I was married for 7 and half years to my three boys Father. I have been remarried going on three years and my ex-husband is getting remarried. My problem is he was a very neat and clean person when we was together and a wonderful Father. When I left I didn't have a home of my own or a job( now I have my stuff together and going to school) so I left the kids with him so they would have all they wanted and needed that I couldn't give them. The thing is my kids come to me every other weekend telling me things and I will talk to my ex about it and what the kids say is true. One thing that bothers me is the girl has two kids of her own a total of five kids and they make them share bath water. Her little girl gets the fresh water then all four boys have to take turns in the same bath water. Sorry I find that gross. I have talked to him about it he said he would stop making them he is still doing the same thing. Am I over reacting about this or is this unclean. What can I do about this since talking has not worked. Please all the advice will help.
Thanks everyone for all of the great advice. I used all of them I think and nothing was working. I had to go as far as to threating him about going to the school and talking to them. I also told him that CPS would get involved if I went to the school. Well it worked. Sometimes I guess we have to threat to get the right thing done. Now all of my kids have their own bath water yeah. Just wanted to let everyone know the outcome.
Ok, I give both my boys a bath at the same time, that is easier for me to keep my eyes on them at the same time, and even if i dont they still try to climb in together. Anyway, i think that for all 5 of them to share the same water is very gross, what is the big deal if they cant afford the water bill or what?? I would keep on it if i were you. Good Luck!!
Dear ones,
You may-be overreacting..When I was a girl in the fifties, the four of us shared bathwater, or Mom/Dad would follow one or some of us and use the water we had started.
That was in the times when we wore the same outer clothes for a week and only bathed on Saturday night.
The world is much more conscious and forward thinking at this time. But your recycling of the bathwater could be on-scale. Compare with what I said of myself, above. And go figure...
What I don't like is the discrimination that HER girl goes first and several boys take what's left. Two or three on the same bathwater is probably plenty. Everyone knows that little girls are cleaner than little boys; or is that discrimination, too...?
Right now I'm living in the Third World. Children on the indigenous reserve get a GLASS of water in the morning, to wash their faces and mouths and brush their teeth. When they want a complete bath, they head for the river, usually late afternoon or early evening. But everyone is really clean and loves to be clean. You don't smell anyone's bad body odour there.
We need to be thankful for OUR warm water, bubble suds, and sharing in all its forms...
God love and bless you and bring you through prayer and reflection to the realisation of true values and true virtues....
I think you are doing the right thing and talking to your ex about what your kids tell you.Them all taking a bath in the same water is gross and if I was you I would try and get my kids back.You can go to the Attorney General Office in your area and talk to one of the caseworkers,or you can always call CPS and talk to them about your situation and see what they tell you.That's just like my cousin she's nasty to and she about to be 22 and has 4 kids and she do her kids bad for real.
Good Luck
Totally discusting.. the problem is shes treating your kids like STEP KIDS... which is so wrong... you are right and keep on him about it... that is ridiculous. i have six children his mine and ours and i would never do that.. i also have an ex husband and he would NEVER do that... im so sorry for you..you must love your kids very much to have given them up for tat reason. I was in realestate before and i see you are going to school... if u ever want information about what i do from home... email me... i am making about 6000.00 a month and it has blessed my family.. thats not why i was writing but just thought i tell you that too... take care and good luck ____@____.com
I would ask your ex-husband if all three of the boys could shower together. My eight & three year old daughters love taking showers over baths. They take a shower together since my oldest is old enough to help with getting her younger sister cleaned up. A shower is a cleaner alternative than a bath in my opinion. And my girls shower every other day instead of every day.
Dear T.:
Unless kids are muddy, occasional sharing a bath among two is OK, but five??? If they are so keen on conserving water, do they run the bath water through a Brita filter afterwards to make tea? :-)
If it was the girl, and two sets of two boys for a total of three baths, I would not be upset, but I can see where you are coming from. If you cannot change that, perhaps you can tell your boys to rinse off with the shower after their turns.
Good luck,
W.
I agree, everyone should have new bath water. Have you talked to your ex since you've found out it's still going on? Be calm when you do, make sure the kids don't over hear. Kids deserve to be kids and shouldn't have adult burdens! and NEVER let your boys hear you say anything negative about their father or his new wife!!!
My advise is this. He is going to do what he wants reguardless of your feelings on the matter. I don't know how old your boys are so I don't know if they can but teach them to run their own water. You are talking to a wall sister when it comes to the new wife. Good Luck!
you should talk to your ex and let him know how u feel. also let him know how nasty a kid is and to have to share bath water is just gross. that kids pick up all kinds of germs and how easy they spread from kid to kid. if this person lives in nolanville or killeen your water bill will not go up unless watering your yard. and your kids should come first.
I also find that gross I dont let my two kids share bath water. You could suggest showers then??
