How Would You Feel About Kids Going to a Bday Party to Be Around Sick Kids????

Hey Mom. That's definitely a pet peeve of mine too. I really don't appreciate it when parents bring their sick kids around. That's another reason why schools ask parents to please have their children home. The mom should have definitely rescheduled it....for everyone's sake. I think that was irresponsible on her part. My son had that more than 14 years ago and I was aware of the symptoms..and had to isolate him..that only made sense so that his brother wouldn't get it.

It definitely bothers me. Hope everyone gets better soon. It's really hard when the little ones are ill.

I would be upset if they didn't say anything about it before the party. My son was sick with a cough and runny nose on at his party a couple weeks ago. I sent out an e mail and called everyone the night before to let them know and told them if they can't make it now, then that's totally fine. Everyone ended up still coming and we just got him a seperate cupcake to blow out the candles on instead of the big cake.
But, since she didn't even tell you at all before the party to give you the option of coming or not, then yes, I would be very upset

Well, with hand foot and mouth (not a fun time, btw- we all got it last year), not EVERYONE in the family gets it simultaneously. So, I'd imagine that someone is still contagious!

Real nice- I'd be pissed. I don't know if I'd say something now about it- what would saying something do now? SHE is the one that should have said something prior to the party. The damage (hopefully y'all won't get it) has already been done. Now, I would say something if someone actually gets hand foot and mouth- I mean, I'd probably not say it in my nicest tone, either...!

Last year, our birthday girl had pink eye two days before her party, so we re-scheduled it for a later date. THAT is what you do!

I would assume by saying, "they were sick all week" she probably meant during the week and they are fine now. Usually contagious the first few days, so if they're sores were cleared up, I would imagine they were no longer contagious.

As far as what to do, well there is not much you can do. If your kids get sick, they will regardless of what you say to your friend. If it were me, I would proabably wait it out and if they do get sick, then maybe let her know that your kids have caught it and just in casethere is a similar situation again, you would like notice and details of their illness so you can make the call whether or not you would still like to get together.

Sick all week, sounds like they were sick but now better. What's done is
done. Not sure if I would say something at this point. Next time I was
invited over for a party, I would say in a joking manner, "anyone sick?"

At least you have an optimistic outlook haha

I would've been irritated too. Unless the doc said they were cured (like another mom said) that was super selfish. I would not want my child getting sick with those symptoms especially because she didn't want to cancel a party, sheesh.

You hose em down with sanitizer when you got home? I would've. It would've been straight into a shower with her hahaha

I'd be livid!!!! I went to a party and the bday girl was cranky and the older one was one the couch crying her belly hurt. Her mom told me when we were leaving that the kids had both been up the night prior puking and hadn't eaten that day at all. My kids both had it my youngest for a week and a half. I understand it's a pita to cancel a party but I would if anyone in my house was sick heck if we have a playmate I call the other parents if my child has so much as a sniffle.

I would be pissed. When my kids get sick randomly, yeah there's nothing I can do. I have a hard time keeping them well and ima germaphobe! If someone let my kids come visit knowing their kids were sick then yep I would say something. No, that isn't too bad but its a virus and no meds work. You have to let it run its course. I hope they don't get it!

Unless she had checked with her doctor and all was clear, I would have been very angry about that. Very selfish of her!

Ugh, I'm sorry the other mom did this. I get really upset about that kind of thing because one of my kids has a medical condition that can really be set off by certain illnesses. I think it is inconsiderate and unkind to knowingly expose others.
I don't know alot about the illness you mentioned, but I think if your family ends up with it I would certainly call her and politely let her know that it happened and she should have let you know before the party that they had been sick. If you all don't get it, I probably wouldn't say anything right now, but next time you are going to get togehther just ask, "Has everyone been healthy at your house?" Then kindly say that you would never want your kids to make anybody sick and you are sure she feels the same way.
I wish you all the best and hope everyone stays well. Thanks for reminding everyone that it really is important to be honest about those kinds of things. While it may only cause a short ilness for some, it can be life altering for others.

Well I have noticed not everyone has the best judgment. Yes that annoy me. More so when my kids were younger. I would make some distance with this friend. She sounds like she is a bit self absorbed. Also when my kids have a cold if its clear ( when my kids were small I would call the childs parent) I would give them the info and let them the descion. However if the mucus was darker,had a fever along with other syptoms (sp wr) I would reschedule it.

I don't know this disease to know when a person is no longer contagious. Maybe call your pediatrician and ask?

