My 1 Year Old Is Starting to Nuzzel and Bite My Boobs.

I don't have any advice for you on the biting thing, but it sounds kind of normal.

As for the shower, to me each shower is a celebration of the individual baby...so have at it! No matter what, there are always things you are going to need or to replace or that seasonally are different. I don't think it's tacky at all. Particularly with babies as in life, people will always have their opinions of what you should do and shouldn't...if they think badly of you for having another shower, ignore them! If you want one, have it! They are fun, after all!

-M

I'd say yes, it's perfectly normal that your son is wanting breat fed; I'm sure he senses the milk. Whether you want to nurse him or not is something you could discuss with your doctor. He'll know of any risks during pregnancy. I'd keep in mind, though, that if you want to nurse the next baby, it might create real jealousy problems if your oldest son still considers your breasts HIS.

As far as a shower, I've been to showers for 2nd, 3rd, 4th, even 5th or 6th babies. It is not tacky. If you have all the gear and toys you need, you could have a shower with a theme. Diapers are an obvious one, but you could also do books (everyone brings a favorite children's book), bathtime (baby wash, shampoo, powder, Vaseline, diaper cream), mealtime (bottles, dishes, baby food), ask everyone to bring their best piece of advice or sanity saver (a book on child raising that they use all the time, or a video that quieted their toddler, or just their stories of parenting), or get everyone together to tie or sew a quilt or fleece blanket.

I would say it's normal. My daughter nursed up until the beginning of June, she was 2 years 4 months. I found out in late May that I am pregnant. She stopped nursing on her own stating "I don't like it." Dr said the change in breast milk related to pregnancy is no longer pleasing to her. She has tried a few times since then to nurse, and I let her try, but after a couple of sucks she gets up, covers me up, states "I don't like it" and asks for water or milk.

As for another baby shower, it's personal decision. If you're already questioning if it is a little tacky then you might have your answer. If a friend or family member volunteer to hold a baby shower for you then maybe you could make it a theme party: request that those who attend bring as a gift their favorite childhood book; or 1 cute baby outfit; or their favorite animated movie; or the cutest stuffed animal they can find; or start a collection...each bring a piece of a train set... Just ideas.

Best to you and your expanding family!

From what I've read, there's no good connection between continuing to BF and miscarriage. If your miscarriages were from preterm labor, it would be a worry, but generally not a big one. That's just my opinion after what I've read... But I'm not in your situation. So based on what I mentioned, I would just give him the boob when he's nuzzling because he probably wants/needs that comfort.

I nursed my daughter throughout my pregnancy with no problems. I'm still occasionally nursing her and she's 2 1/2. I love nursing them together! And it was so nice to have her as a "pump" when I would become engorged.

As for the baby shower... Lots of people think it's tacky. I know my great aunt would. I ended up having one, but I called it a baby "sprinkle". I didn't need any big stuff like car seats or bed sheets, but some of the stuff I had from my first daughter was a little worn from use, and I planned on using cloth diapers for my second, and didn't start until my first was a toddler, so I needed the smaller sized stuff. It wasn't a full-fledged shower and had a smaller guest list. I ended up getting a lot of redundant stuff like blankets and onesies... not many people cared to buy the cloth diapers.

It's definitely not necessary to have another party, but maybe you could just have a small get-together to celebrate the coming of another child. Just make it clear that you don't expect the traditional "shower" of gifts or whatever expectation you might have.

I can't help you w/ the milk question.

the shower thing...I think it depends on the approach. if it is a small shower w/ close friends and they do it for you. no, not tacky. If you throw it for your self, and invite the world, yes, tacky. I have been to 2nd showers, and for one there were 5 of us, we took her to lunch and all pitched in for a double stroller. For another her 2nd was a girl. So, she got all this girl stuff. I had a shower for my 3rd...She was an oops-I had given everything away. I only wanted basics and hand me downs. it was small, and I got lots of hand me downs-it was perfect! and hopefully, not tacky!

its totally normal, that's his comfort zone because you did breastfeed. just let him snuggle you instead of actually feeding and it will satisfy his need for closeness. my two year old still sticks his face inbetween my breasts just for the smell i think, and he hasn't nursed in quite a few months(i stopped for the same reasons you did, fear of miscarriage again).
by the way, each baby deserves a shower. if its another boy, its called a "sprinkle" because you don't need as much stuff, mostly just necessities and probably a double strolller lol!!!! but they all deserve their own welcoming party. my boys are 23 months apart, and my husband and mom threw the second shower themselves and we got pretty much all we needed in the way of diapers for at least 6 months. good luck and spend as much time with your big boy as you can before little brother comes along.....

It isn't true that breastfeeding will take nutrients away from the fetus... If you decided to restart breastfeeding, you would probably want to increase your calorie intake a bit. Breastfeeding while pregnant is perfectly safe for most women; if you are concerned you should speak to your doctor, and maybe a lactation consultant as well. There are many reasons for miscarriages, and breastfeeding may not be a risk factor for you. I am currently 15 weeks pregnant, and am still nursing my 2 year old son, as I know that there are still health benefits as well as emotional benefits to be had. As far as the baby shower, I don't think that it is tacky at all. I think every birth and every baby deserves to be celebrated! Best of luck to you! :)

E.,
Congratulations! I have 2 boys also. I nursed my oldest until I was 4 months pregnant. I think they say the danger of miscarraige is in the first trimester, which you have alreay past, so that is a good thing. However given your situation, you can never be too cautious. I would get some professional advice, talk to your doctor, or read up on it. Yes, it's perfectly normal for him to want his milk. I'd give some time in between so that he has time to adjust to the idea that someone else will be at his mother's breast. Otherwise, you'll have both boys nursing at the same time.

Biting you is unacceptable. Let him know that. Since you are pregnant it may be wise not to nurse him since you will be nursing the new baby and he will/may get jealous that the new baby is taking his place with you. Many children try to go back to baby like behavior when a new baby arrives. Just let him know he is a big boy now and doesn't need to nurse like a baby. It probably would be a good idea to speak to his peditrician.
My son and daughter in law are having their second son too and she wanted a shower, but some say it really isn't considered right to do a shower for a second child unless there has been a long time in between or the baby is a different sex. We are going to have instead a welcoming baby party with option to bring diapers and/or gift card for additional special needs.
Good luck and congratulations.
E.

Congratulations on your pregnancy! I'm not too sure about the nuzzeling, but I do have a recommendation about the baby shower. My friend has 2 daughters, so the first pregnancy she had a Baby Shower, then with the second pregnancy, she had a Baby Sprinkle. It was a really cute theme invite since the older sibling had lots of clothes to share, but she still needed new items for the second baby.

Good luck!

I don't know much about the first question, but as far as having a shower for your second one, it is not tacky at all. There are some things that can go around, but others cannot... such as diapers, formula (if you use it),etc. And some things you now need two of, or double of, like a double stroller, two car seats, two beds, two sets of bedding, etc.

Time to wean him. I've heard that breastfeeding while pregnant takes away nutrients from the fetus so I wouldn't risk it. He's had plenty of breast milk and one year old is the perfect age to wean.

i think it's totally normal..my son is 3 and tries to get at my boobs and we quit bfing months ago..yep i went to 3..might be good if he nurses might help get your supply up?
my son will suck on my arms..trying to get him to stop..doesn't do it as much these days but still tries.