New Friends Merging

I don't think that her friends would understand why she's hurt. She introduced them. They would think that she wanted them to be friends. If she tells them that she is hurt not to be included, they could think that she is needy and clingy. I doubt that she is, but they could perceive it that way.

She should continue to do things with them separately like before she introduced them. Then maybe at some point, all three can do things together. If they feel like she's upset at them for pairing off, they may not feel comfortable seeing her again, and that would be a shame.

Dawn

i don't get it. the people who just met and hit it off nicely are not allowed to be friends outside of their friendship with your niece?
khairete
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I get the hurt, but that's her issue, and she should not make it theirs. It's okay for them to explore their relationship without her. This doesn't mean that they won't all get together from time to time, but this is an individual relationship blooming, and it needs air to breathe. They'll be back. Oh, wait--they haven't actually gone anywhere. They're not ditching her to get together. They're not hiding it from her.

If you had introduced your niece to a great guy (or gal, however that needs to work) and they hit it off instantly, would she make sure that you were around every time they got together? Nope. But it would certainly make for more enjoyable family gatherings.

I had a friend like that once. When ever she met any of my other friends, it was like she tried to steal them away from me. Almost like a jelous boyfriend. Well, come to find out, all of my other friends couldn't stand her, but were friendly with her just to make me happy. I would dig a little deeper, is it two girls, a boy and a girl, is one of them single or have no kids and maybe is looking for another friend who is also single and has no kids so they could do more stuff that married people or people with kids have to get a babysitter for? I would tell her to talk to each of them after they have went out, ask them if they had fun, and get a feel for maybe the reason first.
I can also say that my BFF wasn't my BFF at first, we had a mutual friend and all got together several times but her and I are like female soulmates. So if it does come down to that, tell her that even if it seem that they seem to be great friends, doesn't mean that she is just out of the picture. Yeah, I think it's rude for them to do that infront of her, but maybe one of them is the type of person who tries to befriend everyone, and the other one was just trying to be nice.

I totally get why she is hurt, makes perfect sense! However, what's she going to say to her friends that won't make her sound needy or petty? I don't think there's anything she can do about this, other than get used to it and try to make plans with the both of them more so that they can get used to having a group of friends! Sounds like fun, once she gets over the initial jealousy. :)

They should have included her just to be nice. Don't think it was right. I mean if they got in touch with each other several days later, I would probably feel a bit different. However, to make plans in front of you and not include you is just not nice.

Probably not. You can't force people to be good friends with you, and if they like each other more, they have a right to explore that friendship.

Nope, she should just take from them what they are able and/or willing to give, and if she wants closer friends, seek them elsewhere.