Help with My 3 Year Old - Holiday,FL

She is testing your boundaries! She's prob pissed that you sent her to daycare and this is how she is expressing her emotions. My oldest turned into the devil when she turned 3 in may, but what I have learned is positive reinforcement really helps. She can throw a tantrum like nobody's business, but before she gets to the boiling point I distract her with something. (hey lets draw a picture, play a game, go outside, etc..) It works! I am a SAHM to her and her 21 mo old sister and I'm 7 mos pg, I HAVE NO PATIENCE! but distraction really works.Believe me it would be so easy to say give her a beating, but c'mon, that really doesn't teach them anything at all. And I used to yell all the time! That doesn't work either. Completely ignore her bad comments and behavior. When my daughter says something nasty or rude I just look her straight in the eye and tell her how much I love her and give her a hug. She has no idea what to do so she hugs me back! They just want attention!! I can't say it enough, I know it's not easy but you can do it! There are some days I want to run away, kids can make you more crazy and pissed than you ever thought another human could make you feel! I am telling you she wants your attention! And honestly if you feel you give her tons of "positive" attention than maybe she has a chemical imbalance and she should see a dr. But I really doubt it. Good Luck!!!

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A.,
Can I lovingly say that you need to take control of your child. She is behaving fine at daycare, which means she knows right from wrong, and simply manioulating you because you allow it. PLEASE read the book,
"To Train Up A Child" by the Pearls. Ask her nicely and calmly to do something and she has 1 chance to obey or she will get punished. Then after pounished ask her calmly and politely to do the task, if she does not do it- she is punished again. l The idea is to be clear on what you expect, speak to her the way you want to be spoken to and then be consistant in FIRST TIME obediance or there is punishment. And always remaining loving and calm without yelling. Good luck!

Wow! Sounds like she needs a spanking and all of her toys put away! She needs to learn NOW that she needs to be respectful and helpful if that is what you expect from her. She needs to earn all her toys and all the extras she has in her room. I hope there isnt a TV in there!!!

I a "Nut Shell"...You are the Mommy and she is your kid. If you don't start disciplining her now, when she is a teenager she will be so out of control. I have 2 boys 10 and 3. My 3 year old tests me all day long. I don;t let him get away with anything..I pick my battles. But if he ever hit me or bit me, there would definitely be action taken. Don't let her rule you..you can do this!!! Now that my oldest is 10, all I have to do is look at him if he's doing something he's not supposed to do. He's not scared of me, but he knows the rules. Good luck!

If she is fine in school then you need to get firm with her at home and hold your ground. Set boundaries, give choices and if you don't know how to do this then take a parenting course called STEP. She does not respect your authority. Get this under control now before she gets older!