and what wasn't. ( In our house you can really only throw balls, beanbags, laundry or trash)

If she keeps throwing particular toys at you, those toys might need to be taken away for the rest of the day....

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answers from Houston on

It will be easier to teach her what not to throw if you are teaching her what it is ok to throw. Get a ball she can throw and take her outside to throw it. Or if your house rule is that she can throw a soft ball inside, do that. Then you can start teaching her that it's ok to throw the ball (or only to throw the ball outside), but not toys or other things.

Playing catch with someone that age learning to throw and catch is a lot of fun. The learning will come more easily and with less conflict.



answers from Los Angeles on

Tell her "no" and take the toy away and put it away. At 12 months, they understand. People treat them like they are stupid, but babies are smart. It may take a few times, but trust me, it'll work.



answers from Dallas on

With my kids I'd do things like, turn their throwing into a game of catch, they loved that I was playing with them. Or, I'd simply ignore it and not make eye contact with them, they got the clue that mommy didn't like it. Or, I'd simply just catch the thrown object and quietly put it down and continue with what I was doing. I tried not to make a big deal as this is normal and they are learning rapidly about their environment. I also didn't like turning my home into a huge "no" fest.



answers from Portland on

This is so very normal. She's learning about her world and has discovered that she can throw things. When it looks like she's getting ready to throw something, stop her and tell her not to throw. Tell her it hurts Mommy or it will break. Then divert her attention to playing with that or another toy.

If she throws the toy anyway, take it away from her and tell her that will happen every time she throws. It will take time for her to learn to not throw.

The best thing to do, when possible, is to prevent her from throwing by redirecting her attention.

Do provide opportunities for her throw a ball or perhaps soft toys into a basket/box. This is how she learns physics in a very simple way.



answers from Chicago on

Find appropriate toys and an appropriate place and teach her she can throw there. Anywhere else, take the toy away and redirect.

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