Hi,
I am 42, had miscarriage 9 months ago, was 4 months pregnant when it happened. The baby was all tangled in the cord.
I had d&c and since then trying to get preg every month!!!! I am aware to my ovulation days,and we have sex every day- so there is not a chance we miss the ovulation day....
From some reason I can't get preg again and I can't understand why. I never had problems with getting preg, even the last preg when I had the m/c ,I got preg after 4 months, was 41, so it was not so long.
I would appreciate if women out there will share with me their experience , if they have, or any information that might help me.
I do have an appo with my doc next week, but till then, if any of you have any information that might help me- please do so.
thank you
At 42 I would see a fertility specialist. Even if you have never had a problem getting pregnant before, time is running against you. It's harsh to say this, but in your 40's your fertility is so rapidly declining, it not worth wasting any time.
Good luck!
My only tip based on your post would be to slow down. Having sex everyday is usually not recommended, it fact they suggest that your husband try to abstain from ejaculating for a few days before ovulation time so his count will be at its highest.
When you see your Physician, ask for blood work to check your blood sugar, and a complete thyroid panel. I'd also ask for a test to measure your female hormone levels.
Hey Chica, you're not alone. About a year ago I had my third miscarriage. I have one healthy 8 year old boy from a previous relationship. My current husband and I have had horrible luck trying to have a baby together. The doctor can't tell me what's wrong. After third misscariage my Dr. wanted to do a d&c so they could test the tissue for chromosomal abnormalities. The tests came back fine, but ever since I haven't had any luck getting pregnant. My periods are really long and painful, it's almost as if my ovulation is out of wack. I'm getting the courage up to go back to the doctor, for the umpeenth time to see what's wrong with me.
It's very frustrating, but you aren't alone. I'm there with you, this whole situation sucks but I'm hoping to one day have a healthy baby!! Don't give up!
Hey hon,
It took me a little over a year to get pregnant after my D&C. What's funny is it was after we stopped with the charting and the timing and all of that, and just put the "effort" of getting pregnant on hold. We had sex when we felt like it, enjoyed ourselves, and (mostly) tried not to obsess about the outcome for a while. It was also after I'd taken a little time on my own to deal with some of my grief about and memorialize the baby I -- we -- lost. I probably would have gone to see a fertility specialist if it had been much longer, but ... what we really needed was to take some of the pressure off ourselves.
Even though our situations are not identical -- I'm in my twenties, and my D&C was my first pregnancy, and the miscarriage happened much earlier than yours -- it sounds like you're feeling a lot of the frantic, frustrated sadness and exasperation that I remember all too vividly. And for that, I can only remind you (because you know, and you've probably heard all too often) that it will turn out all right, really. Take comfort in and strength from the people around you who love you -- including your husband -- as well as the wonderful community here. You are not alone in this.
All the best,
Mel Morgan
talk to the dr. see what he or she says.. Have sex all the time..not just on those days... relax and enjoy... you can take some cough meds too.. this helps sometimes.. it sounds crazy but it helps... good luck... say a prayer too.. you never know..
Have you had your progesterone levels checked? It might be low and is very common. Simple blood test. Also, having sex every other day is recommended. A consultation with a fertility specialist might answer many of your questions.
It is possible for a D&C to cause damage that can prevent pregnancy. Also sometimes the miscarriage itself can cause problems. There is something called Asherman's Syndrome which is basically trauma to the inside lining of the uterus. Sometimes a D&C can cause adhesions on the uturus that can prevent pregnancy. There are lots of possibilities. If you didn't have fertility problems before but now you do, I would ask your doctors specifically about these possibilities and get testing done. If it is adhesions I know there is a surgery that can possibly fix it. Hope you find what is going on.
