Why My Daughter Always Holds Her Small Quilt?

All my kids had a "lovey" either a blanket or a stuffed animal, or both! 3 is prime time for this. Let her have it if she wants it. She won't need it forever, and you will cherish it one day. We still have the blankies, bunny, mousey, and a sacred cow...

M.

Just let her have it. It's comforting for her & not impairing her development or her teeth like thumb sucking might do. She'll give it up when she's ready, it gives her some control of herself. My 18yo carried a blanket with her most of the time till she was about 4. My niece had one that had satin edges and she loved that cool, soft feel.

So don't fret, don't make a big deal over it and tell the preschool workers the same thing. She'll be rid of it soon enough and oddly, you'll miss seeing her with it.

It's a three year old thing, called security. She'll give it up eventually.

They will outgrow it.
Its okay.
she is so young.
This age is hard.

I had my 'lovey' for a LONG time, past her age, as a child.
No biggie.

Be glad.
Some kids even this age, grow up too fast... and are onto dressing like Hannah Montana already.
Be glad... your little girl is a little girl.

Its her comfort item.
Not a bad thing.
Let her have it.
The Teacher, should be nurturing about it.

My son, still has his lovey too. And he is 4 years old. Its really fine.
He LOVES his stuffed animal. LOVES it and calls it his buddy.

It's helping her feel more safe and secure when you are not around. This is perfectly normal and doesn't mean there is something wrong with her or with the school. There is a little boy in my daughter's preschool who always has his blanket with him during class - sometimes he'll put it in his cubby during class and get it when class is done, and sometimes he decides to carry it around with him. And the teacher is wonderful, very nurturing and positive with all the kids, and her classroom is a very warm and inviting environment. All the kids love it and have no problems being there, but just this little boy has to have his blanket with him. Another girl brings her blanket but keeps it in her locker during class until class is over. My DD likes to take her special teddy bear in the car wherever we go and is fine leaving it in the car until we get back.

Have you talked to the teacher about this? Because really, I would just let her have it. It's not as if she'll be taking it to high school.

It's her security item. Let her have it.

Security blanket. I had one. Dragged it around EVERYWHERE! My mom could not pry it out of my hands, even to wash it. She had to wait until I was asleep to do so. Then they got a second one that was 'exactly the same.' (Humph. I knew the difference! It was good enough until I got the 'real one' back from being laundered.)

Don't worry so much about it. I guarantee she will outgrow it. Let it happen naturally. I PROMISE she will not graduate high school with it. Let her have it as long as she wants. I was glad my mom allowed me to figure out when the time was right for me to let it go. I had no anxiety over losing it.

It's not harming her... it's her lovey. My daughter loves her little cream with brown polka dot cocalo elephant. She loves carrying it around. Or her ty fuzzy soft giraffe. It's not a big deal... they grow out of it. Or stop taking it everywhere. If she is like me she will always love her lovey more than any other toy or clothing but won't lug it everywhere... it'll just be sitting on her bed or somewhere like that when she's older.

Dawn has a good idea, but personally I'm a sentimental person and couldn't do that lol. I'd want it as a cherished treasure like Martha R was mentioning.

I would wash it when she's asleep... it's honestly nothing to worry about in the slightest. Everyone usually has a lovey.

My daughter has a hand made quilt my grandma (her great grandma) made for her. She takes that thing EVERYWHERE. She doesn't call it a blanket, she calls it 'Grammy' and it's very special to her, if she doesn't have it with her, she will get really whiney. Great grandma passed away in 2009 when my daughter was 6 months old. I honestly believe, she remembers her and knows her...some way, some how...she knows who she is in pictures and she knows what things I have that were my grandmas...it's weird.. She knows shes in the sky w/ poppa (shes to little I think to explain heaven) and they are watching over us.

I'd let her keep it. It's a security blanket, it makes her feel better. Whats the harm in taking it to preschool? I could see maybe if she was in junior high and still had it with her. One day, she won't take it everywhere with her, but she will still sleep with it :)

It's like how some 3 year old like to still suck their thumb. Eventually it will be left, but for now it's a substitution for you.
**My son has two of the same blanket and he loves it! One for daycare and the other here at home. I find it makes things easier because he knows when I say "Go find Bear-y!" (it has a bear head on one end) he knows that it is time for sleep, just like at daycare. So it has it's perks!!

i let my prek bring his and leave it in the car, his teacher will not allow it even to hang with his coat....it is also probably a bit larger then your DD. I would say let her take it...one day she will just forget and then youknow...she has grown just a little bit!!

admitting something because my husband would be proud...i still sleep with my blanket from when i was born..it has been every place that i have slept. even over nighters at the hubbies house when we were dating and he llived at his moms..i would bring it. he has threatened to rid me of it...would never do it though.....i think i am going to have it laid to rest with me. along with my wedding band.

