My Daughter - Tuscaloosa,AL

Updated on March 13, 2010
N.M. asks from Tuscaloosa, AL
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When my daughter started school her first school was Northington Elementary and she had several complaints saying she would cry and run away from the classroom. They also said she was afraid to speak in front of the class. So when she started first grade she was transfered to another school named Southview Elementary she was an A-B honor an student, she learned to speak in front of the class and she was always getting recognized by the principal and other teachers for being so well behaved. Now since we moved she was rezoned back to Northington and her grades are suffering. She's getting complaints of not being very attentive they've tried to tell me that she may have a disorder in which I don't believe. What can I do? I don't want my child to suffer any longer.

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R.D.

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It sounds to me as though her teacher(s) or principal have a problem themselves. How can she do so well in another school, now back to old one and this!! It sure doesn't make sense to me.
When my son was in grade 7 he had this teacher that used to call me every chance she got. He was a trouble maker, he wouldn't listen and on and on it went. Finally she caught me in a bad mood and I simply said to her "you don't like Donny" do you? She said I didn't say that. I said "no" because you can't. I went on to say to her that if she didn't like him, he in turn would not like her, he would sense this. After this she quit calling. The following year he got the Highest Achievement Award. So there is one teacher against the other. I would go into the school, "ask permission" to sit in on the class and see whats' going on. I don't know if your year end ends in June or not as ours' does, if not I would definetly go directly to the school.
Have her checked by a Specialist (I don't think, you need to worry) just to satisfy those who think they know it all. If you are a young parent as well, you will find that they will try and manipulate you into something. Don't fall for their games, check it out yourself.
I wish you the best of luck, been there myself!!

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R.W.

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I liked Rita's response.

I had staff say that my son had a "bad attitude" etc, but they were proved wrong. They had antagonized him. Now everyone says what a sweet kid he is.

Try to get your daughter to tell you what she doesn't like about the class or school. If she can't or won't talk about it, try sitting in on the class, and hanging out at recess, to see if you can find out. If the school doesn't believe that she was happy and successful at the other school give them the names of people they can talk to at the other school or ask for a sort of letter of recommendation from her former teacher...
If they realize it is really not HER but something in their own school, they may be more cooperative in finding out the problem.

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A.R.

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N.,
In my opinion and in this case, the problem is either the teacher or the school.
Unfortunately, there are wonderful teachers and others who should not be in the field. It would be good if you talk to her teacher first and then with both, she and the principal together; start from there, if you see any of them cannot help you or give you a straight and logical answer, you will now immediately what is the problem, and you will have to take your little one to another school .
I don't believe in "behavioral disorders" most of the time those are excuses. Your daughter is OK, stand up for her, and don't let this kind of things ruin your daughter's love for learning...
Good Luck
Alejandra

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L.M.

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Find out from the school board if you can have her transferred back to Southview. They may allow her to go there if you provide the transportation.

If that's not a possibility, try to arrange a meeting with both of the school principals. Bring along her progress reports and explain the situation and see what can be done to help your daughter suceed.

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D.B.

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Go to school and find the mean girls. They are there, somewhere, trust me. They were there in first grade and still there when your daughter went back. Or watch the movie with her and hope she will be moved and tell you. Children are often embarassed to tell their parents if they are being bullied. They fear they will look like losers in their parents' eyes. Be her hero.

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