How Long Did You Wait After a Miscarriage?

I miscarried in August of 2004 at 8 weeks pregnant and had a DnC. I tried again in October of 2004 and conceived my daughter who is now a happy healthy 3 year old. I just couldn't wait and my doctor said there was no reason to. Good luck and I will send positive vibes.

So sorry about your miscarriage. I miscarried twins, at 11 weeks, between my 1st child and 2nd child and I was told to wait about 2 months, or until I have regular periods again. The reason is you want to be sure your uterus has healed and ready for pregnancy again.... although the doctors don't have a right answer as to how long to wait. I did wait, just to be sure, and luckily everything turned out well the 3rd time around. :)

Good luck,

Jen

sorry about you miscarriage but you will get pregnant soon! we were told we didn't need to wait. just wait until the bleeding stopped. i thought i would have a period and then would track my cycle but we got pregnant 2 weeks after the miscarriage! and it just happened to a friend of mine too, she got pregnant just after her miscarriage. good luck and have fun practicing! :)

Hi C.-

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Although heartbreaking, 1 in 4 pregnancy end in misscarriage so you are far from alone. It also doesn't mean you can't go on to have a healthy pregnancy. Our family went through a miscarriage in Jan of 2004. I waited one menstrual cycle and then tried again. We got pregnant and went on to have a healthy daughter. We had a midwife because we had chosen to birth at home. Every situation is different, if you are healthy and feeling recovered listen to your own body. You may take a moment and consider how you are psychologically, a new pregnancy will make you obviously hormonal and grieving a lost pregnancy may effect your enjoyment of the new one. I also found that I worried far more with the last pregnancy than I did with the first three. I think our babies are emotionally and psychologically affected by our feelings and emotions and the healthier you are mentally and physically the better off you both will be and the more you can appreciate and enjoy your pregnancy. I wish you all the best and will send lots of positive loving energy your way. If you would like to talk feel free to email me anytime. Healing thoughts, April

I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I experienced multiple miscarriages, and the advice is fairly mixed - from being able to try next cycle to waiting 3 months. Personally, I'd go for it - I did get pg straight away after my first miscarraige, and I was a lot further along. If (and I hope it won't happen for you) you have another, I'd give it a longer break. I felt like it took my body a lot longer (maybe 18 months) to get 'back' after I'd been getting pg and miscarrying.

Good luck and fingers crossed that next time all works out,
E.

Hi,

I waited the full three cycles - but, I have to say, I was very devastated by our loss and didn't want to go through it again ...so that was the reason I was able to go by the rules, so to speak. If you feel ready to try again, come what may, without a lot of worry, stress, and regret if your body needs more time to gear up for the whole thing, then my story may not benefit you at all. Personally, I just needed time to recover and feel like I had taken the medical advise about renewing the bodies resources.
Fortunately, the second time was a charm and we are blessed!
Blessings to you,
A.

Hello, I'm so sorry about your loss. I've had three miscarriages and one successful pregnancy. My last miscarriage was in Feb 2008 at 15 weeks. My doctor is great and although they recommend waiting, I probably would try asap. My doctor told me that he and his wife got pregnant within 6 weeks after a miscarriage, so more power to you.

Of course your doctor may have reasons for asking you to wait so long, but you have a good question.

For both my miscarriages, they said I should wait for one normal period, then I could start trying again the next cycle. One miscarriage was 9 weeks and one was 17 weeks, but the same advice for both.

With my 9-week miscarriage, they did more blood tests to make sure the HCG levels were decreasing at the proper rate before they gave me the "go ahead" to start trying again. They wanted to be sure it wasn't a molar pregnancy. (Look it up online.) If it had been molar, I would have been forced to wait a year. Basically, they fear you have a rare condition (cancer maybe?) if your HCG levels aren't dropping or start increasing after a miscarriage. The doctor said if I got pregnant in that year I would not be "allowed" to carry the baby because they wouldn't be able to tell the baby apart from the disease or condition. At least, that is how I remember the story.

Based solely on my experience, that may be a reason to make sure all is normal before starting again. Chances are, everything is normal and miscarriage was just a fluke that happens to most women.

I'd recommend calling your doctor and explaining your feelings, and asking if you could take a blood test.

I would advise to wait if there is no hurry, so that there will be no regrets. Bottom line is to have your body recovers after the miscarriage, and it depends on your age and health and psychological well-being. I understand it would be very difficult to wait even for 2 months when we want a baby... Good luck and enjoy your baby and 'first baby' and keep yourself in good shape meanwhile. The side benefit that I see is that the gap between your baby girl and her next sibling will be closer to 3 years apart, which I think is perfect because the older one will be more independent and will want different things, therefore, less rivalry but still close. Best wishes!!!
P.S. I was once told by my obgyn that it takes a body about 2 years after childbirth to get back to normal (even though pregnancy can still occurs during that recovering peirod).