My 30 yo daughter still cherishes her lovey, a stuffed clown. Her children, 10 and 7 have stuffed animals that they take many places. The 7yo still takes his donkey to school sometimes. He does have to keep it in his cubby but he can hold it if he's upset.

Your daughter is telling you that she still needs her "lovey." She will outgrow it. In the mean time letting her take it is helping to build her self confidence.

All of my children had security items. When my boys went to K4 they took a blanket for naptime that was considered one of their security blankets. I fully expect my daughter to take one of her little 15 inch square blankeys with her when she starts school. Let her have it. It will help her to adapt and she may eventually not need it at preschool anymore. It helps her feel secure in a new and different maybe even scary environment for her.

Personally, it's not doing any harm to her or to anyone else, let her keep it. Let her put it in the washer herself when it needs a bath, let her put it in the dryer too. Giver her some control over it. It might help the melt downs. Might also help if you tell her that she has baths and it needs one too.

My family and I moved a lot while I was growing up. Certain items just mean more to me because things would get lost in moving. I needed the security of something that was always there, something I could hold on to personally. I'm 30 and still have my blanket and teddy from childhood! I don't NEED them now, but they are a warm reminder, old friends. I also still like the texture of my blanket, if I'm over stressed ( I'm a SAHM it happens ;) ) I'll pet it and it calms me and I can sleep better.

Just turned three...oh, she's so little still!

I don't recall a security item of my own that I toted around, but I remember my brother was fond of labels. As in the labels on his monkey and his Cookie Monster. He would sniff and rub them and cuddle his toy. My mother was a rather hard-hearted woman, but if a label was starting to come off, she would go buy some satin ribbon and hand-stitch the thing on to make a new label. He didn't take the toys to school with him, but every day after school, he had to have his 'label fix'.

Hello, I have four grown kids. My first and fourth children carried "blankies", my middle two didn't. I cannot tell you why. However, I feel as though they get some kind of security, so I left them alone with it. Eventually, your daughter will not need it.
Good luck with your precious little girl.
K. K.

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She'll out grow it an not need it as much. My 10yr old daughter loved crochet blankets when she was a baby. When she was tired or sick, she would lay down with one of her two favorite ones and stick her fingers though them. She would then squeeze them with her hand kinda like how cats 'message' with their front paws. It used to go everywhere, in the car, to the store, to a friends, etc. I just slowly weaned her off of that by 'forgetting' to get it out of the car when we went grocery shopping. And then we'd forget it at home till she was only at the point of having it at bed time. Now at almost 11yrs old, she still does this to blankets with her fingers!! She has a blanket on her bed that has the thick string stitched around it and she has it all pulled out from doing that. I catch her doing it to the strings that hang off my throw pillows on the couch too and have to remind her to stop.

The school should be understanding of how your daughter is attached to her 'lovey' and you all should be able to work together to get her to a point where it can stay home and be waiting for her.

Good luck
S.

When I was that age (back when dinosaurs roamed the earth), I had a blanket. I called it a bobby. I don't know why but I just had to have it. Eventually, I was OK during the day, but needed it at night. I don't know what happened to it at the last; I imagine it literally wore out.

Let your daughter have her security quilt. I've never heard of a college graduate student who still had one (although some take their teddy bears to school with them...). She'll grow out of it with time.

Years ago I knew a lovely little girl who always had to take a doll everywhere with her. She had several at home to choose from. She even took a doll to elementary school for a while, because the teachers understood her need and were able to manage the situation. Now she is a great mama of four "living dolls" - ranging from four years old to middle school!

Both my kids, 5 and 2, have favorite blankets or stuffed animals. My 5 year old is really attached to his but it can't go everywhere with him. It stays at home unless we are going on a long or overnight trip. He likes it when Blankie gets a bath though--he loves when it is warm from the dryer and smells good.

She needs something to give her a sense of security. When my daughter was little, we cut out a piece of her favorite blanket to hold close to her while she slept. Can you believe she didn't get rid of it until she was 12 years old! Lol. Let her hold on to it, she'll grow out of it eventually.

I am sure she will get rid of it by highschool (lol), so don't put the little one through trama now over it. Let her carry it until it falls apart or until she feels uncomfortable being the only one. Let her make the decision, it's not hurting her or anyone else.

My 3 year old brings her pink blanket everywhere. I wouldn't dream of taking it away because if ever she gets hurt or frustrated that pink blanket makes everything better. It's such a simple way to calm her down, I figure, why not?