Trying to Have a Baby Girl!

Hi there... I am currently pregnant with girl #2. According to the Chinese calender it's supposed to be a boy. My 2 pregnancies are so totally different I thought for sure it was right. 3 ultrasounds later it's still a girl. :) I also took all the online gender prediction quiz's that I could find and they all said 70% chance or more that it's a boy. Guess you never know..
Good Luck!

Hello K. -

The relationship between the phase of the menstrual cycle and the likelihood of conceiving a child of a particular gender is associated with the acidity of the vaginal and uterine environment at that time. Our acidity changes throughout our cycle and X-sperm and Y-sperm are not the same - one is better suited to an acidic environment and therefore more likely to make it to the ovum during that phase of the cycle. Beyond that I can't say more - it has been years since I studied it and I simply don't recall the details, but this may give you more food for continuing your search.

Having said that, I would simply like to ask what motivates you to have a girl? In my work I have known many people who felt they were unwanted because they were born of the sex not most desired by their parents. I encourage prospective parents with whom I am working to detox before conception (sometimes to overcome infertility issues) to focus on creating a healthy child with whom they can create a family environment that will be fulfilling to all. I believe that trying to dictate more than that to the incoming spirit is restrictive and can lead to psychological trauma if they aren't what was hoped for.

Be well-
D.

I completely understand (and it seems so do a LOT of others). I have 3 daughters from a previous marraige and desperately want a boy. My sister has 2 boys and desperately wants a girl! LOL She just announced her pregnancy and sent me the book "How to choose the sex of your baby". She says she'll let me know when they find out how it worked! I've been wholy sucked into the book. With very limited medical training I remember a lot of things in the book from my Anatomy and Physiology classes and it seems to make sense. But- it is not foolproof and you must be willing to have a child of either sex. Good luck and let us know how it turns out!

Hi K.,

I was in your exact situation 9 months ago. I bought two books that helped me tremendously: "Taking charge of your fertility" (which others have recommended) and "How to choose the sex of your baby". Both will help you with first charting your cycle and then predicting ovulation each month to help in conceiving a girl. (You really need the second book!)Of course there's no guarantee, but when following their guidelines, the success rate is pretty good. It is easier to successfully conceive a boy than a girl, however. I had trouble charting with my temp because I was jumping out of bed to get to my toddler when I was supposed to be taking a resting temp, so I used the ovulation prediction tests. DON'T rely on the recommendations on the test for best conception dates, as another mom suggested. Use the tests only in advanced months to get an idea of when you will ovulate the month you try to conceive. If you wait until you see the LH surge (the hormone that shows up on the test) and then have sex, you will be more likely to conceive a boy because you will be too close to ovulation. After two months of trying to conceive, I'm now 3 months pregnant and have yet to find out if we were successful with our planning. Of course I'll be thrilled to have a healthy baby of either gender, but like you, I'm a little tired of blue!

Good luck!!!
(Buy the books! You won't be sorry!)

it depends on the how acidic or alkaline your vaginal area is. you can eat certain foods or see an herbalist (I know of one if you need a number) they can also help you balance your body.

Here is a link about what I just talked about above: http://baby-gender-choice.blogspot.com/2007/10/how-diet-c...

ACIDITY favors the conception of a baby GIRL
ALKALINITY favors the conception of a baby BOY

X-sperm (GIRL) are: bigger - slower - more resilient in the woman's tract.

Y-sperm (BOY) are: smaller - faster - weak - less resilient in the tract
http://hubpages.com/hub/How-to-conceive-a-baby-boy

I'm sure someone will tell you how horrible you are.. but what ever! don't listen. I comepletly understand you wanting a girl. I have one of each. I didn't do any of this above but for my third I plan to try for a girl. My son is so much work compared to my daughter!lol... really I want her to have a sister. My husband of course wants another boy. so how do we have twins? one of each? lol.. j/k.

In all seriuosness. try this method. let me know if it works!

Hi, K.!

I totally understand that you would like to have a girl. I have a wonderful little boy who is two and really wanted my second one to be a girl. I looked at the Chinese calendar, ate special foods, and did everything I could think of to make it be so, but it didn't work! I will be having my second boy in March. :) Of course, I love my kids, but would like a girl. Please let me know what you find out since we may try for #3 in a few years! Take care.

Try to get a book called Taking Charge of your Fertility, the definitive guide to natural birth control and pregnancy achievment by Toni Weschler, MPH. It is very hard to do, but trying to time intercourse for a girl is possible. I have always used the method for birth control, more or less, and when we started a family, I knew exactly what night was best, and we had our first baby, a boy. I was 38 years old at the time, so luckily no fertility problems for me.

With our second child, it took a little longer - we tried about six months or so. We wanted a girl so the idea is to time intercourse a bit before your most fertile day which you can know based on charting, etc. Finally the last month, I no longer cared if we had a girl or not. We just wanted another child and we just used the ovulation kit and had essentially one chance. And what do you know - it was a girl! She is now two. I think because I was over 40, that my cycles were a little harder to predict, and I don't know that an egg is actually released each month. So I wasn't sure if the method was working. Anyway, the book is worth reading and will explain what I am saying so good luck!

