Shettles Method, Does It Work??

Updated on March 22, 2013
J.W. asks from Kaneohe, HI
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Anyone tried the Shettles method with success? I have an adorable son, and I love him to pieces, and wouldn't mind having another son, but I would really like to have a daughter too. Of course, having a healthy baby regardless of the sex is priority #1 for both me and my husband, I can't help but dream of dresses, ballet classes, and bows! We have been trying the Shettles Method for the past 5 months, with no luck at conceiving. I was able to conceive my son the first month of trying. Just wondering if there are any other moms out there that tried using this method with success (having the gender they preferred) and how long did it take?

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Apparently I need to watch my wording when asking a question!! I wasn't saying I wanted to predict a daughter's personality, just wanted to try to see if the Shettles method worked on trying for a girl! I was just associating bows, dresses, etc. with a girl not trying to imply that she SHOULD wear bows, dresses, or take ballet. Geez ladies! I climbed trees too, I wore big clunky Nike sneakers when I was a little girl, but I also liked dresses. One little phrase out of my question, and it some take it the wrong way. Thank you to those who answered the actual question.

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M.P.

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LOL I have to comment that having a girl does not guarentee dresses, ballet classes and bows. My two granddaughters are not interested in any of that.

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R.J.

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If there was a way (outside of either invitro of female embryos only, orcreating female sexed XY chromosome indoviduals... Which is totally doable... But know a large number of sex reassignment surgeries follow XY females)

It would be all over the news

That book was written in the 60s

Over 50 years in practice.

And the odds are still the same.

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Ditto... We were grass stains, broken arms, and frogs tomboy girls (mostly) in my family as well. Even if you go invitro, or revert femaleXY, you can't choose personality.

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V.W.

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Me three.

I wasn't into that stuff. And surprise! Neither is my daughter. She prefers things like karate (and now she wants to ride horses). She has never liked wearing pink, and certainly no lace. Nothing in the hair. No bows or ribbons. It was all I could do to keep a barrette in her hair (for practical purposes, to keep it out of her face) in kindergarten. The second she was dismissed from school, it was out of her hair--before she was even strapped into her booster seat.
She loves denim jeans. Tshirts (not the frilly girly kind, but the sports kind). She likes music though, and is finally starting to warm up to painting her nails (she is almost 12). She refused to even carry a purse until this year. Dresses and heels? Mmmmm... No.

She did decide to get her ears pierced about 2 years ago... and she wears little pearl studs most of the time. But nothing really sparkly or bangles of any kind.

You just never know. There are no guarantees with kids.

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M.R.

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I just want you to know that I have 2 girls, and one boy....and my girls have never been into 'dresses, ballet classes and bows.' So don't have girls thinking that dream is ever going to be a reality.

My girls are athletic and one daughter wears an appropriate figure skating dress for competition, but it comes off immediately after. Now, my son, he's the one who loves pink, is a competitive ballroom dancer, and has very pretty girlfriends.

But that didn't answer your question...I used an on-line ovulation predictor and followed their advice for a girl, and it worked.

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J.W.

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Don't know which one that is but I second Marda, not all girls are into ballet and bows. I have two boys, two girls and until they were teens there was very little difference in their interests.

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M.M.

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50% for me.

I used it for both kids, and was trying for boys both times.
I have 1 boy, and 1 tenacious and adorable little girl. :)

Nature is going to make that decison for you, no matter what you do.

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H.L.

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It worked for me. We had our girl first, than a boy. We managed to conceive in 1-2 months. If I'm remembering correctly, to conceive a girl you are trying further away from your actual ovulation date. So, it would probably take longer, since it's harder to hit that window correctly. I remember I would get a sharp pain for when my ovulation started and for our girl we tried right after that pain (when egg is released). Then for our boy I had to wait until later in the process. It's fun to try to control and you know the outcome will be wonderful either way! Everyone who I've know to use that method has had the gender they were hoping for.

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K.C.

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It did work for me. I had a son first - just naturally, didn't try Shettles then - and really wanted a daughter second. We got her!
If it's not working for you, maybe try having sex one more day closer to ovulation than you have been. It's possible that you're stopping a bit too soon.

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E.S.

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Love my tomboy girl. My mom realized that I was no bow or ballet gal either. Love what you get and who they are. Mine has worn a dress three times!

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C.V.

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Yes it worked for us on the first try. I followed it for a boy and he's now due in May:)

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A.L.

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You never know what you are going to get.

I have one very tom boy girl who plays every sport including football and refuses to even think about wearing a dress, hates to even brush her hair, and hangs with the boys most of the time.

My youngest refuses to wear pants, loves her hair done up, is in dancing and everything else you would consider girly.

They are polar opposites of each other and have very different personalities. In my opinion you really cannot predict or try to pick what you are going to get.

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K.W.

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You will think I'm crazy...but...
There had been no girls conceived in my husband's family for 4 generations...and we had a boy, then tried the Shettles method and had another boy. So, in desperation, I sent for an astrological fertility chart from Llewellyn Astrological services...which sent me a recommendation based on my chart. It said if I got pregnant on May 5th of that year, it would be a girl. That seemed too early in my cycle to get pregnant, but I figured we had nothing to lose. Nine months later I gave birth to my gorgeous daughter.
Love,
K.

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J.W.

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Have to back you up J.....funnty how band wagons work...Marda was answering cute and everyone jumped on board. I didn't get that out of your question at all and simply looked to see what the answers were for future reference :) Imagine my disappointment that it was all about how different girls can be....hmmm aren't all kids different??? Just saying...

Best of luck to you

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