Time in Versus Time Out

I've not heard of time in, but when my two picked at each other, I put them at the dining room table with a puzzle which they had to do together without talking for 15 min.... Or I put them in a room together with a pile of legos and told them they had to sit together, but they couldn't talk for 15 min. You'd be amazed at how they banded together in silence. :-)
Once in a while I told them they had to sit together with an activity or a game that required oral communication, but they weren't allowed to fight. They had to play the game and follow the rules.
Usually when the 15 min. were up, they wanted to continue with the activity...
YMMV
LBC

Never heard of it, can you give us a link on the information - never heard of it and I have heard of most of the options.

What we have done that works it is instead of placing my son in time out, the object or activity that helped him act poorly goes into time out. So, if he was playing video games too wildly then they go into time out - if he threw a toy down the stairs, the toy goes into time out. Some say he learns nothing but with my son he learns EVERYTHING!

I have never done time outs. I have done time ins in the sense that when he gets upset, we sit together until he calms down and becomes rational again. It is not a 'punishment' the way time out is generally used (whether or not initially proposed that way, that is how people use it). It is a time to allow big feelings to dissipate so a child's rational mind can function again. Sometimes he sat in my lap, sometimes we hugged, sometimes I just sat close by - his preference.

I tried it briefly. All it did was make my son even more mad. The result was a prolonged tantrum and me winding up with a bloody nose from trying to hold a bucking toddler.

save us the time goggling and explain the concept, then i'll be glad to give you an opinion, i have older kids so maybe this a new fad??

I read the link someone provided,--Thank You! Ephie
Since i come from a preschool background, where a "peace mat" was used as a area where kids could go regroup, i undertstand how that would be more affective than a simple--GO TO TI<ME Out. the probelm occurs when one child needs your attention needs you to take them there and stay with them there and there are 11 more waiting to go on with their day, watching and calculating what they would need to do to get some one on one too. and to apply the cuddle corner to a home situation, I find most "misbehaviors" occur when the parent is distracted/eaxhausted etc. So yes if everything else can wait for you to spend 10 mins in the cuddle corner and IF you can do that with out blowing your own gasket then ok, SO I don't know what i'm trying to say- give it a try, I think anything works if you are consistent, but i also think a child's personalitly can really foil some of the best parenting techniques. I definately see this working great with 2 yos. wondering more about an 8 yo having a melt down while you are trying to get ready for work and need to be on the road in 35 seconds.

We used time ins for my niece. She was just about to turn 3 when she came to live with us and was in a fit/raging from the time she woke up to the time she went to bed. Time outs were noneffective. In those early months, trying to punish/teach her rage out of her was about as effective as punishing a fish for swimming. Trauma and fear = emotionally explosive/implosive kid.

So, we implemented a combination of time ins, positive reinforcement, and a lot of "snuggle time". After about six months we started introducing time outs / self imposed space again and with a lot of success.

Here's a short piece on timeins for those of you who are curious what it is.
http://joanneaz_2.tripod.com/positivedisciplineresourcece...

Also, I asked this question a few years back and got a few really helpful responses.
http://www.mamapedia.com/questions/10149748615762018305

I just found out that we've been doing time ins, with varying degrees. My son would get a warning, and told how to do something correctly - when he purposely did the wrong thing, we went to a time out (or so I thought) together and discussed things after he calmed down.

Until he was 2yo, this method never worked. He acted like he wanted the punishment, would gleefully laugh... if I walked away, he was okay with that and giggled even more. Between 2yo and 3yo, it seemed to have more weight. At 3yo, he's tried to put me in a time out (or time in) whenever I do something he doesn't like, haha. Since turning 3yo (May 2011), giving a warning along with the info that we will leave the area/establishment all together, seems to work the best - all of this done alone, separate from others/groups, where I ask him to look at me and repeat what I'm saying.

Good luck!