Yes, I 'd be annoyed not to be told in advance about anything beyond a cold. Next time I guess call the day before and check.

That's rude. I would have been really irritated.

Well, Id want to know at what point you are contagious with this one. Usually its before you even know you have stuff so sometimes you dont have a clue the kids are giving it to others. I had my daughter go play at a friends house for an afternoon. She was fine, happy and excited to go, but when I got back 4 hours later, she had been feeling lousy, had a slight fever and by that evening, she had chicken pox! I had no idea when I dropped her off that day. The other M. was not too thrilled and I completely understood, but there was really nothing I could do about it. I promised to do whatever I could to make things easy for her when her kids got it, but thankfully they didnt. Years later they did and it was no way my kids fault,,lol.
But, maybe your friends kids were well past the contagious stage and near recovery, so she didnt feel too worried about it. But if that was the case she should have either let you all know before, or kept her mouth shut.
EDIT:: ok I looked it up and this is what found. And YES..Id be pissed myself now that I know the facts.
How Hand, Foot, and Mouth Disease Is Spread
Infection is spread from person to person by direct contact with infectious virus. Infectious virus is found in the nose and throat secretions, saliva, blister fluid, and stool of infected persons. The virus is most often spread by persons with unwashed, virus-contaminated hands and by contact with virus-contaminated surfaces.
Infected persons are most contagious during the first week of the illness.
The viruses that cause HFMD can remain in the body for weeks after a patient's symptoms have gone away. This means that the infected person can still pass the infection to other people even though he/she appears well. Also, some persons who are infected and excreting the virus, including most adults, may have no symptoms

I just had my son at the Doctor for this last week. The Dr. told me that once they are fever-free for 24 hours they are no longer contagious. Hopefully your kids will not get it! Still annoying though.

We just had Hand, Foot, and Mouth disease make it's way through this house. My youngest son came down with it the day after we came back from vacation. He had a fever of 102.8, and no real symptoms other than that. His fever was gone the next day and he was acting normal.

Then my 2nd son got the fever, followed by sores in his mouth that were so bad he couldn't eat for days. He was living on Carnation Instant Breakfasts, milk shakes, yogurt, and ice cream. He couldn't even eat soup. They recommend sticking with cool/ cold things.He also developed a few spots on his hands and feet. I took him to the doc, which is when we got the diagnosis. When we got home, I noticed spots on my youngest son's feet, which I hadn't even noticed before that.

My other 2 followed with fever and spots, but no other symptoms. So, hopefully, IF your children do get it, they won't get it too bad, like 3 of my 4.

btw- yes, I would have been pretty angry.

Here's some additional info- just in case

http://www.cdc.gov/ncidod/dvrd/revb/enterovirus/hfhf.htm

http://children.webmd.com/tc/hand-foot-and-mouth-disease-...

WOW! I would more than pissed! I would even get new friends. This virus SUCKS!! Its extremely contagious. Good luck!!

This is unacceptable. People need to be responsible about quarantine. Yes, please do say something to her. Here's a proposed script:

"Next time your kids are sick, please let me know so that I can make my own decisions about whether to risk exposing my children. I will do the same for you."

We lucked out with H1N1. It *was* a pandemic and at least 30% of the population *did* get sick, as predicted. It was just an extraordinarily mild flu, often with atypical symptoms that were merely annoying rather than disabling. Eventually, we will get hit with an epidemic of something deadly. God help us all if we haven't got the hang of quarantine by then.

Incidentally, I'm not a germ freak. I trust my kids' immune systems and my own. I usually decide to go ahead and risk playing together when friends let me know their kids are sick. But that is my decision to make, not theirs.

Hi,

I am so sorry your friend didn't cancel!!!! I would be mad too! Yes, I would tell her that you didn't appreciate her not telling you before hand. Then you would have had the choice to come or not. GL

M

Given the nature of this particular illness, she should have canceled, and even if she didn't then she should have warned anyone to come at their own risk. I think a cold is one thing, and probably ok to still have a party. Hand foot mouth is much worse and obviously contagious for a long time. She should have warned you, I would say something to her so she knows for the future.

I can't stand it when people expose their sick kids to my kids. I'm sorry this was done to you. I appreciate it so much when they cancel plans until their kids are well. My friend did the same to me...We'd been with her and her children all day, and then she says, "We've all been throwing up all week." Some parents don't think anything of it...drives me nuts.

i would be pissed. she should have used better judgement.