Adult Child
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18 Year Old Daughter
Asked by A.M. from Columbus
on August 29, 2010
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Hi,
My 18 year old daughter is sleeping overnight with a boyfriend. I have told her that this is not acceptable to me and that it is definetly not ladylike. She to...
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- First of all using terms like "tramp" is NOT appropriate for any mother to use. While your daughter's behavior at this age is not acceptable you need to realize at thi...
- Okay A., After reading the responses you got I have to say this.....especially to the Mom's that seem to think an 18 year old having sex is a major offense. How many ...
- The day that any of my kids, who are living under my roof, thinks its ok to stay the night at a boyfriends/girlfriends home will have their bags packed waiting for the...
Adult Child Issues
Asked by J.P. from Chicago
on April 18, 2011
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Hi Moms,
When does an adult child, mine for instance he is 20 become responsible for their own choices?? My son who is 20 years old almost 21 lives with his dad ...
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- How about tell him he can live there when he gets a FT job and/or enrolls in school? Seriously, I'm all about second chances and there may be a little of him seekin...
- If it were me, I would tell my son what day the move would be on and he would have to come up with his own arrangements by then. He is an adult, this is HIS problem. N...
- if you take him in lay ground rules, he has to have a job by this date, he has to pay X amount of rent by this date, he has to follow these house rules and have him si...
Bad Relationship with My Adult Daughter
Asked by D.D. from New York
on July 28, 2010
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My adult daughter does not want to deal with me at all,she does not want to speak to me.That happens because of my fault. Is there any way to make her forgive me?
I ...
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- I'd start with a letter...and state EXACTLY what you just said to us. Its my fault. I feel guilty. I said aweful words... Then I tell her that I loved her...no m...
- You need to change, and give her time. Write her a letter explaining the sorrow you feel for the way you treated her and let her know how proud you are of her and how ...
- Dear D., I don't know what you did or said but you may have to let some time pass. You cannot make her do anything but maybe you can write to her and tell her you are ...
Need Help with Troubled Adult Child
Asked by D.C. from Boise
on October 29, 2008
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Well Ladies, I have never done this so please be patiant. I have a Foster son, whom I helped raise from the time he was six. I didnt get full care of him until he was ...
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- It might not help but what if it would? Sometimes even as adults we need to know that mom loves us and cares. It might be a wake up call for him if you did track him...
- I'm sorry that has to be such a difficult spot to be in! I honestly think that there is nothing you can do for him, at least not until he wants the help, the best y...
- D., First of all, God bless you and your husbands efforts to love a child as your own flesh and blood. That is a special calling. Second, I have no experience as ...
My Adult Daughter Doesn't Seem to Need Me
Asked by C.H. from Grand Rapids
on August 30, 2010
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How do I get my adult daughter to share the ups and downs of her life with me? I know that she's got a very busy life with a full time job, a beautiful 4 year old son...
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- ...Judging by her reaction to you, ie: defensiveness and then hanging up the phone on you... I would say, that yes, she was avoiding your calls. next, sure she may ...
- Yikes.. She sounds like a young mom with a very busy life. You sound like a wonderful mom. You remind me of my mom.. Many times, she would call or email and I just...
- At this point, she shouldn't need you in most ways. She is an adult now. She will choose what and how she communicates with you. I know you desire more then that, but...
18 Year Old Not Listening to Me....
Asked by W.K. from New York
on August 27, 2011
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Im so frustrated and angry right now. My sons 18 & 17 decided to spend the week with their father, they were supposed to come home on Sunday, well we are supposed to g...
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- I don't know for sure what area he's in but isn't he really safer there?
- First off...take a deep breath. Okay...17 and 18 year olds don't listen to their mothers anyway. You are worried and that's normal for a momma, but you are overreac...
- I sooo feel your pain. This afternoon my bro called to tell me HIS 19 yo was stranded in NYC with her BF. I'm like, are you for real? What am I supposed to do about it...
Mother and Adult Daughter
Asked by J.T. from Washington DC
on August 20, 2009
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My adult daughter doesn't want me in her life. I am out of the inner loop. What can I do?
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- Again, you didn't provide too many details, but I'll tell you that my mother and I had a lot of problems dealing with each other. Especially after my younger brother d...
- I'm guessing this didn't happen over night. Is she hanging out with a bad crowd or is she busy working, dating, going to school, etc? Some detail on how things got t...
- How old is she and what are the reasons? It may take time if there are any hurts that haven't been dealt with. However, you could start writing to her and hope that on...
17 And 18 Year Old Children
Asked by L.F. from Sioux Falls
on June 2, 2011
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I am so frustrated! Last week my son graduated from high school. I told him three house rules need to be followed. Rule 1 - call or text us if he is not coming home at...
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- I would say sell them to a band of gypsies but I don't think they have any real value at that age. I am lucky, mine do pay their bills, cleaning not so much. Well ...
- I completely agree with Krista P. What does your husband say about all this?
- They are actually completely in control... of you and your household. The 17 yr old can go live with his mother. The 18 yr old has 2 weeks to find a place to live....
How to Deal with an 18 Year Old Living at Home
Asked by L.G. from San Francisco
on July 6, 2009
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Hello mamas. I really need some advice on how to go about handling my daughter who is 18 and living at home. She is a responsible person who has a part-time job, has...
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- My 18 year old son has just come home from Southern California after trying to move out on his own, and not being able to find a job. He had a little money left him by...
- You wrote that your daughter is a "responsible person" and then you detailed how she breaks the law every single night, and ignores the house rules and the feelings (s...
- I have to tell you, having a new adult child can be more challenging than a willful 3 year old. Unfortunately like a 3 year old you need to set the boundaries and pray...
18 Year Old Out of Control!
Asked by D.B. from Dothan
on March 3, 2008
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I have an 18 year old daughter. She is in 11th grade, she works part time after school. She has no respect for me or my husband (her step dad). I constantly am doing f...
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- I'm sorry to hear what you are going through. Don't be afraid of your daughter. She knows she can threaten you (mentally speaking)and she is getting away with it. St...
- I agree that tough love is the best way to go. Tell her what you expect from her, but try not to be confrontational. At 18, she thinks she knows EVERYTHING ( trust m...
- Hi D.: Since your daughter is 18 now, I think it would be a "wake-up call" to her if you could bear to let go a little---and then NOT bailing her out when she does...
