Night Clothes

Hi S.,
This comes to you from a 43 year old. Sometimes I get hot or cold at night so I like to have options and I too only dress sexy for certain occations. Normally in the winter I wear a 3/4 sleeve night shirt with sweat pants. I find them comfy and if I get hot, I simply slip off my sweat pants and crawl under my covers. In the summer I wear a sleeveless or short sleeved night shirt and shorts. Most of my clothing is inexpensive as I shop at Kohls and Walmart. Hope this helps.
Joanie

I like to wear tank tops w/lounge or workout type pants....

Forget about that scar, honey- he doesn't care about it one bit! I would suggest some counseling for you to get over that scar. I have LOTS of scars- really bad deep stretch marks from having 3 babies- looks like I was attacked by a shark (infact I have fooled several people to think that I WAS! Just as a joke of course) It looks nothing like a stomach- it looks like a war wound. My husband doesn't care. They don't worry me one bit. I sleep naked sometimes and have no trouble wearing sexy lingerie any day of the week! Also don't you worry about that small bust! I WISH I had a small bust! I started out a DD in High School! OUCH! and after every baby my cup size went down by one. At present I'm a large B/ small C- but they are NOT the happy perky little ladies they were before babies sucked the life out of them! If I had small boobies, they wouldn't be hanging halfway to my belly button! (That can at times be my sorespot- see I need counseling , too! UGG)

Point is DON"T WORRY ABOUT YOUR BODY! Your man DOES NOT CARE! He loves every inch of it- ugly, beautiful, sagging, small, large- he LOVES IT. Time for you to love it too! Wear something super sexy tonite- whether your scar is out or not- he won't care about that, he's going to be so distracted by the rest of you! Be a goddess- inside and out, Love, that is what you are. Time to feel like it.

What about one of those long nightgowns with the fitted bust? (like a slip but prettier) I don't know if that'd be flattering for your top, but it would hide the scar that you're so self-conscious of. And, assuming you find one that you like the look of, you'd feel pretty without feeling overexposed. There are nightgowns out there like this that aren't see-through/sheer/too lacy if you look around.

Me, I wear what's comfortable. Sweatpants, modest winter top-and-bottom jammies, that sort of thing. I tried pretty/semi-sexy nightwear and my hubby complained that I had too much clothing on! :) So I just wear comfy stuff that he can, ahem, get into easily :)

Why don't you try wearing a chemise ? You can get them just about anywhere. Not all are "super sexy", but they let you show off your legs and arms, keeping other things covered. You can buy them in knits as well as satiny fabrics.
And as for your scar, if you've had it almost all your life, I'm sure your husband knows about it and has probably seen it often, so if it doesn't bother him, try not to let it bother you. Be happy.

First of all as long as you are comfy and you and your hubby don't have any other nighttime issues then don't stress bout what you're wearing. If you want to wear lounge pants, have you ever thought about getting some that are prettier/silky/fancy? Same with the top. You can find really cute little combos nowdays that are younger looking and help you feel good but still don't have you just sleeping in a thong. Most of the retail stores have a good selection of cute nightwear. I have a 16 year-old sister-in-law who is constantly sending me this stuff so I know it's out there. You can still be a little covered and be cute. Also maybe try night shorts if they don't show your scar. That would be very cute as spring and summer get here. Good luck and happy shopping!

Hi S.
I just went to victoria's secret bc i was walking in the mall and i saw the store and i felt bad that i always wear big tshirts to bed. I am married and my husband would love me to wear something different to bed. I want to be comfortable though. I have kids i get up with and my mom spends the night at our house almost every night. A lot of materials react badly on me so i found these little nighties with beautiful colors and the material is the best cotton and they come to the knee or slightly above it. I feel a little more feminine and my husband is happy. Try them!

I like to wear silkie shorts and a tank top. Not too short of shorts though because of the kids, but my husband still goes nuts. I can wear a short bathrobe until we hit the hay, but he likes to feel skin on skin and since we are blessed with kids who end up in bed half the time we have to watch it. If not that, than I just wear anything silkie. He just likes the feeling. And plus a light scent of perfume is always a plus. Men always love the scent of their woman. Find out what scent he likes and keep the sheets clean, there is nothing like fresh sheets and a good feminine scent to make him feel close to you. He'll have you burned in his mind all day! You'll feel good too and forget about all the things about yourself that bother you, besides, he wouldn't be beside you if he cared about all that petty stuff anyway. There's a reason he's with you and I'm sure your scar means nothing to him. Nobody's perfect.

I'm not much of one to go overboard on lingerie, either, so I understand where you're coming from. Two points: 1) sexy is all about how you feel, not what you're wearing or the size of your chest or a scar or any of that. 2) Consider something that maybe isn't revealing, but is a soft fabric. Have you felt anything made from modal? It has a beautiful drape, is completely machine washable and dryable and is made from a sustainable plant. And you don't have to break from the lounge pant/top combo. Check it out at Kohl's or Target (and I think I saw that Penney's carries some, too). And it won't break the bank.

Why are you insecure about the scar? Have you talked to your husband about how he feels about it? My guess is she hardly notices it and it doesn't bother him a bit.My husband has a 3 inch scar on his stomach from surgery as an infant.i barely notice it,and it certainly doesn't bother me.Perhaps talking to him will make you lose the insecurity and you will feel good about wearing something sexier!!

If you don't mind spending a little bit of money, Victoria Secret has some 2 piece outfits made of silky material that are comfy and make you feel sexy without revealing too much. Or even if you go to Target, you can find cami and bottom sets that will cover your side and are less bulky. Have you ever tried sleeping in the nude? I would suggest trying that at least once. You may be surprised how comfy you'll be.

I was having a similar problem. My PJs consist of loungy pants and baggy T-shirts. My hubby would complain! My problem was i needed something that i could walk around in the house (in front of the kids),not be too cold and also still show alittle skin. I ordered a punch of PJs from VS last month. I found that the little outfits with pants and cute camis were perfect. I am also small busted and the babydoll style top was perfect! Here is an example of one: http://www2.victoriassecret.com/commerce/application/prod...