Multiple Birth Child with Behaviour Issues

Just a couple ideas:

Try putting his clothes in the dryer for a few minutes and then tell him they will be nice and warm/cozy if he puts them on really quick (my 4yo loves this on a cold morn).

Use pictures velcroed on a chart (hang on a wall or doorknob). The pictures should show each item of clothing individually and can be stuck on the chart in the order he wants to put them on. As he does each one he can take off the pic.

My SIL uses a reward system. She pays her twins a quarter each if they can get dressed for school in the time she sets. Works great for them.

Wow! You must be busy! Sorry you're dealing with so much. I have 2 boys (6 & 3), though I swear, when they fight (which is a lot) it feels like I have 4! :)

Anyway, I've been going through this with my 6-year-old too. Mornings are so rough! One of them has a tantrum pretty much every day! (Today was my 3-year-old.) Gets so exhausting!! But I give my son a choice - do you want to get dressed or brush your teeth first? I give him LOTS of praise for following directions and doing things on his own and I am working REALLY hard to stay calm and not lose my temper when they act that way. It's been slow going; he keeps testing his limits, but it's slowly getting better. Positive reinforcement!! Good luck!

My oldest, who is now 5 1/2, had 'oldest child syndrome' :) where he just got used to us doing everything for him, and boy did we pay for it when he got older and we expected him to do things like get dressed by himself. We set up a chore chart for him, and he got to put a gold star sticker up when he finished a chore. At first his chart consisted of 'put on underwear', 'put on socks', 'put on jeans', 'put on shirt', etc and he got so excited about the chart and putting his sticker up that he got dressed very quickly.

Something to try, instead of wanting to beat your head into the wall. :)

I'm sorry that you are having that problem with him, I know that it can get really tiring!!!

I would walk away and let him throw his fit and just ignore him and then maybe he will figure out that it is not buging you anymore. If that would not work I would call and talk to the Dr. about what you can do.

I hope that it will get better for you!

Sounds to me like he might want a little extra attention. You could try to give him (and all the other boys) some one on one time. You will need help, so do this when there is someone to entertain the other boys. I would start with 1/2 hr per child. You can tell them that this is -----'s time and that they(the other kids)need to leave you alone. This will make the boy you are with feel special. When your son begains to act up again remind him of that time you share and tell him that you love him but he now needs to help you by getting himself ready. I don't know what special needs they have but a 5 year old should be able to grasp that they need to help the family. Another way to get him to cooperate with you is to give choices. IE: "Are you going to put on your shirt or pants first?" "Are you going to put on your shoes or coat first?" This will give him a sense of control, all 5 year olds need some control of thier life. I have twin girls and a son a little older. I have seen this kind of behavior too, it always comes form feeling left out or not special because they are one of many. Good luck with this, it may take a while but "this too will pass".
J.