My Wild 3 Year Old

Hi J., not sure if this would work in your situation but stranger things have happened. Try telling her you don't use those kinds of words and if she has to say them that she MUST go to her room to say them. Tell her it is only ok in that room. When she feels the urge or need or whatever to say it she'll go in her room, say it, and now that she's got your "approval" the word will lose its appeal. We tried this with my son when he was younger and wanted to "explore" certain body parts. In Home Depot, in the grocery store, etc. Our pediatrician told us it's normal and common and to not discourage it or make him feel bad about it but that it's not polite to do so in front of everyone else. Once we told him he "could" do that, he went up to his room a few times (quite embarrassing to know what he was up to and he was completely ok with it!)and then he stopped. It lost it's appeal, it's power, etc. Hope it helps. Maybe it isn't the best advice, but at least something to think about.

Hi J.,
When my children were little we used to keep a chart on the kitchen wall, every day they would get a star next to their name if they got a good report from daycare/school and if their behavior was also good at home. We incorporated it into a chore list, even the youngest used to have to pick up her toys. At the end of each day we would count up the number of stars they had and they (the children)would write it on the chart. Then at the end of the week we would tally up all their stars. Each star was worth 5 cents, so at the end of the week sometimes they had a dollar, or more. Then we would give them the total amount they had earned for good behavior to with it what they wanted. They quickly learned that when they used innappropriate behavior they wouldn't get their star or their five cents. We made a big deal about it each time we walked past the chart, like oooh Josh has 4 stars already this week, good job! I wonder what he is going to do with his money this week. This worked well for me, and it continued until my kids were preteens, we just upped the amount of money they got for each star. Now my 20yr old who has moved out still says, geeze I wish it was as easy as earning stars with you mom lol.

Money does work good... Give her a jar with her name on it. When she says the word, take a coin out... when she is good, let her put a coin in. Some times that will work. Time out is good sometimes. You can try thowing out toys too... Then when they throw a tantrum, let them throw it.... a few suggestions.