Dance for High Schoolers

My daughter wore short dresses to her proms (she's a freshman in college now) and they looked great. She is really short, long gowns looked silly on her. Her school had more behavior rules such as no "dry humping" or "grinding" at the dances.

Can I ask why do you mind what other children are wearing? I mean you can monitor what your chld is wearing, why do you care what the next girl is wearing? To M. thats like asking for a dress code on the beach. Its a n event you pay to go to although school kids will be there
I went to prom in a longr dress that was very form fitting and some girls had on short short dresses...and do you know what, outfit attire did not determine what we did or didn't do that night. I know some girls in shirt dresses who went right home and girls in longer dresses that did a lot of other interesting things that night. My mom went with M. to puck it out and even though I was graduating HS wouldn't let M. wear a short dress, although if I didn't find one we both agree on I probably wouldv snuck it and changed.

if there is one, it's not enforced....nor abused by the kids. + they're headed to adulthood, if not there already. Time to be responsible for their own dress code. :)

EDIT: looked thru my nieces/friends photos for this year's prom.....averaged about 50% on long vs short. For both lengths, it averaged about 10% hoochie-mama...& 90% stunningly feminine. A pretty accurate representation of today's world & mores.. Oh, & I do know many girls wear flip-flops/cowboy boots to dances - comfort over fashion!

It's a matter of local style and taste. My daughter and her friends wore short dresses to their prom, ALL the girls did (they looked adorable!) but up where my in laws live, just an hour and a half away, long dresses are the norm.

But I gotta tell you, I think the long dresses look LESS age appropriate on teenagers. They are all slinky with plunging necklines, tacky fake jewels, and most of them have cut outs on the sides around the waist and back. The short dresses look way sweeter and age appropriate, for the most part.

I agree with mamzita. Short dresses aren't necessarily hoochie-fied.
But who cares what I think. It's not my prom. It's thiers. Prom dresses change with the times. That's why its so funny to go back and look at the pictures 20 yrs later.

ankle length?
i mean, most girls will WANT to. i'll bet the shorty short dresses are on a few but not most.
no way would i expect to codify what young people choose to wear to THEIR dance.
part of learning to make adult choices is going through the goofy choices they make as teenagers. they don't learn if all their choices are taken away from them. but they do rebel.
and all parents want the pictures of the goofy choices to hold over their heads later<G>.
if you want YOUR daughter to be modestly draped, by all means make her. but i wouldn't hold my breath hoping for an ankle length dress code in 2012.
khairete
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Our (public) school district has a dress code for both school and dances/ prom.

Girls/ boys can not wear spaghetti string straps. All tank tops/ shirts have to have a two inch wide shoulder straps. Strapless is not allowed for school. All skirts/ dresses/ shorts ( male or female) must be no shorter than 4 inches above the knee. No bra's ( any part) or cleavage can be seen at any time. No midriff shirts are allowed, all belly/ back skin must be covered.

For dances/ prom, dresses can be spaghetti strap or strapless as long as no bra is seen and no cleavage exposed. The dress can be no shorter than 4 inches above the knees.

The dress code is for our school district only. We heard ALOT of talk about the next school over ( different school district) about a girl who wore a dress to prom that was spaghetti string and very low cut you could over 50% of her breasts and she could not bed over with out her rear coming out and had to keep her hands in front of her so she didn't expose that either... why a mother/ father/ guardian would ever let their 17 yr old daughter out of the house wearing that is beyond me.

I am sure this will vary state to state and school to school. Around here, you can wear what you want, but it must comply with school dress code. So yeah there are some short dresses, but nothing obscene.

Many of the high schools in our area are enforcing dress codes for prom. No cut outs, no high slits.

Check out this article posted in the Record Journal regarding the dress code for the Southington prom
http://www.myrecordjournal.com/southington/article_0fa35f...

Ankle or gown length? Oh honey, that is NOT going to happen. Teens today will not wear that length unless you are in a super religious area.

I think it's up to each parent to say what your child can and cannot wear. I assume most parents would be buying the outfits for them anyway so they have veto power. Further, even if the teen has money and buys it themselves, they still live under your roof and have to abide by your rules. Don't rely on the school to set boundaries. That is your job. Don't hope - just do it.