Do You Think I Should Have Another Baby?

I've got the schooler's blues too. My daughter started kinder on Aug 27th and the first week was fine but after a week in an empty house, the honeymoon is over! (at least on my part).
I have been a SAHM for almost six years and her going to school everyday really affected me. I started getting this baby fever, I wanted to have another one so bad, I even looked up breastpumps, cribs and nursery items just to check what I would buy if I got pregnant.
But I made a list just like yours and you know what, after almost six years I finally got a little break to do things for me without feeling selfish since she has to go to school anyways.
I'm planning to start working again and I'm determined to loose weight so I can be fit again. My hubby wants to get his master and I want to finish my bachelors degree.
It seems your list has quite a few things to consider and I think you will have time for more kids in the future. you are so young that you could have even three more babies after you both finish your degrees.
My vote is wait but only you can make that decision it is a huge change and you will have even less time to do all these things you still want to do.
Good luck and God bless.

This is just my opinion after reading your list...it sounds like you should wait. Now, that's only my opinion! You just sound like you have a lot going on that is really going to change/help your future. You're young, so there's really nothing pressuring you not to do these things and then have another baby. Reading your list, it sounds like there are lots of things going on that you may regret not finishing, not that a baby won't be fulfilling, but it's not an either/or thing, so waiting sounds like a better plan.

I normally don't weigh in on these things as no one can really give you advise on such a personal issue; however, this one really spoke to me.

Now, I'm much older and my kids are older. And, I did have three kids in five years!! Yes, we were busy; but, I was one of the fortunate ones -- I did not have to work and was able to stay home.

Since you asked for an outside opinion, here goes:

Yes, you are young; but, you will not get any younger. Babies, generally, come easier with youth. We got pregnant each time we wanted until we tried for the fourth. I was past 30 by then, with three c-sections, and #4 never came. I mourned that lost baby for years! Yes, you have a lot going on; but, from the sound of it -- you always will. Also, every baby and pregnancy is different. You might also want to consider the age your son would be when the new baby arrives --whether now, or later. All the other issues can and will work out for you as necessary.

I, obviously, had mine all together and, while it was extremely hard in the early years, I wouldn't have done anything differently.

I think that if you wait for the time to be perfect for it, you'll never have another baby because there will never be a *perfect* time.

That said, perhaps you're feeling this pull because your baby has taken a step towards independence. Since you're still quie young, maybe wait a few months and see how you feel when your son being in preschool isn't so new.

I also wanted to say that you shouldn't feel like you have to give birth w/o meds next time. You aren't less of a woman for accepting some pain relief! Yeah yeah yeah, women have been having babies for millions of years blah blah blah; we've had headaches for all those years, too, but there's nothing wrong with taking a Tylenol for 'em now that we can!! :)

I would say wait,,, sounds like your plate is pretty full right now... but that is just my thoughts from reading your post. Good luck to you in whatever you decide.

Hey V.,

I was just looking through here and saw your posting. You will decide whats best and i know that you will make the right decision in whatever it is. But until the time comes you are more them welcome to come over and see Kaylee and Emily. You know we are just right down the street!!! They will be able to make your baby fever go away. Just a thought.