Kid Crush

Updated on April 07, 2012
C.S. asks from Saint Louis, MO
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My 6 year old has a mad crush on Adam Miller #81 of the Wranglers hockey team. We live next door to his dad and we go to the game from time to time. My daughter plays for the Junior Wrangler's hockey team.

Of course we cheer him on at the game and watch/follow his scores. He is a good player and my husband will tell me how his recent game went. So there is some "Adam" talk in the house.

Well before Christmas, they had a skate with the players night after the game. We already knew she was going to skate with Adam, so we took her down there. Adam asked her if she wanted to skate and held her hand while they skated around the rink.

February rolls around and we are heading out to the game and she writes out a Valentine for Adam. She found our neighbor and chased after him and asked him to give the Valentine to Adam.

Last night her and I were leaving and she begged me to take her to the neighbor so he could take her down to see Adam. I tried to tell her he didn't have passes and that if he did he would have offered them to us. She knew he would take her, so she begged. I mean begged. Not "pretty please", but PLEASE MOMMY, PLEASE! You have to take me to see Adam". I gave in and took her to the neighbor and he walked us down there. Adam came out and shook her hand and she stood there and stared at him...didn't say a word. Even I felt a bit awkward. He even tried to ask her about the Junior Wranglers, but dead silence.

I know this crush is natural and I think it is really cute, but she is only six. She hasn't said she likes him, but it is so obvious. Is there any harm? I know she owns those feelings and I can't change it, but should I avoid the requests to meet up with Adam?

Of course I had a crush on Sean Cassidy (age give away) as a kid, but I couldn't get to him. It was totally harmless.

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So What Happened?

Adam will be moving to Croatia for the next hockey season. He will be missed...on to other crushes.

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M.P.

answers from Green Bay on

When my brother was in kindergarten he LOVED Vanna White. He even made my mom send her an invitation to his birthday party.

I think it is just an innocent kid crush. Something you will be able to taunt her with when she is older :-)

If it continues, just make sure Adam isn't bothered by it. How old is he (I am not familiar with the team)? If he is older, I am sure he is used to girls chasing after him and he might appreciate the innocence of a child's crush :-) I wouldn't worry about it...

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W.H.

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boy, did this bring back some memories! I used to have a major crush on a married neighbor named David. I was about 5. I used to run down to his house and knock on the door and ask his WIFE if David was home and could he come out and play? She would laugh and yell into the house, "David your girlfriend is here to play with you." I would just melt, I was his girlfriend!!!! He was so nice, he'd come out and play if he could, or explain why he couldnt. his wife would stand there and just smile at us. we moved away when i was six. just make sure Adam is cool with it, and dont worry, she'll be crushing on someone else soon!

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L.B.

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When my son was four he had a thing for Lea Michele from Glee. He wanted her to come to our house so he could tell her he "loved" her. When she was singing on the show we all had to be quiet so he could hear "his girl" sing. He is five now and has moved on to our neighbor who is turning six. Pretty funny stuff. Make sure you write it all down so you can remind her when she is 16, she will be mortified and you can giggle!

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K.M.

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My 5yr old has a crush on one of the teachers at his school - she often takes him out of the caar and puts him in during pick up/drop off and he "steals" her attention when he can. We are on campus often seeing that I am an officer of the parent teacher organization and he goes out of his way to get her attention. She knows about it, finds it too cute and "plays along" with him. Infact yesterday he saw her with her hair down and said "Oh, your hair is soo pretty down - how did it get so long?" She typically wears it in a pony or bun seeing she is a prek teacher. I agree that if this gentlemen is okay with it and can "have fun" with it and no feelings get hurt in the process it is just fine.

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S.H.

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Well what you can do is explain to Adam and that neighbor, so they don't get irked by it. I assume they don't, yet.
But if they start hiding from her/you... then LOL, you know they are being inconvenienced.

Maybe just explain to her that there is a time and a place, to visit people. People are busy and have things to do. Its not "polite" to just chase after people. She is 6, and can understand.
But her excitement gets the best of her.

S.S.

answers from Los Angeles on

High five on Sean Cassidy! I got my mom to buy a puzzle with the Hardy Boys on it and I remember leaning into the cart and kissing his picture. LMAO, can you imagine what my mom was thinking?! *ahem* I suppose you can. I had no means of actively stalking him, so my crush died out quickly.

My friend's granddaughter had a *huge* crush on my son. She was four or five and he was 15 or 16. My son grew a mustache and K said, "Nana, he's a *man*!" My son was less than thrilled. Yet again, it didn't last.

Pretty sure my own isn't the only history where these things end up staying completely innocent and fizzling into fond, silly memories.

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