Hi my daughter just turned a year old. Lately she has been screaming on the top of her lung. She mainly does it when she doesnt get her way. Which is most of the time, she is into everything. Help me, how do I stop these temper tandums?
Hi E.,
I actually just read a really good article about temper tantrums. (my daughter will be 1 next month and is already starting to throw tantrums when she doesn't get her way)Anyway, it gave me some ideas of how to handle these, so maybe it will help you too.
http://www.babycenter.com/refcap/11569.html
I agree with Tyanna H.'s response. I noticed that when I ignore my 15 month old's tantrums, he stops immediately!!
I think this is something that every parent has to go through. The way I handled it was to try distracting my son from what he wanted but couldn't have. Also, if it was a matter of how he was trying to get something, rather than whether he got it, I always made sure to only give him what he wanted after he calmed down. It's just a frustration over the inability to communicate their needs. So, if you try to help her communicate her needs in a more positive way, it should help. Even at a year old, you can teach her to point or something, calmly, rather than to scream over not getting it. In the meantime, there will be a few more screaming matches for you to deal with, I'm afraid.
Share with her, and share what things you can with her that are yours.
She is learning what is hers. Share what is YOURS with her.
Teach her that it is okay to share what isn't hers
even if it it something she shouldn't have (like your keys or something). You cannot stop tantrums once they start, but you can eliminate most of them if you can see things on her level. See what it is that she is upset about. Try to understand what it is that she REALLY wants, and let her see it/smell it/ even touch it before you take it away- as long as it doesn't hurt her. let he know you understand what it is that she trying to say/express and chances are, she will have less tantrums!! Good luck. :)
My son is three and he also screams alot. He has an older sister that is almost 15 and an older brother that is 12. I think at first he started yelling to be heard over the older kids. Now it has become a habit to get his way. Of coarse he does not always get his way and I think he is starting to realize the screaming is not helping. I think they just need to know you are listening and in time they realize they don't need to yell.Good luck.
Keep her safe but don't react to her tantrams. If you react then she is in control. Do your best to get her to calm down if you aren't clear on what she wants. If you know what it is and the answer is still no then try to explain why. If she still continues to scream or won't listen to what you are saying then walk away.
