I Need Help with My Hair

Ever since I have been going to Salon Cosabella in Broomfield, my hair has never been so healthy. I actually took my sister there last weekend and her hair was a frizzy mess. When we left, her hair was smooth, shiny and gorgeous. I just can't say enough about them. We see Jamie, Kristen or Tihana at the Arista location. They have Kerastase conditioning treatments that work wonders! They just opened the Arista location and they are running a bunch of promos. I saw an ad in Yellow Scene for 20% off any hair service.

Hi there, I am a cosmetologist and I would be concerned about your hair. Split ends are normal but not to the extent that you are explaining...You know your hair better than anyone. Do you regularly deep condition your hair? do you use professional products? get it trimmed regularly? The only reason I ask is, that could be contributing to the problem along with the perms. Any chemical service is damaging, its how you maintain it is what keeps it from getting out of control. If you do this for awhile and get regualr trims it should help, if not, it might be the way she is perming it, sorry to say. I would just tell her that you have seen a significant change in your hair and you would like to work with her to fix it, otherwise you might have to go somewhere else. Hope this helps.

I have had a perm since I was around 10. My hair holds a perm very well, so I usually only need one perm every 18 months. It sounds like you might want to wait as long as possible between perms and try a different brand of perm. You could also look at some conditioning treatments to help your damaged hair. I would contact a professional hair-stylist for a second opinion and see what they have to say. You could then go back to your family member if they think it is okay. Best of luck.

My suggestion would be to find someone who keeps your hair healthy, and tell your SIL that you love her, and will happily take her out to lunch (or some such so you can chat) but you found a stylist who specializes in very thin, damaged hair like yours and for the sake of your vanity (and your hair), you will be going there in the future. For diplomacy's sake, make your hair the problem rather than your SIL's technique.

Go to another salon, ask what kind of product you can use in your hair to keep it healthy. Explain to them that you're going to a different salon currently & feel that something isn't quite right, that your hair shouldn't be doing this. Hopefully just some good shampoo & conditioner will help you fix the problem.
If she's not doing the right job on your hair, it's okay to go elsewhere. It'll hurt her feelings but if her work is ruining your hair, better hurt feelings than a bald head! I hope you find the right salon & can salvage the hair you have now, & get it back to healthy soon. Once she's more experienced, maybe you can try her out again, but I'd stick w/the pros for now.

Hi HR,
First I totally understand your position. And your loyalty you have to her is very nice. It sounds to me as #1 she's keeping the perm solution on to long, #2 she isn't rolling your hair properly around the perm rods (hence the "joints"), and may be perming to frequently.

You need to be very careful as you may end up with less hair, that is severely damaged. My suggestions would be to tell her you are having these problems you spoke to her about & are not sure what exactly is causing them. And that you need her help. Next would be to stop perming for awhile. Just let her know you need to wait awhile so you can get your hair back to a healthier state. Also for your "thinness" I recommend Arbonne's "Thermal fusion scalp stimulator", I have seen it work wonders! Then a good hair mask to condition & repair your hair, my recommendation is Seasource detox hair mask. You can get details for these products at www.naturallylovely.myarbonne.com

You are very nice for trying to spare your SIL feelings & I feel this is a good solution to keep both you & her feeling good without hurting her feelings. But also as a professional she should be willing to fix any problems that have occured. Take care, G

Hello HR,

I am a licensed cosmetologist and have been for several years. You need to stop having her perm your hair with the product she has been using. She is overprocessing your hair. Their is no way to repair the hair that is already fried other then some protein treatments. And I would HIGHLY recommend that you do a few back to back sooner then later if you want to keep the hair you have. You should also wait a few more weeks then normal in between your perms if you can so that your already fried hair doesn't break or melt off more then it is or may be.

I am a strong believer in that your hair is your biggest accessory and when it doesn't feel or look good it affects you. You need to be happy with the way your hair is turning out and most importantly, like you stated, the health & condition of your hair. Unless you don't care about it breaking or melting off, which it sounds like is pretty close if not already happening. You need to either tell her that she needs to try a different perm for thin chemical process hair OR you need to go to someone else. The best way to get rid of the mess she created, unfortunately, is to cut it off.

Another school of thought is to only have her perm the roots if she has that ability and leave the already over processed part out of the rods. This isn't easy, but is possible.

By the way, your description is pretty accurate for destroyed hair from over chemical processing or using the wrong chemicals.

I hope this helps. You can email me personally if you have anymore questions. I would be more worried about you loosing what hair is left at this point then hurting her feelings.
Stay well,
C.

I think you've gotten some great advice, especially about telling your SIL that you've found someone who specializes in damaged hair, and making it more about your hair than her lack of skills. I would just like to add that in order to help your hair recover, I wouldn't wash it more than once a week, as it is so dry. Good luck. Remember that you aren't obligated to destroy your hair to spare her feelings, and you can do this in a kind way.