I Need Mommy Friends

The MOMS Club (Moms Offering Moms Support) is a GREAT way to meet other Moms! They are an international non-profit organization that provides support to Stay-at-Home Moms. They have Playgroups, MOMS Night Out, Book Clubs, Field Trips and many other fun activities. You can find a local chapter by going to their website (www.momsclub.org) and click on “Find a Chapter Near You/Join”.

I belonged to a MOMS Club chapter in PA and then joined my local chapter here in Frederick when I moved to MD (4 days before my 2nd child was born). I have made AMAZING friends for both myself and my kids.

There are plenty of groups out there, but this is the one that worked for me. Good-Luck!!
~ B.

Find a local Mops (mothers of preschoolers) group. Those moms know exactly what you are going through because they have kids your age, may be your age. Some older too. You get a break from the kids, they get to play with kids their own age without you around... which is great for them too) and you get to learn cool stuff and make friends.
Hope this helps :)
PS- those mommy questions you have.... that is what we are here for. Even though you don't see our faces, we are still your mommy friends!

Search for mom groups in your area online. Once you get to know the ladies maybe you can offer your home up for playdates if you are comfortable with that. If there is no mom groups maybe start one that way you can pick places easy for you to get to either by walking or public transportation (if you live near some).

Library's often have free events that you could at least meet other moms at, you will have to be very active in making the first contact by introducing yourself, your children, asking how many children the other mom has... hopefully that will open up the line of communication and maybe make a playdate after a few more run ins at the library.

Playground are another good place to meet moms, I have meet a few moms who are friends now just by introducing myself to them at a playground.

At the moment I do not have any other ideas.

I know the hospital has some mommy groups they recommend to talk about breastfeeding, etc, so they may have some other groups that they recommend for toddlers, etc. Also - church groups are a great way to meet people....and online forums like this one are a great way to connect and get good advice/ideas for parenting as well. Good luck!!

Wow. I am so sorry for the rude response you received. I was a stay at home more for a while and had trouble making friends. The friends I did have were working or in college, so I was in your same shoes (had my kids at 20, 22, and 24). I finished college online, so I was inside a lot. Luckily I have family that I am very close to and was around, but I just tried to get my kids involved in activieies. Dance, soccer, gymnastics, music time, jump bunch, etc...I was able to meet some parents there. Also when my oldest started pre-k. Honestly though, I met most of my close and good friends once I started working. It's hard being a mom, no matter when you have them. And you always need adult time. You are not alone at all. Try going to your local library too - they may have classes like mine does. My sitter (and sister) takes my kids with her daughter and they LOVE it....she is now better friends with my son's friends parents then I am because she sees them 4 days a week. Good luck!!

Hi,
I'm sorry you're having such a difficult time! I definately reccomend www.mops.org you can join through their website and not go to local meetings but when you can drive it's a GREAT way to meet new moms and have playdates with kids etc. www.myspace.com/kirkwoodmops is a daytime Springfield group and their is a GREAT playgroup my daughter used to go to on Thursdays on Old Keene Mill Road. This week's cancelled due to snow.
Can you drive yet? E-mail me, one of the mom groups I'm in is having a pancake breakfast this Saturday(9am) in Springfield VA, $3 a person under 3 is free. All u can eat pancakes n sausages. ____@____.com
Pammy

I am 22 (almost 23) and have a 4 year old and an almost 2 year old. I live in Norfolk. Im not sure where abouts you live but I am almost always available to meet up. I dont have too many friends around here because most of mine moved away due to the military. But feel free to email me if you want ____@____.com

-E.

go to meetup.com, search your zip code & moms groups & check them out:)

Hi G.! I just wanted to let you know that you're not the only one who thought Karin H's response was hurtful. What happened to "If you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all?" My jaw literally dropped when I read her first line. This forum is for mothers to support one another. You are just a mom reaching out to other moms - good for you!

Anyway, you've gotten a lot of good suggestions. I'm a lot older than you and my kids are in elementary school, but I do remember that loneliness when my kids were little. Almost all of us feel it. Keep you chin up!

I found a local mom's group online that is part of The Mommies Network - they host sites all over the U.S. I can't begin to tell you how much stability it has brought me - friends for my son, and for me!

Here's a link to the groups they have in VA: http://www.themommiesnetwork.org/states/va.php

You will have to sign up and get approved to login, but that's just to keep random people from seeing private information.

Try meetup.com and you can find playgroups in your area.

I co-lead a fantatstic mom's group at my house. What area do you live in? If it's close by, we may be able to provide a ride for you. I have been in the same situation as you in the past where I couldn't drive due to medical reasons. I know how frustrating that can be. Instead of going to college, I was in bed and couldn't walk very well most of the time. So, even though I didn't have kids, I was still isolated. I definitely understand loneliness girl! If you are interested, just send me a message. Our mom's group is affiliated with a church, and I'm not sure what your background is. We get together the 2nd and 4th Mondays at my house from 9:30-11:00 and we have childcare provided. We have a big breakfast together and just hang out. The other suggestions you got were great too. MOPS is a wonderful organization. Let me know if you are interested! You will make it through this and when you can find some great girlfriends to do life with, it will get much easier. : )