Pregnant Again!!!

Jennifer,

ALl I can say is CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! Four days before Christmas I found out I was pregnant with our second child, which would have made my chidlren 18 months apart. I was cranky from being tired and not feeling well, and then scared I couldn't handle two under two in diapers. Then on February 9th I had a miscarriage, and now I just feel completely empty. I miss the being sick, and the tired because at least it was all going to be for a good reason! I hope you embrace this and focus only on the good it is going to bring! ONE BEAUTIFUL NEW LOVING BABY! CONGRATULATIONS again! Just take deep breaths and relax.

wow can i ever relate, i got pregnant with my 3rd at 21, when my boys were 3 and 2 and i was scared out of my mind, but you get through it, you learn how to do it all with one more baby and really the transition from one to two kids was harder than the transition from 2 to 3, you are already used to multitasking, getting a sipy cup or a snack for the big one while you get a bottle for baby, entertaining a toddler with a baby on your lap, running around like crazy at nap times trying to get everything done, hopeing baby learns to sleep through all the noise of a toddler and that the toddler will sleep all night even if baby doesn'tand i knwo how overwhelming it all sounds but it is things that you arew already doing and you can contiue to do them, you'll have to even if you weren't expecting again, so good luck, you will figure it all out you really will, i have 2 step kids now and i don't think it is any different than when it was jsut me and 3 kids. take care and do your best to unwind and relax, you'll get through this

Congratulations to you both - J. and Cynthia! Coming from someone who has a lot of trouble getting pregnant, you should count your blessings. I have one beautiful daughter (who only came to be because of charting and watching "the signs") who would absolutely love to have a sibling but might not because her parents have trouble conceiving. There is a book that is recommended to people who have trouble conceiving called "Taking Charge of Your Fertility". It's very informatinve and, although it even states in the book that you should not use it as birth control, it could help you see the signs you body gives you when you are most fertile....just don't have sex around that time.

Please don't think I'm trying to be negative - I just wanted to give a little advice from the other side of ther fertility coin!

Best of luck to you and your families!

J.,

My oldest was 9 when I found out I was expecting (that was after years of trying and doctors telling me it couldn't happen again). My baby girl was born when my oldest was 10... they seem to get along ok, but there is to big of a gap in age, but things happen. When my baby girl was just 6 mo old I found out I was especting again - turned out to be my little man. My baby girl and little man are only 15 mo apart. Yours will be a few months closer in age, but in time it gets a lot easier. The two little ones seem to learn a lot from eachother, they play together and keep eachother company when things around the house need done. We give them baths together, they seem to have fun splashing and trying to wash eachother. When they are apart (one at grandma/grandpa's) they ask for eachother... they are best friends. I won't lie, it took a little time to get use to there being 2 babies in the house... but to be honest it took time to get use to there being a baby in the house when my baby girl was born. All changes take time to get use to... but another baby is just something else to show the love you have for your hubby and to pass your love on to.

In June I will be bringing home my 4th bundle of joy... when I bring it (don't know sex yet) home I will have a 13 yr old (who we don't ask to take care of the little ones), a 3 year old and hopefully my little man will be 2 (his birthday is 5 days before my due date... I'm preying that I'm not in the hospital on his birthday). I won't lie and say I'm not scard... cause I am. But I love my hubby and my kids, which I love the one I'm carring too. I cried when I heard it's heart beat, when I saw the first glimps of it on an ultrasound and felt it's first movement. All loving parents no matter how much they plan for or try for a child are scard - and that fear can be shown in many ways including lashing out at the ones you love and can cause issues with the carring and delivering of the baby.

This one has been my hardest... I had my galbladder removed last year, and they were complications during that whole deal. I think some of my current issues are because of that. I'm just trying to do things a little slower and not getting upset if I don't get everything done right away... I worry about the importand things and if need be wait till tomorrow or the weekend to work on the other stuff. My hubby has been very helpful also... he carries the little ones up to bed since I can't, moved the washer and dryer from the basement to the 1st floor bathroom so I don't have to do the stairs as much and many other things. Lean on your man for a little while - I know it can be hard to do, but you two are partners... ask him and let him help.

I don't now much about the RLS and if anything can be taken for that without hurting the baby... your doc should be able to answer a few questions about all that.

Please take care, enjoy your little ones and I hope you can find the joy of expecting again.

J.

Hey.. I sympathize with you. I just found out I am pregnant again with my 3rd child. I have been stressing all week myself. I didnt plan on having anymore. Good luck, drop me a line if you want to chat. C.

Hi J.,
I read that you have RLS. Man what a pain. I got that when I was pregnant with my duaghter. It never went away like the told me it would. It drives me almost nuts. It used to be really bad at night and not so much in daytime. Now its all the darn time.
I take a hot bath with lavendar salts and that seems to calm mine for the night.
I don't know what I would do in your shoes. I am just not ready for another baby. I think if someone told me I was having a nother right now I would totally freak.
I work full-time, go to school part-time, and I have a 21/2 year old daugher. A husband that helps only when he feels like it or he wants to show off to his family about what a great dad and husband he is. RIGHT!!!
Hang in there and I wish you well. Good luck.

I had restless leg syndrome with my second until I read on one of the pregnancy websites that a major cause of that during pregnancy is lack of calcium. I drank more milk/ate more cheese and it helped immensely. I hope that helps you too. And next week should see us back in the 40s, so hopefully that will help you out in the car and all. It's frustrating when you're super toasty and the rest of the family is ice cold, isn't it?! Best wishes to you. Congratulations on your surprise pregnancy. I'm sure your husband understands. : )