14 Month Old Waking up Screaming

Hi! I know this is difficult and you are tired. Try to rest a little more during the day. My daughter-in-law is having something similar with their baby and my son watched the kids last night and she had some fun with some friends. :) I wish I lived closer to help. Personally with our eight I didn't let them cry very long - it is exhausting to them. I worried about the sudden infant thing - they are so little and they will be bigger later. If your husband doesn't mind, get her in with you when she wakes up crying. Or rock her awhile and see if she will then go back to her crib. God bless.

My 18 month old son has done something similar to this several times after something that was scary happened to him. (Major hospital/doctors visits)

It probably isn't comforting to know, but I would look at her recent sickness combined with the separation anxiety as a possible trigger. She got sick, wanted and needed comfort, and you provided that by having her sleep in your bed. Now she's having separation issues and is feeling a strong need for that kind of comfort again. If it isn't already a habit for her by now, it will be soon.

What has been working for my son so far has been a slow weaning process. Each week, I wait a little longer before going and getting him. Then I hold him for a while and then gently reaffirm that is bedtime and then put him back to bed. Not only do I wait a little longer before going and getting him each week, but I'm not holding him as long either.

The next step would be going in but not picking him up. Perhaps rubbing his back or helping him lay back down again. We haven't reached that point yet and we are going slowly so its not such a shock to him.
It also helped to buy him a lovie that he keeps with him. Grandma bought him a little stuffed monkey that he adores and he uses it to help self-comfort.

Good luck with whatever you choose to do. We let our first just cry it out and it was REALLY hard. It took her nearly a week before she would go back to sleep by herself.

Have you tried to ask her what is wrong? It could be a habit now, true, but there could be some other reason. Do you live in a house or an apartment? Maybe she is hearing something. Try before she goes to sleep giving her some warm milk or something that can have a calming affect. I would also, before bed, make sure she has a bit of quiet time. Maybe reading a happy story or something. Change her bedtime routine up a little bit.
I would definitely try to get her to explain what the problem is if you can......is she shaking as in scared when she wakes up? If you can't get her to stop, then I think I would talk to your Dr. about it.
I wish you luck, and yes, sleeping in your bed is not a good idea. Take care.

my daughter divine around that age started doing just about all of that right down to the whole fever,ear problems and teething but it turned out it all started with her ears her doctor sent us to a ears eyes and throut doctor she ended up needed tubs in her ears.sence then shes been great back to sleeping all night alone in her room. let me know if this helped u