Parents Helping: Adult Child
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The Moral Obligation of the Parents
Asked by K.P. from Columbus
on March 22, 2008
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My husband and I were having an interesting conversation last night that ended in very differing opinions. This morning, we discussed it further and since we each sti...
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- You can't put an age on when you'll stop providing guidance to a child. Even as adults, maturity levels are always different. Heck, I have a brother who will be 30 i...
- If you look at it as an obligation then it stops at 18. If you look at it through a parents eyes, I don't believe it ever stops. If a "child" is in need of some help a...
- I think that there is not a cut and dry answer to your question. It depends on the child. Our responsibility as parents is to create individuals who can thrive in so...
Relationship Problems with My Adult Daughter
Asked by V.S. from Sacramento
on May 18, 2008
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My 25 year old daughter seems to have gone through a change in the last year. We have always gotten along well and been very close. She does have a history of big tem...
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- V., It sounds like you have a very spoiled, self-centered daughter. My husband and I had somewhat similar problems when we had to explain to our adult children that ...
- V., I am so sorry you are going through this as well as so many others that have expressed their sympathy. I am a 32 year old with a daughter and a pretty good relatio...
- Assuming she is not just being a spoiled brat or overstressed, it is very possible she has developed a drug/alcohol problem or could be suffering from bipolar disorder...
Paying for the Wedding Costs of an Adult Child
Asked by M.V. from Washington DC
on August 21, 2010
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What costs are expected of you if the child has lived with his fiance for 5 years? Especially when you have expenses you constantly have to borrow from family members ...
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- The parents should sit down with their child and discuss what types of things the child would like for the ceremony, etc. Then they should be honest with what they ca...
- From your post I assume her child is male. Traditionally the grooms parents pay for the rehearsal dinner. But if he is an older adult and has been living with his fian...
- Zero, zip, nada, nil! They've played house for 5 years now they can pony up the money for their own wedding!
18 Year Old Daughter
Asked by A.M. from Minneapolis
on August 12, 2010
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My daughter just turned 18 (4 days ago) and she wants to move out of state (19 hours away) to live with her 20 year old online boyfriend, who doesn't have a job and th...
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- I added some extra info after I sent this to you Please reread. Do everything in your power to stop her. Take her to the police dept. and have them educate he...
- It's a MAJOR RED FLAG that 'someone' will pay for her to go there, but not the reverse. Sounds way too much like a scam/trap to me. Sorry to be alarmist, but that is...
- Yes, it is her decision, you can't legally stop her. The best that you can do is suggest other alternatives for now (such as having him visit or visiting him for a sh...
Refuse to Let Adult Child Move Back Home?
Asked by J.G. from Minneapolis
on November 12, 2011
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Ok, so brief background: I don't have any grown children but I do have a mother who, in many ways, acts like my teenage daughter more than my mother. She is fairly fre...
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- Lol, this post could almost be what my daughter would post about me. Please bear with this long background explanation. For my example, my 5-1/2 year relationship wi...
- By allowing her to move in now, you are setting yourself up for more drama on an every day basis, and you would be enabling her to keep not taking care of herself and ...
- Go with your gut. You know that if you move her in with you, the drama will be part of the deal. You already know you don't want or need that. LIke someone else said -...
My Mom Is Making Me Crazy
Asked by S.H. from Killeen
on June 22, 2011
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My mother is driving me crazy and I have no idea how to handle it. There are two parts to this....sorry if it gets long. First of all right after I got married the fir...
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- Okay. Financially, I think you've fulfilled your obligation to your parents. Now your mother is emotionally blackmailing you. And living with you, she's exerting he...
- I think its time to tell mom&dad to pack their bags. It sounds like them living with you isnt helping anyone. Sure you want to help your parents, but not all families ...
- You and your hubby need to show a united front against your parents. It's time to sit them down for a talk. Set a date on Sept 1st you need to be in your own apartme...
Family Matters
Asked by A.M. from San Francisco
on December 2, 2010
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SO, my parents, sister and brother have moved in with us for about 4 months now. My husband was ok with it, he said my parents can stay in our daughters rooms. my brot...
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- People living together is extremely difficult, especially when you have respect issues. I think you need to call a house meeting and air your concerns. Nothing is go...
- You don't mention the reason your family is there or how long you expect them to stay. No matter why they are there, they do need to respect you, your husband and you...
- Communication is key. It sounds like you need to sit down, first with just your parents and express your feelings to them. Don't leave until it's resolved. Then sit...
College Tuition: Whose Responsibility Is It?
Asked by A.B. from Pittsburgh
on August 7, 2011
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I have thoughts on pros and cons of both sides to this, but I'm very curious as to what your thoughts are.
* Provided college is the right choice for your child, th...
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- Here's the deal my parents made with my brothers and me. They paid our tuition, but we only had four years. Anything beyond four years had to come out of our pocket. I...
- I think if parents are able to help their children with college or after-school training tuition, then that's awesome, but there's nothing wrong with a kid having to c...
- If any of our children want a college degree, we believe it should be done as cheaply, quickly and as close to home as possible. The first two years are high school re...
Poll on What You Think About Repaying Parents
Asked by C.M. from Chicago
on October 2, 2009
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I just wanted to know what others thought about repaying parents back money that you have borrowed from them. Do you feel that you should or shouldn't and why or why ...
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- (written after your update) It sounds like you are doing the right thing-being VERY clear about when you can repay and the reasoning why-sorry to hear about your hu...
- I think that you should repay your parents if you borrowed money and it was not given as a gift. If you borrowed the money from a bank would you question whether or no...
- Loans should be documented in writing and signed by both parties clearly spelling out the amount borrowed and when it is expected to be paid back. I agree with the ear...
20 Yr Old Daughter Wants to Move in with Her Boyfriend and His Family
Asked by D.T. from Dallas
on January 11, 2012
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My daughter who is now 20 moved in with her father at 18 (senior in high school) basically because his house rules were much more relaxed then mine. She is now 20, ha...
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- If your daughter wants the continued benefits of living at home she needs to live at home. Personally, I wouldn't pay for the car or her schooling. My father would've ...
- My 18 y/o wants to marry her 19 y/o BF and transfer colleges to be closer to his duty station so I feel your pain but I have talked with her letting her know that I do...
- Yes, you are doing the right thing. Sit her down and and tell her that since she feels like she is old enough to be out on her own (ie moving in her with her boyfrie...
