I am 44 and I was pregnant. I did not plan it but also didn't prevent it. We wanted one and stop preventing it 10 years ago. I did not think it would happen anymore but we were thrilled when it did! At 12 weeks I miscarried. We are devastated. On top of that my hormone levels are still at 97.5. I feel like I'm going crazy. I'm sad, angry. I feel like I am going to explode. I work 4 10 hour days as a loan officer and my patience is just not there! Please help! Herbs, vitamins?? I just don't know what to do anymore! Now I definitely want a baby but I can't go through this again.
So it's been a while now. I am fine one day and crying the next but hanging in there. I actually had a Bo's basically tell me to get over it because we all have problems. I am doing my job and others so it is not like I'm sitting around crying. She is lovely! Anyway thank you for all of your comments and suggestions.
I got my first period and it has been 9 days and it feels like it is getting heavier every day. Is this normal? How long does it last??
Help!!
Go though the grieving process...I have had 6 miscarriages and each one made me more determined to keep trying. I grieved each and everyone and was not the best employee at the time either.
Be sad, be angry, be all those things you need to be to heal. And then, then see if you want to try it again.
BIG HUGS!!!!
Dear J.,
I am so very sorry for your loss. If you have not yet, please seek help from your doctor. You are grieving and going through hormornal changes. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers.
I'm do sorry for your loss.
I had 3 miscarriages before I had my son.
All I can suggest is that you take good care of yourself, grieve your loss and please discuss another pregnancy with your OBGYN.
Lots of women have babies at your age.
All the best.
Hang in there. :(
So sorry. Definitely see a specialist. See if you need progesterone once you get pregnant. You are fertile just after a m/c.
Take care of yourself. Your body has been through a lot. Talk to your OB and ask for a fertility specialist's name. Go have some testing done. Maybe you'll know why you lost the baby and if there is something they can do for you to help you carry to term.
I would continue to take your pregnancy vitamins for a good while. They will help your body get back to normal.
I am so sorry for your loss. I have had two miscarriages myself. This is so heartbreaking.
Even though I've been through this many times, I was in my 30's, its not the same. This is so much more than a miscarriage J.. This is all the fear of not knowing if you will ever have another. The best advice i can give you is to take some time off work. Have your husband take time off too. Even if its only one day to be together, take it easy. You need the rest, the affection, attention, and togetherness with your husband right now. God bless.
I'm sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what you are going through. You are in my prayers.
Please talk to your doctor about your feelings. I wish I could help you. I don't even know the pain you are in.
S.
I am so sorry to hear of your unfortunate news. I have had 5 miscarriages, with my last one being this past Dec. (I am 42 y/o). I really an especially tough time with the last one. As another responder posted, a ____@____.com helps to remove the pregnancy tissues and therefore helps to level out hormones a little quicker. I had to take a low dose of Zoloft (10 mg) with this past miscarriage b/c I felt so out of control of my emotions. Maybe this would help you also. Hugs to you!!
Can you take a few days off work? I felt sad, angry, and was still feeling morning sickness for a few weeks after my miscarriage. Give yourself time.
Sorry for your loss...
I had many miscarriages and got pregnant by surprise at 44 and I have one daughter from that pregnancy. Unless you have a d and c, it usually is just a waiting game for everything to expel and the hormones to get out of your system. You might try some natural progesterone cream to balance things out. Exercise is also helpful.
Hi J.,
I am so sorry for your loss. Please reach out to http://www.nationalshare.org/index.html. It is a wonderful online resource and community.
