Wedding Kiss- What Would You Have Done?

Well since I wasn't marrying my mom, I think I would have kissed my man at my wedding :D We did a peck, just didn't want to go all intense in the presence of others, but I think either way is just fine ;)

I perform weddings and tell the bride and groom at the rehersal to keep it simple. I have witnessed a few couples act like they are about to rip each other's clothes off and I don't like that. But a nice heartfelt kiss is beautiful.

I would think that was crazy. I didn't go crazy but certainly kissed.

I thought I heard somewhere that "William and Kate" will not be kissing at their wedding but will kiss on the balcony where his parents did.

I'd politely remind my mother that she's not the one getting married...

I'd do whatever I wanted at my own dam* wedding.

Hello? We all kiss when we get married dont we? It's the handshake of the vow agreement. Not sure where your mom was coming from on this one. What does your dad say?
YOU MAY NOW KISS THE BRIDE. Has that changed? Am I that old that I dont know this stuff?
I dont think you should slobber all over each other for the wedding kiss, but you should definitely give the kiss. Oy, this site freaks me out sometimes.

If I had been told this, I would have asked the preacher to invite the Entire congregation to partake in their own kissing as we took our wedding kiss!

Big ole make out in the church!

I do not know what religion she thought it was sacrilegious, but I know I would not have been allowed to be a member.

I would say thanks for you input, (to both of them) and then do what I wanted with in reason according to the rituals of the church in witch your have decided to marry!

Your day, you decisions..

Blessings.

Well, I would've told her she can do what she wants at her own wedding and you are a grown woman getting married and you will do what you want at yours as well!! Sorry, but what a weirdo!!

Hmm. Laugh? Revoke the invitation? Make out? Give her a blindfold and some prayerbeads? :)

I cannot relate to anyone who thinks they can tell other people what to do in their weddings. Do I PREFER to watch long mushy kisses at the alter rather than brief ones? Nope. Is it any of my business? No. She's making that up about the sacrilegious part. Some people just need that "It's God's opinion too" angle to force their points.

I would tell her that she didn't have to come. What you do at your wedding ~And in your marriage~ is NONE of her business.

How crazy is that though? I mean, it's not even an age thing... everyone kisses at their wedding, and it's been that way for generations! I can't even think of a religion that would call it sacrilegious...

I would tell your mom that is crazy and everyone kisses at their wedding! her father is correct. how odd.

I don't understand people who think they can impose their opinions on other people's life events- marriage, having children, divorce, etc. I like the phrase, "It's NONE of your BUSINESS!"

You say you've moved on but if you're still asking after 15 years, you haven't. Married couples kiss (so do non marrieds). What's the difference if you kiss as part of the ceremony with your priest, rabbi or minister telling you to than when you kiss at any other time? Would your priest/rabbi/minister tell you to kiss as part of the ceremony if they felt it was wrong? If your mother is of a different faith than you, her role was either to skip the ceremony or keep her mouth shut. Have you ever heard anyone else say there was something wrong about the bride and groom sealing their marital union with a kiss? Have you ever been to a wedding where it wasn't done?

i would lovingly tell mom that she is free to kiss or not kiss at her own wedding, but that i would decide what to do at mine. who the hell are these people to be offended (or not) at what your and your husband's legally consecrated lips do? did they also try to have input into the wedding night?
khairete
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Well, since God encourages intimacy in a marriage, I'd tell her she could close her eyes. She doesn't have to watch.

Has she not hear the phrase "you may now kiss the bride"????? Your mom sounds like doosey of a character that she and I would not get along with. And I generally get along with everyone.

If you do some research, you will find that there are people that DO NOT kiss at their wedding. Some churches do think it is sacrilegious and offensive. Most notably (and most recently in the news) here's an example: http://yhoo.it/e912D0 Some people are just more into traditions than others.

As far as the wedding officiant saying "you may now kiss the bride," this is up to the couple. EVERYTHING is up to the couple (well, the bride). Whether s/he (officiant) reads I Corinthians 13 ("The Chapter where Love is Defined"), whether the couple writes their own vows or repeats after officiant or just says "I do," and what music is played is ALL up to the couple getting married. I have done music for many weddings for several years now, and most women want the wedding march; HOWEVER not all do! I have had some come down the aisle to "their song." Same with the exit music.

There are so many degrees of what is appropriate in a church. Some do not allow instruments in a wedding or any service, for example. It is all in what you are used to. I think I would tell my mom that I had never heard that before and I would be sure to check with the pastor who was marrying me. That way, you aren't criticizing her view or opinion but deferring the appropriateness to someone else.

It's the same when someone tells you what you should or shouldn't do in raising your kids. If you don't agree, just say that you hadn't thought about that and you will be sure to check with your pediatrician (even if you don't).

i would have thought, "what a loon!" and did exactly as i wanted. :)

If you just got married in a church, in the eyes of God, who blessed your union, how could it be sacreligous? If you weren't married, in the church making out, ok fine. But married, really? I don't see it

I would tell both parent and grandparent that they don't get to decide what's appropriate or not in a ceremony that is the purview of the officiating religious authority - priest, pastor, rabbi, whatever. Then I would change the subject and just go ahead and do what I wanted to do. This sounds more like an effort to control than a true problem with supposed sacrilege.

I attended a family wedding years ago - the bride's mother had threatened to disrupt the ceremony by getting up a certain point to slap the groom's mother. Charming. The bride's father and other family members were instructed to basically sit on Mom so she couldn't get up, and the clergyman was on guard to have her removed if she disrupted anything. Some people will make an issue out of anything in order to be the star of the show.

What do you believe? It was your wedding. What if someone told you the day before your wedding they didn't like your dress or where you were having it.....would you have changed things because of others opinions. It's okay to disagree with your Mother, actually it's healthy.

DH

It's your wedding - kiss if you want to.

I would probably laugh at her and ask if she would be offended if we did the deed right there on the altar - but don't worry we won't kiss while doing it, LOL!!

Aren't we supposed to kiss our new husband? I wouldn't have an all out tounge battle, but there would definately be some kissing goin on. Lol

doesn't the officiant always say: "...you may kiss the bride" ? :-O