Emotions During Pregnancy??????

Updated on August 17, 2007
L.R. asks from Vicksburg, MS
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I m married to an awesome Christian man who I trust completely. He's been at AT for the national guard these last couple weeks. While there, he's made friends with several other officers, which is great. One of these officers is a new female 2LT. She is our age and has a little girl. She and her husband are on very rocky ground (not sure if they're divorced or getting back together or working through things...) We went out to eat with this couple last week because my husband wanted me to meet them. She is very nice and outgoing. But I can't get over this feeling of not trusting her. She hasn't specifically done anything to make me not trust her, and i know my husband has been very careful not to put himself in any situation where they are alone together or that would look bad on him or us.

Is this just part of the "I'm pregnant and fat" where I feel a huge lack of self confidence? I don't want my selfishness to ruin an opportunity to witness to or help this girl my husband wants me to help. There is only one other girl I can think of that I have felt like this about, and that was when we were dating. Other than that, I've never thought twice about him hanging out with other women.

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So What Happened?

Well, All along, his intentions were for me to get to know her and get a chance to hopefully influence her in a good way. He did distance himself from her even more the last few days they were at AT. I've messaged with her a couple times, since then. So I think it was just me being "big and preggo" BTW, He did send me flowers the next day :)

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A.W.

answers from Montgomery on

Congrats on your future bundle of joy!!!! I understand about being big and fat at this time I'm there with you. Christian man or not I strongly feel that a man and a women should not be alone. It doesn't look good. If anything he should be incougaing you to spend time with her and help her through her situation. As far as not trusting him, I think you should confront him about it and tell him how you feel I'm sure he will understand if he's what you say he is. Best of Luck

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M.L.

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Trust your gut feeling. If something about this girl doesn't feel right, ask your husband not to see her. There is a reason that God gave us these instincts. If you have no problem with your husband having female friends and this one bothers you, tell him.

Maybe your feelings are because you are "pregnant and fat", maybe not. Trust your husband..... but also trust your instincts.

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B.

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L.,
Between this hot summer and being pregnant, i'm sure it's just emotions. Try to focus on yourself, becoming a mom and keeping your career on track. Also, if you have the energy, why don't you invite this woman out to lunch with you. Tell her you want to get to know her better. I have tried to do that with all the men's wives that I've worked with in the past (especially traveled on the road with). I don't let work and personal cross too much, but it's important for the spouses not on the road with you, to know that you are there to work, not get busy! Now, go put your feet up and get ready for the best experience of your life - and CONGRATS!!

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J.R.

answers from Decatur on

I agree with Becky. Make sure though to tell your husband how you feel and if he truly loves you and will do whatever he can in his power to make you feel as secure as he can, he will. I'm sure you have nothing to worry about, but I believe it's your husband's job to help you during your emotional rollercoaster (pregnancy) by reassuring you that you have nothing to worry about. Let him hear it from you that you trust him completely after telling him how you feel about this. It will let him know that you're not accusing him, but your emotions are a little out of wack and you just need his help to snap them back in place. Best Wishes to you and your family.

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