My son is 3 and a half. He has been fully potty trained for a while now. He started early and I encouraged him. He is now sleeping with out a diaper or anything like that. At home he goes right to the bathroom when he has to go. The big problem he keeps having accidents at daycare only. At first he would poop his pants once in a great while. Now its twice a week. Ive tried everything I could think of. Ive tried special treats if he doesnt have an accident, taking toys away or cartoons if he does. He loves daycare and during the day its just him and one other boy. all the other kids are in school. I dont know what else to do. Does anyone have any ideas. He only does it at daycare no where else.
hi L., here are some things to try. have the daycare teacher use a timer, set it for every 30 to 45 min. he will really enjoy it. when he hears the timer he will knoiw its time to try to sit on the potty. if that doesnt work, try taking his underwear away, give him plain ones or ones he doesnt want, or tell him he will have to wear diapers again. all these are things i have used, and they seem to work. good luck!
Here are a couple of things- One is that at day care, your little one may get very busy and simply "forget" to go to the bathroom. If he's intent on what he's doing, he may simply decide it's easier to poop in his pants than to stop what he's doing. It's a common developmental stage.
OR- there may be more going on. My son would not use the toilet to poop at care because he didn't want his teachers to wipe him. This caused him to try to hold it, and began years of problems with constipation. He would hold it in, and eventually the constant pressure on the rectum weakened those muscles and allowed poop to leak out. He was having accidents often, and it took me a long time to figure it out. Talk to his doc about what's going on just in case.
If his day care provider is shaming him for his accidents, or he's trying to avoid tv being taken away, he may be holding it. But again, it could be as simple as he is just very busy and needs a reminder from the provider to go.
Good luck!
I beleive you are doing alot of things right. I would not take away things if he has an accident though. Giveing him a treat is ok, but punishing him for the accidents could make him regress futher. I would talk to the child care provider and tell her to ask him alot and to make a routine out of having to try and go to the potty. It is most likly a fase something may have happen that he is just not sure about that has made him regress a little bit, but I sure he will get back on track with help from the child care provider and you. Hope I helped.
S.
I'm a child care provider and my first questions that i thought of is... Are the other children at the child care potty trained? Is this a new environment for him? How does the provider handle his accidents? Is he looking for more attention from the provider?
Sorry for all the questions just trying to better understand. As a provider we have certain times that everyone has to "try" the potty. This helps with accidents b/c children usually dont like leaving an acitivty to go the bathroom. So we go before going outside, before rest, then again before afternoon outside time.
I'm not sure what else you could do. You seem to be on top of it and trying all the tactics. Can you provide the care giver with special treats to give for "non" accident days. Stickers are always good. Keep a chart at the child care.
I dont think i answered your question to much but maybe gave you things to think about!
Hi,
You need to connect with the Day Care Center --- Make sure that all your hard work is not going down the toilet!!! (LOL)
Tell them what is going on -- let them know that they need to pay attention and ask him if he has to go before he goes in his pants---
Same thing w/my son I got with the gils there and told them, keep an eye on him they were pretty good about it and we finally got in sync with all parties and the toilet! He is use to you asking him if he has to go! Thats what mommies do!
Let me know
Roberta
