Regressed Potty Training Dilemma

Updated on July 19, 2008
A.L. asks from Lincoln, NE
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My son is 3 1/2 and has been potty trained for 6 months. Since summer started, he has been having problems with "accidents". He may just "dribble" in his pants(most typical), or he may all out wet himself, and on 3 occassions, poop in his pants. It began as him not wanting to stop playing outside to come in and use the bathroom, but it has progressed into happening anywhere. I am 99% sure it is a behavioral problem and not a health issue because of what he is doing and the fact that he is very stubborn. He doesn't seem to mind at all when it happens, but I am at my wits end! :) I have tried the route of taking away things he loves... certain toys, swim time, gum, etc. I have tried reverting him back to wearing a pull-up, he still doesn't care. He'll ask if he can wear underwear when he gets dressed, but if I let him try it, he'll pee in them; or if I say no, he'll leave it at that. Do I need to start from scratch and go back to the potty sticker chart?? I have a hard time doing this though, I feel like I'm praising him for going backwards when he knows better. Anyone else been through this?!?!

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M.C.

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My daughter was potty trained when she was 2. She is 5 1/2 now. About 8 months ago she started peeing her pants. I just thought it was because she had just started preschool. Then we moved. Then she started pooping her pants. Then last month she started complaining about her back and tummy hurting. But she never complained of it hurting when she peed. Took her to the doc, she had a UTI. Put her on the meds and she has only had 3 potty accidents, 2 during naps and one other. So see what the doc says.

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T.C.

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We are going through the same thing in our house! I have found that the "stay positive" mantra has worked the best. The best results we have had have come from doing what we call a "dry pants dance." Any time he goes to the potty and still has dry pants, we all sing and do a little dance. My son thinks this is hilarious and loves it. It has definitely encouraged the dry pants. It hasn't totally fixed the problem, but has improved it drastically... I'm trying to stay patient! I am anxious to see what other suggestions you get about this problem! Good luck!

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B.H.

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My daughter has "accidents" (also just dribbles) all the time out of pure laziness and being stubborn or to busy.She always waits til the last possible minute to use the restroom. My daughter is almost 7.

My daughter is fully capable and responsible for her mistakes, I don't help at all I let her clean herself up, put the soiled clothes in the laundry, and get new clothing on. The stress is off of me so I'm not crabby or upset and because it takes so much more work on my daughter's part her accidents have really decreased. She's been fully responsible for her accidents since around age 3-4 it's not a everyday thing but I'd say atleast once a month she just waits to long to use the bathroom. My daughter is an extremely stubborn independant child and this solution has worked great for us.

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T.H.

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I agree with Beth - and would also add that w/my 3 yr-old daughter, I have stopped taking any extra clothing whatsoever when we go out. If she has an accident in the park, shopping, concert, etc, we go immediately home. This has kept her almost 100% dry on these occasions, whereas she will still wet/poop in her panties when at home because she doesn't want to stop playing.

Good luck!

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T.N.

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A.,
I'm responding not to give you an answer, but to tell you "I've been there." My son went through that at the same age. I've always attributed it to his way laid back personality. He just didn't care enough about the process to be bothered with it. He knew how to use the potty, but if he was busy, whatever he was doing was more important. No amount of stickers, prizes or even taking away of privileges worked. Looking back on that year, I spent much of it frustrated and angry. Knowing what I know now, I think I would have tried to worry less about it and just "take care of it". By four, he outgrew the behavior. I feel for ya though!

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