Leaving Baby for First Time Overnight

Hi Anya:
You know, there probably isn't a mother out there, that hasn't experienced what your going through. Besides the very special bond we develope with our babies,there are unique little rituals we develope. In time,we are the ones that know,what comforts them.We know,how they love to be held. We recognize their different crys,and exactly what they need.Your hubby and you,have most likely dedicated the majority of the last six months to nurturing and taking wonderful care of your baby.Thats of course a good thing.However, to keep your relationship healthy and alive, its vital to take some private.quality time together. So many parents,have a tendancy to (forget) about themselves,and the importance of keeping their relationship,the romance (alive)After all,you two are the structure of this new family.Your obviously an intelligent woman, so i'm not telling you anything you don't already know.You taking this short time away,will also allow the babies Grandparents the oportunity to bond.You couldn't have found more perfect care-providers for him.I'm sure they adore him. I A. a Grandparent now, and I have been fortunate enough to build a close,beautiful relationship with my Grandson and Grandaughter. I will tell you,that on one occasion,when I had them for a weekend,I thought they would feel comforted by showing them a video of their mom and dad. It was their wedding video. lol My Grandson,began sobbing!! Then my Grandaughter got scared and started in. I didn't understand at first,but soon realized,that they thought the tv had taken their parents! lol I personally believe, that if your son heard your voices,he would be looking for you,or begin crying,because he could hear you,but not see you.I'd brave it out,and trust,that his Grandparents,will take wonderful care of him,and leave your number, so if they do have any problems, they can contact you. I'd leave a few notes with them, as far as his schedule,and what soothes him.You can take comfort in knowing,that your son will be cuddled and loved for those few days your away,and he'll grow closer to family,so that in the future,when you and your husband wish to take some time alone together,he will look forward to spending time with them also.This will make you two and him alot happier. Have a wonderful time,and I wish you all the very best.

Hi Anya, None of that will be necessary, I have kept babies over night, or during deploment time, and honestly at that age, they don;t notice, as longs as they are being nurtured, their fine, I have never had an infant ot toddler, be bother by their parent/parents being away for a short period of time, now that maybe becasue they spend time with me everyday, but hopefully your baby has spent enought time with grandma abd grandpa that he won;t have a problem, And you are right itwill be harder on you than him. J.

Lucky you to have such nice parents! This means you trust them enough to keep their grandchild safe and as happy as possible.

Enjoy your nights off and try not to call at night. It was hard for me the first time I left mine with each set of grandparents, but after that it gets easier...and although I was tempted just to "check in" and see how things were going, I'm glad I didn't, as it would have only put a damper on my evening (don't read that wrong--everything went well, I'm just glad to have gotten my mind away from it all).

It is healthy for you to get your mind off of baby for short bursts...you deserve it too--imagine how many days you have gone without a chance to decompress from all the baby chaos!

Trust that your son will have a great time with his grandparents. If 2 days is too long, call just 1x during the wknd. I'll bet that a speakerphone call between you and your son would be a fun thing during the daytime...even if he doesn't really know what's going on.

This is step one to learning how to teach your kid independence. Have a GREAT trip!

Don't think so much about it. He will be fine and I bet your/husbands parents aren't worried at all about it. If he has a connection with them and is in his own house, all he needs is for you to write out and explain his bedtime routine for them to follow. At 9 months, my cousin would watch our son once a week at night while we went out and she got him off to bed with no problems and our son is all about consistency and has been since birth. My cousin was and still is an active part of his life and he had no problem accepting her doing the bedtime routine when we were out. She also took care of him for the weekend for our anniversary and there were no issues. We as first time moms worry about it, I did but there was no reason for concern. Best wishes.