There are a whole bunch of do and don't(s). I heard that if the father less relaxed = more frequent trials = better chance of having a girl. There are books out there that tells you which food to aviod when trying to conceive a boy, in your case do the exact opposite. I have two boys and a girl, with the girl being the middle child. It is nice having both sides of the spectrum. The shopping becomes more fun. It's funny because I always wanted three boys... I, too love what God has given us very much and am really truly thankful.
Good Luck!!!

Hi K.,

I don't know if this will work but it seems to have for most of my friends trying to get pregnant. I have a pretty close group of friends that in the last 2 years have all tried to get pregnant and have all had girls myself included. There are 5 of us. None of us were trying for girls we just wanted a baby and were having a hard time getting pregnant. We couldn't guess when we would ovulate so we used the ovulation predictor kits. They tell you the best two days to conceive and we all tried on those best two days and we all had girls, with the exception of one friend she is having twins a boy and a girl, but she still got a girl. My sixth friend will find out in 4 weeks what she is having; my guess will be a girl because she also used the opk. Like I said I don't know why it happened and it could just be a coincidence but we all got girls and we didn't care what we were having we just wanted a healthy baby. Hope this helps and if it do end up using the opk and have a little girl let me know.

Oh my goodness. It is like I wrote your request myself. I too was in your shoes. Let me tell you I wanted a girl so bad I could taste it. I have two boys 11 and 6. I had come to terms with not having anymore children because the only reason to have anymore was to have a girl. The doctor took me off birth control because of high blood pressure. It didn't take long and I was pregnant. Although the pregnancy wasn't planned I was sure I was having a boy and accepted this early on. In a sense I figured it would be easier to have another boy. Being the mother of two, working full time, and going to school full time. We decided early on to NOT find out the sex of our baby. I didn't want to know and didn't want it to be an issue during the pregnancy. Too make a long story short low and behold we had our girl. We were in shock. We had all boy names picked, a blue diaper bag etc..... So take it from me it can happen. It is a matter of is it supposed to happen? If your only going to get pregnant to have a girl then don't you will be sorely disappointed. All of the things you are doing to have a girl aren't FOOL proof so be careful. If you are truely only serious about having a girl then be willing to have another boy or check out gender selection. I have heard information on gender selection but not enough to be an advocate for it. I am an advocate however to letting go and going with the flow. Whatever happens happens. I hope you get your girl. Best Wishes

If you figure out a way to have that girl, let me know.... My husband and I have 4 boys. I don't know if there is really a way to plan the sex of our kiddos, I belived that GOD is the only one who know what we are meant to have. We would love to have a daughter, but I guess my 3 neices will have to do. Our friends/family say we wouldn't know what to do if we had a girl, they just might be right.
Good luck with your family. Just remember boys Rule.... Just think, no PMS, no having to share your clothes/shoes, wearing make up.....lol

Funny, we're just determining whether or not to try again too, we have two girls and want a boy if any more kids! Chinese calendar was right the first time, wrong the 2nd time but only 50% likely it said. We tried ovulation day for a boy but still ended up with girl #2. Good luck! Let me know if you find out how I can have a boy!

Just wanted to say, that I can relate! I have 2 boys: 4 and 2 and 2 step sons. We knew we wanted 3 kids and my hubby has wanted a girl since his second son. Everyone really wanted a girl (except me...I liked the idea of 3 bros) We all know the man determines the sex and the whole family was convinced he couldnt make girls:)! We didnt read the books but they are fun to flip thru. I did look at the chinese calendar, after the fact. It too was right for everyone in our family!! I just kept telling myself whats meant to be, will be. I understand the pressure and the real wanting. Good luck and just go for it!
*I am expecting our 3rd child any day now, we've decided to name her Gillian!!

Gender is determined by the father's genes. Timing, ginseng, and all those other things are just luck. Keep trying to have a healthy baby. Odds are, you will get a girl one of these times. Together, my husband and I had three boys when we blended our family. We allowed Nature to take her course (for 6 years), and the youngest boy was 13 when we finally had a baby together. Just luck that it was a girl.

I agree with Collette. Sex is determined by the father, and if there's a girl in there somewhere, and she makes it to you, then you will have a girl.

Like she said, a happy, healthy baby is really the goal, isn't it? Whether it's a girl or not, can't be predetermined.

Good luck either way and have fun! :)

K. W

So funny I came across this post! LOL. I went off the pill in June, started trying in August and got preg in Sept. I followed the chinese gender chart and it was right for my first two! (That was coincidence though because I knew nothing about until after I had my kiddos). I wanted this one to be a girl...so I had sex a couple days before I ovulated (I know my cycle pretty well...I've never used the ovulation tests or anything...) and laid in bed for about 30 minutes before getting up. I got pregnant that night! Went for my 18 week u/s today...and guess what...it's a GIRL! It worked for me. I would have been completely happy with another boy (don't get me wrong, I LOVE my son!) but I know how you feel. We are thrilled. I wish you the best of luck, and let me know how things go!

Hey, I've been there except I had 3 girls and wanted a boy. I had a friend tell me about a book titled 'How to choose the sex of your baby'. It has worked for several other friends since. I now have a happy 4 year old boy. It is a very interesting bood. Good luck!