Parents Helping: Adult Child
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The Moral Obligation of the Parents
Asked by K.P. from Columbus
on March 22, 2008
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My husband and I were having an interesting conversation last night that ended in very differing opinions. This morning, we discussed it further and since we each sti...
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- You can't put an age on when you'll stop providing guidance to a child. Even as adults, maturity levels are always different. Heck, I have a brother who will be 30 i...
- If you look at it as an obligation then it stops at 18. If you look at it through a parents eyes, I don't believe it ever stops. If a "child" is in need of some help a...
- I think that there is not a cut and dry answer to your question. It depends on the child. Our responsibility as parents is to create individuals who can thrive in so...
Relationship Problems with My Adult Daughter
Asked by V.S. from Sacramento
on May 18, 2008
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My 25 year old daughter seems to have gone through a change in the last year. We have always gotten along well and been very close. She does have a history of big tem...
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- V., It sounds like you have a very spoiled, self-centered daughter. My husband and I had somewhat similar problems when we had to explain to our adult children that ...
- V., I am so sorry you are going through this as well as so many others that have expressed their sympathy. I am a 32 year old with a daughter and a pretty good relatio...
- Assuming she is not just being a spoiled brat or overstressed, it is very possible she has developed a drug/alcohol problem or could be suffering from bipolar disorder...
Seeking Advise on Supporting a Second Family
Asked by C.J. from Chicago
on May 13, 2008
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Please share your thoughts on this b/c I need to put this to rest. A good friend for over 24 years divorced her husband just about 1 year ago. She has 3 beautiful gi...
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- NONONONONONONONO. I realize you feel guilty, but leave it up to her family to help. Your lives will be drastically changed You have enough challenges already. Give ...
- Do you have a basement or area that they could call there own for short term, maybr 1 month to get on her feet. Her teens should be sitting the younger one and she nee...
- Whatever you do , DO NOT let her move in with you. Your friend needs to grow up and take some responsibility for herself and her family.She will take all you give her ...
Should I Have Rules for a 20 Year Old If She Still Lives at Home
Asked by N.T. from San Francisco
on July 30, 2008
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My request for you to give me some advice
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- I would sit down and have a talk with her. I think she should have rules, she still lives at home. Is she working or going to school? If going to school she can lend a...
- First of all, the in-and-out as she pleases has to stop. You have a home, not a motel. She either lives with you or she doesn't, period. If she lives with you, then...
- It is always a sticky situation with an adult child living at home--- but YES, its still your house and especially when you still have a financial stake in her life th...
College: Who Pays? Child or Parent?
Asked by K.L. from Memphis
on May 18, 2009
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Do you think that a child's first four years of college is the parent's responsiblity if the parent did not save for it?
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- One thing to consider: start saving, or helping them save now. Then the money can can then be used for whatever you all feel it's best suited for, when the time comes....
- I definitely am a strong believer in parents helping to pay for college. I am aware it is not cheap and unfortunately keeps getting more and more expensive. I would ...
- For every A they get 100.00 put into a college fund. With A's hopefully, they will get a scholarship. But they need to work for it too, and there is no reason why the...
Adult Children at Home
Asked by D.A. from Boston
on February 19, 2008
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Are there any older moms out there dealing with this ? I have a 20something year old who is afraid to laucn unless "everything" ($$,job,etc)is "perfect" (????). Are th...
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- Maybe my advice won't be helpful, but here it is anyway. I'm 30. I moved out when I started college at 18, as is usual. Came back for a few vacations and the first ...
- It may sound mean but make this child accept responsibility for his/her own life. Nothing will ever be perfect, so they will take longer to move. Start by charging roo...
- Yes D. we did have to deal with a nestling not wanting to leave the nest. Only ours was a boy. When he turned 27 we had a little chat with him and told him it was time...
Husbands Angry Temper!
Asked by G.F. from San Francisco
on June 27, 2007
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OK... I have officially had it! I love my husband to death, but if I have to deal with him losing his patience one more time over my newborn crying, I think I am goin...
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- I'm sorry for your pain! I don't have much advice but wanted to let you know I've been there. My soon to be ex husband was the same way with our four kids (ages 2,...
- maybe anger management classes, sounds like he just dosen't know how to control it or doesn'et know any other coping strategeies, sounds like he regrets it later....it...
- Hi G., Well let me tell you I’m a social worker and everyday helping families sooo I will try to help you and your family out. But let me tell you that I also w...
Staying Home with 5 Year Old
Asked by A.C. from Tulsa
on September 16, 2008
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Hey everyone. I am a SAHM of a 5 year old little boy who is in pre k this year. I have two step kids, but they are not with us much. I have chosen to continue to stay...
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- Please do not let anyone try to make you think that you have to get a job!! Taking care of a 5 yr old, a husband, and a home is a full time job. I am in the exact op...
- You are very fortunate to be able to be a sahm. However for some reason you seem to be unsecure. Why is it so important what other people think? Enjoy your family! ...
- Since this is a different era, if you don't already have a degree you may consider getting one. SAHM truly doesn't last forever in the 21st century. Not placing your...
Seeking Advice on Teen Step-daughter Issues
Asked by V.S. from Chicago
on October 25, 2008
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Hey Mamasource mamas,
So here is the nitey gritey. I have a 15 yo step-daughter who lives with her mother. I have known her since she was 6yo. We have had our ups a...
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- Sorry I disagree with the people who say that her parents have to be the ones that do something. I think that as step-parents we take on an obligation when we marry th...
- Unfortunately, there is not much you can do for her. She lives with the mom, and dad sounds like he is in denial. Things would be different if she lived with you and...
- I will advise you to turn attention to your own girls. Right now they are little but they will grow up. Your step daughter lives with her mom, so why are you bothering...
Baby Shower Etiquette and Family Favoritism
Asked by B.B. from Jacksonville
on August 31, 2006
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My whole family lives in Canada. I would like to consider inviting them to my baby shower but I don't know if it is appropriate. I know none of them will probably come...
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- I hope everything went well... I used to run a baby registry desk, and unfortunately there are some people who will look at a 5-10 page registry and say the mom is bei...
- Hi, B. I realize this post is very old and the situation is no longer about your baby shower. but I felt I wanted to try to encourage you because I know what you are ...
- To everyone here, It's interesting how people take things very personally. From what I've read, it looks as if the grandparents are behaving differently according to...
