My 2 year old son is always hitting me and his father when he gets mad, and if we aren't in hitting range he will hit the dog. we have done time out and still countinue but its not working. we are the only people he hits. what can we do? thank you
My best friends son did the same thing. I suggested to her that every time he hits make sure u say "OW" and put a very sad face on like you are about to cry. He may not realize that he is hurting you, so make sure you tell him "You hurt Mommy" and do the cry face. Make sure he doesnt think this is a game but a serious thing...hope it helps
HELLO, I DEAL WITH THIS EVERYDAY AND THIS IS FOR ATTENTION FROM YOU OR YOUR HUSBAND. YOUR CHILD IS GOING ABOUT IT THE WRONG WAY AND THE CHILD DOESNT CARE ABOUT THE NEGATIVITY THAT HE GETS BACK. I WORK FOR A SCHOOL DISTRICT AND THE BEST THING YOU CAN DO TO STOP THIS IS PLACING THE CHILD IN A TIME-OUT AND IF THE CHILD GETS UP TAKE THE CHILD BACK. ITS REPETITION HERE. WHEN THE CHILD DOES STAY THERE AFTER A FEW MINUTES (1-2 MIN TO BEGIN)BUT NOT LONG PERIODS OF TIME (THIS LOSES THE BATTLE AND A CHILD OF THIS AGE WILL FORGET WHY THEY ARE REALLY THERE) AND YOU ASK FOR AN APOLOGY AND THEN YOU TELL THE CHILD YOU ARE NOT GOING TO ACCEPT THIS BEHAVIOR FROM HIM. LOOK HIM DEAD IN THE EYES. YOU KEEP DOI
NG THIS THE CHILD WILL STOP. BUT THIS HAS TO BE DONE ALL THE TIME FROM YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND. THE FIRST TIME YOU GIVE IN OR LET THE CHILD DO THIS BEHAVIOR WITHOUT THE TIME-OUT AND APOLOGY WILL JUST CAUSE THE CHILD TO DO THIS LONGER AND THEY WILL SEE THEY WON. ANOTHER THING IS - DONT LET THE CHILD KNOW THAT YOU ARE MAD OR ANGRY - THIS WILL ALSO HELP HIM FEED INTO THIS FOR MORE ATTENTION AND REACTION FROM YOU. PRAISE HIM WHEN HE DOES GOOD - PLAY BALL FOR 5 MINUTES AND TELL HIM YOU DID GOOD AT (WHAT HE DID ) AND HE WILL SEE THIS IS THE ATTENTION HE WANTS. NOT THE OTHER - IT WORKS.
I am currently in the same situatation with my son. I just had a baby and I think my son is asking for more attention. He only hits me and the baby not my husband. Anyway, after reading all the advice I agree with Lonna's suggestions. I am also a teacher and I know that those are the best methods to use. I have a hard time being calm when my son hits me because it hurts my feelings. Its really hard to do the right thing every time but you have to be consistent. Hopefully my son and yours will stop this soon so that we can go back to our normal routines. I just wanted to let you know that your not the only one with this problem so hang in there. Just think we still have to make it thru the terrible two's!!!
I had this same problem with my son when he was 2-3. Maybe this link will help shed some light on why they do it and how to deal with it.
You could try to direct his anger of hitting toward something else. Give him a "tantrum pillow" or something of that sort that when he's mad he can go to his room and hit that so he gets out his agression without hurting you or himsself.
