Miscarriage

Hi M.,
I've had two miscarriages. The first I bled a little and it seemed to be over. The second was very painful, much more painful than when I was in labor with my first son (even with Pitocin). With the miscarriage I had a D&C and the doctor was unable to open my cervix all of the way so not all of what should have been removed was removed. The doctor said that I would pass what I should on my own. A few weeks later I wound up in the ER with horrible hemmoraging and pain that I cannot begin to describe. I had to have another D&C. It was emotionally the worst thing I have ever gone through. I would ask for an ultrasound to see if you are retaining anything. I don't know if you should be going through all of this still. Peace be with you.

Hello M..
Suggest chlorella and acupuncture.
I experienced a miscarriage late last summer, three weeks of heavy bleeding. The doctor some how missed it, but - of course - planned parenthood knew what was going on when I got there. they suggested a DNC (abortion) - which I saw as the absolute last resort. I upped the amount of chlorella I was taking (somehow it helps the body keep iron high) and I went to have acupuncture with a healer at Sojourn's in Westminster VT who, by default, ends up specializing in miscarriages. The bleeding stopped completely within hours.

I had never had acupuncture before: she faced a heat lamp on my belly and began inserting the tiniest of needles. I have a major anxiety around needles but there was nothing, barely any feeling as they went in. I meditated (typically not my style) and felt pretty amazing afterward.
New Chapter makes great chlorella in a pill - what I was taking at the time, but it is also available in liquid form and the mint kind is delicious in a large water bottle (my midwife suggested a tablespoon or two per nalgene like bottle).
This is not medical advice; I am not a medical professional; it is what worked for me though.
peace.

Sounds to me like you may need a D&C. I had a miscarriage at 6 weeks as well with my first pregnancy, so I feel your pain. I was not bleeding that much so they said a D&C would be easier on me both physically and emotionally because a full natural miscarriage could take a long time & you can bleed really bad with it, it can also cause a lot of pain.
I am so sorry for your loss! I don't want to say anything else because when people said things to me that they thought were comforting and acceptable it only made me feel worse and even angry! If I were you I would go ahead with a D&C if they feel you need one. Good luck and God bless! I will be praying for you.

You may request a vaginal ultrasound to make sure there isn't another baby in there. My sister lost one twin and the doctor was almost ready to do a D & C and decided to do an ultrasound...good thing. The other baby was in there and quite viable. Your counts should be dwindling, not staying strong. This is why I told you this story.
I am very sorry....miscarriages are hard.

I'm very sorry for your loss. I went through this three times and each time was more painful, both physically and emotionally. I had a lot of heavy bleeding and needed a lot of rest, but I don't believe that it ever lasted beyond 10 days. If you are worried don't hesitate to call your doctor because you never know if there is some sort of hemmorage or other complication occuring. Take it easy on yourself, your body and mind need time to heal.

I'm so sorry. This sounds exactly like how a friend of mine described her 7-week miscarriage, she said it was worse than labor. She says this went on for nearly two weeks; hopefully you don't experience the same thing. Definitely keep checking in with your doctor to make sure everything is all right. Did your doctor give you the option of having a D&C? It might be something to consider.

You really need to go see your OBGYN! You are tired because of blood loss. I hope all goes well.

I am sorry for your loss.
I have been through two miscarriages. The first was very much like you, I bled for about total of two weeks, just wanting it to be over. I suggest taking some Advil (you can take 4 - 800 mg - for a few days) every four or call the OB. The second, I decided to have a D&C and make things progress faster.

my thoughts and prayer are with you.
E.

Hi M.!!Have you had an ultrasound?Along with checking your quant levels he should have done an ultrasound to make sure you fully miscarry,unless he is waiting to see if your body does it on its own???You should also let him know you are in that much pain,maybe you need a D+C??(im not sure on the extent of you visit,but if he hasnt done an u/s i would definatly ask for one,in my oppinion)Im sorry you are having to go through this,but definatly let him know whats going on.Hang in there!!

M. - I am so sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage last summer at 10 weeks (the baby died at 7 weeks) and it just broke my heart. It still does.

In my experience, bleeding for a while after is totally normal, and it takes a while too for your hormones to go back to normal. I had an ultrasound (which you also should if you haven't) to make sure the the baby had fully passed and it showed that I had passed the baby but had most of the lining left (not a bad thing, as it reduces scarring to have it come out naturally). I ended up bleeding for a full month - it tapered a bit until 28 days after, and then got much heavier - I'm assuming it was my next period. Also, my basal temps didn't go back to normal until after that period, and my docs said it would take 4 to 6 weeks from the miscarriage for my hormone levels to stabilize. Everything my docs said was that this is normal and nothing to worry about. I did end up getting pregnant 2 cycles after the miscarriage, so everything went back to normal fairly quickly.

I also found the miscarriage incredibly physically painful, and it was a while before I stopped feeling so sore down there (at least a few weeks). However, I also had to induce the miscarriage with misoprostol, since it wasn't coming out on its own. I think that may have made it more intense.

I hope that helps, and good luck.

