My daughetr is 8 months old, and I think I am just now starting to fell some postpartum symptoms. I can't stop crying, I feel really low mentally. All the signs from when I had this with my first daughter. Nothing that I would hurt myself of my children, but just down. I know a lot is going on, or not going on in my life. I got laid off after returning from maternity leave (was not protected by the Family Leave Act), took a temp job being told that it would be a perm position by Thanksgiving. Found out last month that they do not have it in their budget to hire me on full time, but I would have a job until the end of March (which is fast approaching). I have been applying to 5 or 6 jobs a day, and am hearing nothing. So no one wants me, and I feel like a falure to my husband and kids. If anyone knows of anyone hiring a payroll or hr specialist, please let me know. If anyone has any ideas of how to get myself out of this funk, please let me know.
THANK YOU TO EVERYONE for thier wonderful responses, and emails. I have gotten help. I am meeting with some other mothers who have had PPD and just needed someone to talk to. I am still looking for a job, and my husband has been VERY supportive about it as well. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU
Another place you can search is the Michigan Talent Bank. http://www.michworks.org/mtb/pages/seeker/Jobseeker.jsp
First, I am so sorry you are going through so much right now. I have not been through this as I am pregnant with my first child, but I have been through some very rough spots in life. I would suggest that you speak with your doctor and maybe he/she could put you on a low dosage anti-depressant to help you out while you need it. I know it's hard to think positive, but it's really the only way to get through times such as these. Keep your head up. Take care and God Bless.
Maybe you can find a support group at your church or in your community as well.
J. M
Stay strong. I know things are tough right now for you with your job search, but you have been blessed with two children and that's truly a wonderful thing. Sometimes just thinking about my children at home makes the difficulties I face outside the home more bearable.
I don't know if you are a spiritual person or not, but at a time like this, I would rely strongly on my faith. If not, I'm sure you have a close friend or family member you can talk to who can help you get through this funk. Sometimes just spending time with others really helps.
And, as for the job search, just keep pressing on. Unfortunately, it's tough out there right now. Just because you aren't getting responses yet, it doesn't mean you're a failure. These types of things do take time, and I believe there is something out there for you, you just haven't found it yet. Good luck and stay happy!
I think you meant symptoms, now that I read your email. I moved 2 years ago, about 30 miles away, and still haven't been able to find a new job, here in Michigan, closer to where I moved to, yet. It's more the downward economy, don't blame yourself. Anyway, it's normal to have some depression off and on, but if it persists, like it doesn't let up, and you are feeling worse, you need to see a doctor. Have you looked on the web site, careerbuilders? Or Monster.com? Or the Ladders? Let me know what happens-J.
Hi J.,
PPD symptoms can occur anywhere up to the one year mark. You may very well be experiencing Post Partum OR simply depression. Nonetheless, it is probably a wise decision to seek help. I experienced PPD after the birth of my second child. It escalated into Post Partum Psychosis and I sought treatment with a Psychiatrist, whom specialized in PPD and was also an OB/GYN AND Psychotherapy with someone that specialized in the same area. I attended group therapy also. My daughter is now 7 and while PPD is clearly gone (thank God) I do now have depression. My case is rare, so please don't be scared into thinking if you do have PPD you'll end up Depressed forever. If you'd like to talk to me, please send me a private message. I'll do my best to help you!
M. M.
I would implore you to contact your doctor right away. This may be just postpartum, but reading between the lines of your post, I think you may be experiencing the feelings of hopelessness that are the hallmarks of depression. T
True postpartum depression usually occurs within the first few months of giving birth. With all of the stressors in your life, I would think that it's something more than that, and you should seek professional medical care.
Hey, I am not sure if this is right or not, but the same thing happened to me at about 7-8 months postpartum. Turned out that my period was finally starting again. I was so bad that I seriously thought it would be a good idea if I joined the army. THE ARMY! I think it is safe to say I was a bit hormonally imbalanced.
It can take a year or so before you body gets completely back to normal. Also, I did notice that I felt more of postpartum depression around the 8to 9 month mark. If you are feeling really down, it couldn't hurt to contact your dr.. I'm sure that your current job situation is not helping your mood (along with the weather!)either.
