To Put in Daycare or Not

If she is licensed she can care for 5 under age 5 with no more then 3 under 24 mos. So she can easily be legal with those ages and honestly I could do that easily. Especially if I had had two of them since they were infants.

I do not assist fully potty trained kids into the bathroom usually. Even the small ones, but I have a small potty for them to use so they can get on and off. Maybe you should suggest she uses one of those for your daughter so it's easier. She can also take it outside so that accidents don't happen or suggest that she have your daughter pee before heading out. I have forgotten that pee prior to outside play part a few times, it does get hectic sometimes.

I think your issues are easily taken care of with just a little talk to the provider.

And to whomever mentioned the fine for being unlicensed, not true. There is a fine the IRS can do for a person not claiming income, but there are no fines in IL for providing unlicensed care. They will just shut her down and tell her to get licensed or bring her numbers to license exempt status (3 kids total, counting her own).

I would put her in a day care. Day care is good especially at her age. They get to play with other kids her age and some of them (the one my little one is in) have a schedule of learning (curriculum) at 3 years old. My little one is 12 months old now, and he is the second oldest in the baby room, but at not time do I feel that he is put on the back burner.

I was a little hesitant about putting him in day care at first. But my husbands baby brother (he is now 12, my hubby is 31) was in a home day care situation and was hit by the provider. That is why he was adminint on day care, and now I see how my son reacts and acts with is I feel in my heart of hearts he was right.

You have to go with your gutt.

After reading your post, it sounds like your daughter is no longer in the right setting. It does sound like the sitter has taken on too many children, and is relying on the older ones (3) to help take care of the younger. Your daughter should not have to wear wet, pee smelling socks all day. Sounds like the sitter is a good person, just took on too much. It sounds like a good daycare setting may be better for your daughter. Good luck!

Is you provider licensed through DCFS? If not she is breaking the law and could be fined up to $10000 for a first offense. There are many requirements for home care providers that are there to ensure unsupervised potty breaks DON'T happen. I think your instincts are dead on, your daughter is not getting the care she should and the situation is an accident waiting to happen. You have a couple options, tell her to get licensed, report her anonymously (and find someplace else because DCFS will shut her down), find another appropriately licensed home care provider, cross your fingers and hope for the best.
I think you would do best with another home care provider since that is what your child has had since 5 months instead of going to a day care center, and it should be less costly. (It is anywhere between $200-$300/week for a 2 year old in daycare).

You can also talk honestly to your friend if it is worth it to you, but the problem is that if these things have already happened, how will you really know if they change? Besides, the fact that your care provider GOT MAD because your daughter needed help in the potty is INEXCUSABLE! As a teacher/director with over 10 years experience if she had worked for me and 1. Let a two year old go potty unsupervised (FIRED) 2. Left her in dirty socks(FIRED) 3. Got upset with a child over a potty issue (FIRED!!!!!)

I do not mean to sound harsh, but she should know better and your child DESERVES better treatment. PLEASE do not let your adult friendship compromise your drive to protect your child. PULL HER.

Your feelings are right---get her out of there. Don't wait to hope the current person straightens up: how would you know? Unlike the other responses I love and encourage day care centers. You don't have to worry about your sitter being sick and teling you not to bring the kids, you know the place is regulated and that there are always other people there watching what goes on. Every day care is different so you do need to visit and make sure you and your child feel comfortable. One thing to look for is AYCE (or something like that--it's pronounced Acee) accredition. It is a federal program and is one step beyond just DCFS standards. Also look for staff that has been there a long time. We go to Kindercare in Orland Park on 143rd (Pinewood drive)and love it. The facility is smaller and older than some but the staff has been there forever (which means they like their jobs and the kids) and I feel my kids are loved and very well taken care of. The cost is less than $200 a week since my kids are in school during the day---can't say what the 2's cost. Good luck!

wow i am so sorry that you have to put your little one thru this. at 2yo she is far from the old one....but unfortunately when a younger child is around they get pushed to be more independent. sounds like you are thinking the right way with wanting to take your daughter out of the situation.....no one likes to feel like their kids aren't being treated as good as you yourself would treat them at home. i think you should find another sitter, but i myself do not like daycare settings. it seems that the kids get lost in the shuffle especially if they are a little more independent than the others. i would try and find another person who might have less kids someone that you trust of course. also if you do go to daycare, you should do an extensive background check on the people working with the kids. good luck

Hello C. B:

I understand your concern. Because for us mother, I feel, raising children is one of the most important jobs that we do. Motherhood is extremely important role. From conception to five year old, a child is developing his brain, and experiences are forming a ife time of pattern forms his personality. Because brain development is based on experiences that a child grows through. Therefore, it becomes very important for a mother to take care of the well being of the child, and day care is one of them.

When negative feeling come up in any relationship it does not work so well.

Your child is getting, its effect,as children have a sense of feeling, the action and reactions.

Thefore, I feel it is in the best interest you talk to the child care provider in a very cool manner. Tell her clearly how you feel. Tell her you want to feel that your child is happy satisfied emotionally clean and taken care off, when you see her. In case this does not change, you will have to do something.

Do not think of changing her right away. Because changing the provider, also brings new changes in a child's life .

If situation changes to the better well and good for everyone or make a final decision. This is very fair, as it is paid service and has to be good only for the child specially. This way you have given her fair chance to improve too.