Hi M.,
I am so sorry for your loss. I have had three miscarriages and so I know how painful it can be, both emotionally and physically. It's not helped by the fact that a lot of times no one even knows you were pregnant, or if they did it wasn't real to them yet, so you often don't get the kind of support you need, but your loss is just as great as someone who lost a child in another way, or further along. As far as the bleeding, what I experienced with my first two was like a very heavy, crampy period, but only for about a week. With my third, I was further along, and ended up having to have a D&C because the bleeding continued after several weeks -- intermittently, but still bleeding. This can happen if you still have some tissue or something there, which could also account for the bloodwork showing high levels. I would check with your doctor if you are still bleeding heavily after a week. And also, be prepared emotionally, because the hormones adjust the same way they do after childbirth, so that, combined with grieving the loss of your baby, it can really knock you for a loop. The exhaustion is totally normal and understandable. I hope you can find time (and help) so you can rest -- your body will need it. I will be praying for you.

Your Body will still hink it is pregnant for a couple of weeks or so. It takes that long to get the hormone out of your body. and feeling tired is very normal, because you have lost alot of blood. I have 2 miscarriages and a still born, she was a big chubby healthy baby,that just had a cord accident, so I've experienced alot of loses. I now have 3 children and a new healthy 4 month old baby girl. so keep trying things get better. (i didn't say easier) just better!! take care and good luck !!

Katelyn's mom

I feel for you - I just had a miscarriage last weekend, I finally stopped bleeding yesterday. This was my second pregnancy too. It's nice to know that other people can be emotionally fine right now too, because I feel like I should feel worse and I don't.

As an answer to your question, I was told the hemorraging was filling up two pads in two hours. If your not bleeding that much then that's good. I would make sure to drink lots and lots of water and eat iron rich food. If you lose a lot of blood your body can't make it any faster, but your doctor could give you a transfusion. If you get light headed at all, lay down and call the doctor ASAP.

I had a lot of bleeding in my 7th week and was convinced I had a miscarriage. What else could it have been? I had been spotting for days and then it was like a full blown period but worse. It happened on a Friday and I called my doctor to tell him what was going on and he said it sounded like a miscarriage and scheduled an ultrasound for me on Monday. That weekend my husband and I grieved for our loss. On Monday at the ultrasound they found a beating heart and I have never been so shocked in my life. I was still pregnant. They found a hematoma that was causing the bleeding and also think there may have been a second embryo in there. Please have your doctor schedule an ultrasound for you to make sure that a miscarriage has actually taken place.

First, My heart goes out to you for your loss. I've had 3 miscarriages myself in first term and I could only have one baby. As for the exhaustion, that's normal and I see you have a 5 year old..( that would be exhausting right there) :-)
I had a little boy at the time who knew a baby had been coming and now wasn't, and asked a lot of questions that I had to explain. I would recommend you take the time to grieve the loss. At the time, I was younger and busy working fulltime ect, but I felt it later in life and depression hit me hard, because at the time I didn't acknowledge the loss within myself. The bleeding should have been taken care of when you had a post misscarriage D & C to be certain all of the remains are out so no infection can happen.Mosy OB-GYN's do this as a precaution, mine did each time. Do you have a fever? Can you take your temperature and see. If you have a temp., even a low grade fever can signal infection. The exhaustion can be helped by eating Iron rich foods to rebuild you back up, and to replace the loss of blood that may be causing some fatigue.
It's important that you rest at least a few days, and put your feet up. After 5-6 days the bleeding should have stopped completely, If not call your OBGYN right away. If you haven't had a D&C it would help to have one. This re-ajusts the uterus and gives it a "clean start" for next month. Mine referred to this as "resetting the clock".
Grieve the loss and honor your body, give it time to heal and allow yourself to cry. In a busy world we forget to nurture ourselves and feel. I hope soon this time passes and you feel better, but please take the time to rest and be good to YOURSELF!! Sometimes we Mom's forget to be as nice to ourselves as we are to our families and friends. Don't forget to honor you and honor your loss. Blessings and hugs for a speedy recovery. Let me know how you do. L.

M., not to make you nervous but I had a very similar situation happen to me and it ended up being an ectopic pregnancy. I had to have emergency surgery about two weeks after what I thought was a miscarriage because the bleeding wouldn't stop (my fallopian tube was about to burst I guess, which is life threatening). An ectopic pregnancy cannot be seen necessarily on an ultrasound so they can only tell if your hormone levels are staying high (meaning you are still pregnant, just not in the uterus!) Good luck! A.

Hi M.- I'm so sorry. I know how emotinally hard a miscarriage can be. I had one about two years ago, before the birth of my first child. It was SUCH an emotional roller coaster to find out you are pregnant and then to find out you are miscarrying. I ended up having a D & C so I never dealt with very much bleeding. They did an ultrasound to verify that I had indeed miscarried before the D & C. But as others have said, your numbers should be coming down so I would definitely have them do an ultrasound to see what is going on...Blessings to you during this time.

M.-
I am so sorry for your loss! I don't think it matters how long you've carried, it is still tremendously emotionally painful to miscarry. I had a miscarriage before my second son and bled for at least a week (maybe more). It is very typical for them to do blood work. They want to see that your HCG level is going down. I am pretty sure they will monitor you until you are almost 0. Just a side note to give you some hope in this time of sadness. I conceived my second son (now almost 6 months old) two months after I miscarried. Best of luck to you!

M. have you told your doctor> this is not normal. i think you might neeta dnc. . done. if it does not stop you relay have to go to the hospital ,at my selfa while ago and after 6 days. i went to the hospital . also try to buta pillow under your feet and try to get some rest for 2 days feet up . i wisch you luck
B.