Some things that help me feel better about myself are doing things for myself. Like plan an afternoon that is just for you to do whatever you want. I usually choose to just be by myself. Whether I'm walking around the mall daydreaming of buying stuff, or eating at a favorite restaurant, scrapbooking with a friend or two. Just anything that I cannot normally do with my husband or baby girl. It truly is amazing how some "me time" can make my mood improve.
Good luck!
Dear J.,
I was really feeling for you when I read your request!! You have a lot on your plate right now, and you are not a failure to anyone!! Sometimes the demands of a baby and a pre-schooler as well as a full time job are enough to drain your reserves. Add to that your pressures surrounding your job status and the unknown future of your employment-sounds like a lot to handle!! You need to pat yourself on the back for keeping all of these "balls" in the air!! Do you have any friends/family that might be willing to help with the kids while you take some time for yourself? A few hours of doing something to "fill your tank" might help you to get some needed energy for your job search. If you have experienced postpartum depression in the past might you be able to talk with a counselor to determine if you are going through this again? Sometimes just talking things through with a supportive, encouraging person might help you feel as if you are getting what you need and then you can give what you need to give.
It really sounds to me like you are doing an amazing job right now!! I will keep you in my prayers, and hope that brighter days are ahead for you J.!!!
M. R
Hi J.,
I don't really have any advice about postpartum symptoms, but I do have a suggestion for the work situation... I don't know if you have tried it but I found my current job through accountemps (aka rhi) both have websites. www.accountemps.com and www.rhi.com they specialize in accounting. A lot of the positions they fill are temp to perm. I worked temp for two weeks at this job and they "bought me" from accountemps. Also they keep the wage pretty high (my opinion) I had SOME experience but very little to no actual educational background for accounting and accountemps started me at 14 per hour and when I was hired on the company upped it to 16 per hour. I had a really hard time finding a job when I moved up here 2 years ago. I hit all the temp places and was submiting resumes and filling out applications EVERYWHERE. I know how down it can make you feel. I went on so many interviews and kept getting turned down because i didn't have the education to back up my experience or not enough experience. At times I felt like no one wanted me and I wasn't good enough for any job. So I just want to say Hugs to you and you will find something! If you want more info feel free to email me at ____@____.com
J.,
I felt postpartum right after I hade my first child, but with my second one i'm just having some symptoms now. She's almost 4 months. If it gets too bad you should probley talk to your doctor. Part of it may be from being laid off after Materity leave. It is so hard finding job right now for anyone. It does'nt matter if you have a degree or not. I know I looked and looked and got no responances. I went to ross medical and got my certificate to be a medical assistant and I can't find nothing. It's very depressing. Well now I am running my own business as a crew member for Noahs Ark Animal Workshop. It's a great opportunity and I love it! I do Stuff-N-Fluff workshops, where each child gets a un-stuffed animal to stuff, name, dress and fill out a birth certificate for it's great fun! It's like Build a bear they have in the malls, but I go to peoples homes or places of business (Daycares and such). The stuffed animals are very high quality, I have'nt found one I haven't liked. Visit my web site and check it out
http://www.noahsarkworkshop.com/lorioneil2288 Let me know what you think. I hope you feel better, I know it's hard looking for a job, Believe it's not that they don't want you. Employers are just swamped with applications when they place an ad for a postion. I had one person tell me they got over 300 aplications for the position I was apply for. It's crazy everyone is in the same boat! L. O
You can get post partum quite a while after cause I hear your body doesn't return to normal to well over a year after having a baby. It can't hurt to check with your doctor. You could also just be feeling down cause of the whole job thing. My husband has been laid off and it is h*** o* everyone. A great site to check out for jobs is www.indeed.com.
Good luck and hope all turns out well!
T.
J.,
I also had post partum and no job after I had our daughter! Nothing helped until I went to talk to a therapist. They ended up prescribing medication while I continued therapy, but even just the therapy helped SO MUCH. Good luck!
You can get postpardom depression any where form right after labor to up to 2 years later! I've been but on Cmbalta and Ativan for it! The Ativan seams to stop the crying, but the cybalta halps a lot too!So Tell your doctor about your symptoms and he will help get you better!
