My Son Refuses to Go #2!!!!!!!!!! - Tampa,FL

Updated on May 21, 2008
L.W. asks from Tampa, FL
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Hello, my son who is 2 turning 3 at the end of the month is refusing to have a bowel movement on the potty. We have mastered going pee pee on the potty and I was able to get him to go #2 2days in a row, but recently he has completely bailed! He cries that his booty hurts, but i know it is because he needs to go potty. Yesterday he ran around the house saying "poo poo mommy poo poo". I said "let's go to the potty" then he would run away from me. He did that 4 times. Then when I sat him on the potty he totally freaked out. I dont understand it, he was doing so good! I am getting frustrated.
I looked in my baby book and it said that I should leave him alone and give him a pull up to poop in until he is ready.
So I DID! After the struggle i have him a pull up and walked away. He immedately went behind the chair to do his business ( that is his "spot") I have even put a small potty behind the chair, but nope! He just does not want to poop on the potty yet or should I say ANYMORE!!
And when I change his pull up he demands to see his poo poo. Lately I will take the poo poo and dump it in the toliet so he gets the idea that is where it goes.
Any advice or suggestions are appreciated! My daughter was soooo diffenent. She was so much easier and I know they tend to be!

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So What Happened?

After completely letting my son take charge of his potty training he finally deciced he wanted to "poop on the potty". 1st I left him alone. If he wanted to go in the pull up fine. I did not say anything just handed him one. I no longer forced the issue. Just accepted what he was comfortable with doing.
2nd I made him go get them himself when he had to go. I told him I could not help him go in the pull up, only the potty. 3rd after a few weeks of that then I made him clean his booty and throw it away. 4th after a few weeks of that and the pull ups ran out, he decide that was no fun and he wanted to go in the potty. He saw me going and after my 6yr old daughter and I did a dance around the house and I got a treat (nutty buddy). THen my daughter went and she got a treat.He wanted one so bad! I let him have a tiny taste. Once he had a piece of the chocoalte in his mouth, that was it! He ran to the potty and went poop! He was so happy. We did a dance and he got his own treat. I told him his poo poo went to the poo poo party and we can all dance (thanks mamasourse).
Now it is going on the 3rd week and no accidents. NONE!!
Thanks for everyones advice, especially the poo poo party one :)

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B.S.

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Hi L.. I am writing this thru my sister's mamasource account because I had the same exact problem. My son who is now 4 did the same thing. His doctor said to let him go in a pull up and make him change it. Tell him it is ok to go in the pull up, but he has to clean it up because you will not help him. I put my son in an empty bath tub and gave him wipes and a bag. He would go thru a million wipes and get poop everywhere!! After he was done ( it took a while) I would soap him up and rinse him off then bleach the tub. I told him I could only help him on the potty because the doctor said so. It took a short time and eventually I found him on the potty pooping on his own!!! I also told him that when he poops on the potty, his poop goes to a poop party with all the other poops!!! I also told him it wasn't nice to
not let his poop miss all the fun at the party. We struggled for a long time with this poop issue, the hurting booty and all! Now he is a poop champ! If you have any questions, post it to my sister and she will forward it to me (I live in Sarasota and don't get the same questions as her). My name is Brandy and good luck!

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D.O.

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Hello: Is just alright, you are doing good, my son Diego did the same thing he is five and have special needs but after one year of taking him to the bathroom, sitting and waiting he will not do it, I will put his pull up and star all over again at all times of course I have the time since I stay at home, he finally went pipi, but not #2 after a while he will
sit on the toilet and did it but he will jump real fast after and want to see it go down,like he was scare of what was coming out of his body,and very important he need it to flush and wipe him self, I guess to feel in control, of what was making him scare! is different for everybody he will do it eventually, I took off the pull ups and use underwear, it was a disaster but it obligates him to sit, since he does not like to be dirty!!! Patients and Good Luck!!

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T.C.

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Sounds to me like your doing the right things. Maybe he just isnt fully ready, or perhaps he is scared of the potty for some reason. I would just think back to when he went #2 before, and try to figure out what is making him so upset about it now. Potty training isnt as easy as they make it out to be, so be patient and good luck!

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M.S.

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Hi L.,
I stumbled across this and wanted to see if you have had any success since you posted this? I am going through almost identical issues with my 2yr old daughter. I, however, DO know why she is afraid to go I just don't know what step to take next. She was doing a wonderful job on the potty until she became constipated. She tried to go on the potty and it hurt her. Now she is terrifed to go poop on the potty and will ask me to change her panties and give her a diaper to go poop in. She will literally hold it all day. Any advice would be good.

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